I just don't feel happy anymore

[clueless_one]

I don't feel happy with my life anymore. I am getting bullied in school, my parents can't stop stressing me out in my school work, have other family problems which effect my school work and also relationship problems. I also feel i'm not liked in my school, everyone calls me popular but I don't feel popular with how i'm treated in school.

I can't be myself in school and talk about things I like such as the sport I enjoy. I can't talk about my favourite teams playing without anyone commenting on it being a gay or boring sport or about the all teams I like being crap or gay. Due to this I feel isolated from everyone, I end up not talking about anything at all.

My parents stress me out too much with my school work. I'm already stressed out enough with my school work and problems in school and they don't help. My mom also talks to me like i'm her counsellor about my dad annoying her in things. This also affects my schoolwork and my grades.

With my relationship problems, I want to feel accepted and liked in my school but it just makes things worse. I feel that me being liked with others will only come when I am liked by a girl I like.

I had asked out a girl previously who had said yes but lied about wanting to go out with me. I moved on but the news had passed around our year and the girl I now like found out. She had been showing me signs of liking me. Just recently I was going to do something which just made things more worse.

I had asked a girl who knows the girl I like to find out who the girl I like likes. She came back to me and told me she likes someone else. I then told her to tell the girl I like that I like her and this person I asked then told me the girl I like is going out with the guy she likes. Before finding out she is going out with someone else, in class which the girl I like is in, a guy asked me if I like the girl I like. I said yes and whenever she looked at me, she smiled at me. The day after (I didn't have class which the girl I like is in) the girl I like and her friends were staring at me (they were staring at me before the girl I like found out I like her). The day after, I had class with the girl I like and she hovered around me a lot. She placed her hands on the desk and almost leaning forward towards me while she was speaking to me. The day after this happened (again in class) the teacher was giving out our exams back and the girl I like (who was sitting behind me) moved up next to the desk the teacher was placing the exams which were called out (which was next to me). Instead of taking the exam and moving back to her spot, she hovered around and then said "Why am I standing?" and moved back to her seat. When she moved around the classroom, she walked passed me and brushed her arm against me (maybe on purpose). She also walked close to me when she moved back to her seat after standing next to the teachers desk. Today, I caught the girl I like looking/staring at me when looking at the teacher speaking. (It looked like she was trying to look to the teacher and glance at me).

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If you don't mind me asking, how exactly are you being bullied?

[clueless_one]

If you don't mind me asking, how exactly are you being bullied?

People call the sport I like gay. I can not be myself and talk about really the only thing I am able to talk about. That and people commenting on the teams I support in the sport. Lets just say they don't accept me being unique. This and also people making fun of me in almost everything (mostly because I like the sport). I've found the first girl where i'm from who likes the sport I like meaning I could talk to her about the sport and also other things. This is the girl who from someone else I was told she likes someone else. I'm now stuck with people making fun of the sport I like thus me being isolated and alone not being able to talk at all.

[Living For Love]

Would you mind if I ask what sport is that?

[clueless_one]

Would you mind if I ask what sport is that?

research my signature :rolleyes:

[Living For Love]

Football... your friends think football is a gay sport? Sweet Jesus...

[clueless_one]

Football... your friends think football is a gay sport? Sweet Jesus...

aussie rules...

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Wait a second ... they're calling FOOTBALL a gay sport? I mean not only is calling a sport "gay" stupid, but football?

But anyway, I don't see how that's "bullying". Seriously if what they say bothers you tell them to knock it off. If they don't then you need some new friends, because you're letting them insult you.

[Mynick]

Really football is gay to them? You should tell them to not come to Portugal then, because according to them we are all gay.

Wait a second ... they're calling FOOTBALL a gay sport? I mean not only is calling a sport "gay" stupid, but football?

But anyway, I don't see how that's "bullying". Seriously if what they say bothers you tell them to knock it off. If they don't then you need some new friends, because you're letting them insult you.
This, you may as well leave them. Find new friends that accept you.
Now on topic, you could talk with your mom and tell her to stop talking about the problems she has with your dad. But being worried with hows school going and homework is pretty normal, non the less you could talk with her and tell her to give you some space.
If her friend said she likes somebody else, she (the girl you like) may be playing games with you.

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Oh wait side note, you said you feel isolated and end up saying nothing; so you have no connection to anyone besides football? I mean I'm sure there's other things you can talk about.

Let me explain: there's things I like that other people don't. As much as I'd love to talk about it or whatever, I just don't, and I'm perfectly fine with doing so.

Not saying you should or you have to, but maybe things would be easier if you kept it to yourself (and anyone else who likes the things you like).

I dunno, it probably sounds way different then I'm trying to say, but that's the best I can word it right now (I'm tired and all and now I'm realizing I'm rambling so ...)

[clueless_one]

Football... your friends think football is a gay sport? Sweet Jesus...

Really football is gay to them? You should tell them to not come to Portugal then, because according to them we are all gay.


This, you may as well leave them. Find new friends that accept you.
Now on topic, you could talk with your mom and tell her to stop talking about the problems she has with your dad. But being worried with hows school going and homework is pretty normal, non the less you could talk with her and tell her to give you some space.
If her friend said she likes somebody else, she (the girl you like) may be playing games with you.

Wait a second ... they're calling FOOTBALL a gay sport? I mean not only is calling a sport "gay" stupid, but football?

But anyway, I don't see how that's "bullying". Seriously if what they say bothers you tell them to knock it off. If they don't then you need some new friends, because you're letting them insult you.

It is not soccer/football. It's Aussie rules football, afl.

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Australian_rules_football

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It is not soccer/football. It's Aussie rules football, afl.

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Australian_rules_football

That wasn't really the focus of my response though ...

[Living For Love]

It is not soccer/football. It's Aussie rules football, afl.

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Australian_rules_football

I still don't see why is it considered gay, but it doesn't matter. You can still have friends even if you don't talk with them about your favourite subjects. Or you can eventually try to find another things you like. Don't let this stress you out. About your relationship problem, I just advice you to talk to the girl you like and ask her if she likes you the same way. If yes, good, if no, I think you shouldn't insist. She acts the way you described in classes because she has already been told you like her and she doesn't want to dissapoint you (because she already has another person) so she just keeps doing those things to tell you she likes you as a friend, but probably not as a boyfriend.

[MoonMan]

Is Aussie-rules football the only thing you guys talk about?

[APhkinPanda]

Is Aussie-rules football the only thing you guys talk about?

I agree with this guy, this shouldn't be the focus of your "problem."

In life, there are always going to be people who hate you, who are jealous of you and who really despise you. You just got to live life with that. Everyone goes through that, and if you go on with your life. You will soon find out that it isn't a big problem. So who cares if they call it "gay" that isn't even a insult, so it doesn't matter. Honestly I don't really want to go into the detail's of why gay isn't an insult. But I'll give you a short version of it. A sport isn't a person, therefore it doesn't have a gender. Thus it can't not like a person. So calling that sport "gay" doesn't make any sense and isn't an insult. Then if someone call's you gay for playing it. Which still its not valid ( cause you're not attractive to a sport )

So lets move past that; your mom using you as a therapist, is okay. As long as it's simple things. Now since you are saying it is actually stressing you out. You need to tell her to find a professional therapist. Trust me ( and please don't take offense to what I am going to say. ) you are just a teenager, you are not suppose to deal your parents stress. You are a growing teen, that goes through a shit ton of emotions as they grow up. Until your hormones finally calm down and leave you out of that stage. But since you are going through these ( sometimes even past puberty. ) everything is going to be a bit more frustrating and cause more stress. So just because you're parents want to know if you are doing good or not in school, it really just means they love you and want to know how you are doing in school. They just want to know you are going to graduate that year and are going to be successful in life.


Now about the girl crush and dating. Honestly, this isn't even of importance in my opinion. But if you happen to get to be with a girl, role with it. but if you can't down sweat about it. But it seems like everyone in High School must date. It isn't even that important, until like Senior or Junior year. Yeah go ahead have your first kiss or finally get a reason to hug and kiss the girl you are attracted to. But usually in High School it is far more lust than love. You will soon learn that and find out on yourself after High School. But this is my opinion and as of my opinion I believe its smarter and best to wait for after High School. Just because you can't buy the girl things she wants for her birthday or jewelry in special occasions. Or drive her around town to go to a movie, and etc.


Just try to enjoy your High School year, by doing the things that you love. Which it seems like it's the sport. Do good in school by actually doing your work and feeling accomplished that you did your work and you got an "A" on it. Don't let others get to you, because there is no reason to stress over on what others call you or see you as. You are you and there should be nothing that should bother you, for being yourself.


I am now going to wish you luck ( good luck ) and enjoy the remaining years of High School.





P.S. Think Big. Live Big. Play Big. ... Right? So go do it!!