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UKRaven32
August 31st, 2013, 02:45 PM
Excuse the stupidly long post, if you want to read the full thing go ahead (I'd prefer you did) but I wrote a short version at the bottom of the post, so feel free to read that as sort of a summary aswell. Thanks so much for reading and I hope you share your thoughts with me :)

So, I'm stuck between 2 girls. Heres a bit of background:

Girl #1 - I've been wanting to go out with this girl for nearly a year now, she knows I have some massive crush on her, she likes me back I think and has admitted before that she does. I've asked her out a few times, first time she said no, then a "Not yet, lets just be friends for now", and the third time I didn't really get a reply, and I just left it. At the end of May I started going out with Girl #2, (In the year below me at school) and #1 got really jealous of her / me and pretty much hated her instantly. When we broke up she told me about this. Now, a couple of days ago we start talking properly (To be fair we never stopped talking, its just recently I've tried to open up to her again) and it seems to be going well. But then it always seemed to be going well the other times I asked her out. But then at the same time, Girl #2 steps back into my life, but I'll get onto that in a minute. I think #1 still likes me by the way we were talking to each other, but I cant be too sure because I always end up hurting myself, but I cant forget about her. It sounds daft but one year kinda speaks for itself.

Girl #2 - We were going out for about 3 weeks at the end of May, and was going really well. Being in a lower year none of my friends knew her and didn't really like how I gave most of my attention to her all the time, and would interrogate me on a regular basis about her. (The main reason we broke up was because of the pressure from my friends, but I never grew the balls to stand up to them in a nice way). We were a really good couple, she is quite a forward girl and loves my attention. Then we broke up. Now heres the twist, a few days ago she texted me again to talk about what we used to be like, and its kinda obvious she wants to go out with me again. She started talking about sex and stuff, and about hj's and bj's, then asked me what I thought we'd be doing if we were still together. Considering she is a really forward person I said "Probably this pretty soon" half jokingly, and the conversation carried on like that for a few hours.

This is my little dispute, and I know it's really shallow and my feelings downstairs are probably clouding my judgement, but our conversation kind of escalated to the point where she basically told me she would do all of that with me if we were still going out. She is a really nice girl and we do mix well, and I would go out with her again, but my friends hate her and I would probably lose them if I went out with her and we started spending time together... Also I would be blowing off my chance with Girl #1 who I've been chasing for nearly a year.

My idea was to continue with Girl #1 and see what happened, if she shut me out again I would go to Girl #2, but it feels wrong to play people like that. If I go out with one of them I lose the other. I hate to be in this situation and I dont know what to do.

SHORT VERSION :)
Basically Im torn between a girl ive been chasing for nearly a year but I sometimes fear she doesnt like me back, but shows signs she does like me (I've been told loads of times she is being really unfair to me, and thats how it feels sometimes), and a girl who wants to take a relationship to a sexual stage very quickly, but I dont want to come across as shallow if I go out with her because it sounds like Im gonna get some action. Also, she's pretty much a guaranteed girlfriend, whereas the other girl seems to change her mind quite alot.

Suggestions?

Mynick
August 31st, 2013, 03:07 PM
Do you really like girl 1? 1 year is quite some time i know, and now that you got the chanve you should take it. It's your major crush, if were you i woudl go for her.
But ig you want sex go for girl 2.

UKRaven32
August 31st, 2013, 03:17 PM
Do you really like girl 1? 1 year is quite some time i know, and now that you got the chanve you should take it. It's your major crush, if were you i woudl go for her.
But ig you want sex go for girl 2.

As I said though, I've tried with her a few times before and it ended up screwing up my chances, I really do like her but I feel like shes playing hard to get, its really screwing me up. But I know with girl #2 I'm gonna get a relationship with the added bonus of sexy time, my problem with her is its gonna seem like I only want her for that. :/ Thanks for the advice though my friend :D

Mynick
August 31st, 2013, 03:19 PM
As I said though, I've tried with her a few times before and it ended up screwing up my chances, I really do like her but I feel like shes playing hard to get, its really screwing me up. But I know with girl #2 I'm gonna get a relationship with the added bonus of sexy time, my problem with her is its gonna seem like I only want her for that. :/ Thanks for the advice though my friend :D
Well i kinda know how you feel, you see i like this girl for 3 years now. Anyways. Talk with girl 1 and try to figure out if she really wants a relationship.

UKRaven32
August 31st, 2013, 03:23 PM
Well i kinda know how you feel, you see i like this girl for 3 years now. Anyways. Talk with girl 1 and try to figure out if she really wants a relationship.

Thanks Nick, I'll work on it over the next day or so and report back here. If I do succeed with Girl #1 though, how do you reckon I tell Girl #2 it's not happening? Problem is, being my teenage self I kinda flirted back with her and said some things I didn't really mean, and I think she's expecting me to ask her out again quite soon. Thoughts?

LouBerry
August 31st, 2013, 03:29 PM
Get a quarter. Flip it. Heads= girl #1. Tails= girl #2.

This really does work because if you literally have no idea which girl to choose, it'll choose for you. But most likely, you do know which girl you'd rather be with and say the quarter lands on heads, and you feel disappointed, you'll know.

Mynick
August 31st, 2013, 03:30 PM
Thanks Nick, I'll work on it over the next day or so and report back here. If I do succeed with Girl #1 though, how do you reckon I tell Girl #2 it's not happening? Problem is, being my teenage self I kinda flirted back with her and said some things I didn't really mean, and I think she's expecting me to ask her out again quite soon. Thoughts?

Just tell her comething like this: 'Look what we had was great, but we ended up for a reason'. Ok you flirted no big deal tell her you re kinda drunk.

Get a quarter. Flip it. Heads= girl #1. Tails= girl #2.

This really does work because if you literally have no idea which girl to choose, it'll choose for you. But most likely, you do know which girl you'd rather be with and say the quarter lands on heads, and you feel disappointed, you'll know.
Or get really drunk and see what girl he phones.

LouBerry
August 31st, 2013, 03:33 PM
Or get really drunk and see what girl he phones.

Lol, I'm trying to keep it classy, man. (:

UKRaven32
August 31st, 2013, 03:37 PM
Get a quarter. Flip it. Heads= girl #1. Tails= girl #2.

This really does work because if you literally have no idea which girl to choose, it'll choose for you. But most likely, you do know which girl you'd rather be with and say the quarter lands on heads, and you feel disappointed, you'll know.

Did a best out of 3 kinda thing and got heads twice but didnt feel disappointed, quite relieved actually :D I dont know why I didnt think of this before haha thanks so much :)

Just tell her comething like this: 'Look what we had was great, but we ended up for a reason'. Ok you flirted no big deal tell her you re kinda drunk.


Or get really drunk and see what girl he phones.

Also a good solution haha girl #1 is first in my phone book so yeah she'll be getting a call lmao

Living For Love
August 31st, 2013, 04:27 PM
Girl #1 is trying to push your limits, and it's not really good if she keeps playing with you that way. She is either intersted in you or she's not.

Girl #2 has probably already noticed that girl #1 is her rival, so she just seduces you using sex. That's not really clever, if you know what I mean. Your friends might have their reasons not to like her.

I suggest you go for Girl #1. Establish a period of time (2 weeks, maybe). Spend some time with her. If you see she is really interested on you within that time limit, then good. If she just keeps changing her mind and torturing you, then go for Girl #2.

"My idea was to continue with Girl #1 and see what happened, if she shut me out again I would go to Girl #2, but it feels wrong to play people like that."

They are also playing with you, so this idea is not that bad.

UKRaven32
August 31st, 2013, 04:41 PM
Girl #1 is trying to push your limits, and it's not really good if she keeps playing with you that way. She is either intersted in you or she's not.

Girl #2 has probably already noticed that girl #1 is her rival, so she just seduces you using sex. That's not really clever, if you know what I mean. Your friends might have their reasons not to like her.

I suggest you go for Girl #1. Establish a period of time (2 weeks, maybe). Spend some time with her. If you see she is really interested on you within that time limit, then good. If she just keeps changing her mind and torturing you, then go for Girl #2.

"My idea was to continue with Girl #1 and see what happened, if she shut me out again I would go to Girl #2, but it feels wrong to play people like that."

They are also playing with you, so this idea is not that bad.

Thanks for the advice, mr airplane man (:D), I'll definitely do this :)

LouBerry
August 31st, 2013, 11:15 PM
Did a best out of 3 kinda thing and got heads twice but didnt feel disappointed, quite relieved actually :D I dont know why I didnt think of this before haha thanks so much :)



Also a good solution haha girl #1 is first in my phone book so yeah she'll be getting a call lmao

Glad I can help. (: