any advice on this?

[low_on_air]

Recently I noticed signs of self harm in someone in my football team. It's freaking hot outside and she keeps wearing long sleeves at the training. When I asked her about it she said she only had long sleeved football shirts, but I don't really believe her. Also, at some point she had her right sleeve rolled up her left sleeve still down. Also today during the match she was wearing long sleeves under her regular football shirt and during changing she did not show her left arm once (she changed in a very weird way, so that her left arm was always covered)
So looking at it that way I am pretty sure she self harms. But I'm not sure if I should try talking with her about it. She has a girlfriend so obviously she has at least one person that knows about it and cares for her. We're also not very good friends or anything. But on the other hand it might be good for her to talk to someone who understands her, as I've self-harmed too. I consider talking to her about it, at least to let her know that if she needs it I'll always be there to talk.
Anyway, any advice on this? Maybe she'd rather just be left alone, as she already has her gf to talk to. I'm really unsure about this

[1_21Guns]

I had a girl in my class who I could instantly tell had an eating disorder and this made me want to make sure she was okay, but I hadn't spoken to her before so I didn't think it would be the best starting point for a conversation so I never spoke to her uncertain what to do, then a while later we ended up being introduced by a mutual friend in the class and we ended up talking about her ED and other things and I said I noticed at the start of the year but I didn't know if I should've said anything and she said you should've (we became quite close friends) but anyway what I'm trying to say is if you don't know the person I wouldn't dive in head first, just try and make friends with her from a different topic because you could just make her paranoid that others have noticed her behaviours, I'm sure she'll be relieved to have someone that understands her but it might be a bit aggressive to just dive straight into her problems

[LouBerry]

I had a girl in my class who I could instantly tell had an eating disorder and this made me want to make sure she was okay, but I hadn't spoken to her before so I didn't think it would be the best starting point for a conversation so I never spoke to her uncertain what to do, then a while later we ended up being introduced by a mutual friend in the class and we ended up talking about her ED and other things and I said I noticed at the start of the year but I didn't know if I should've said anything and she said you should've (we became quite close friends) but anyway what I'm trying to say is if you don't know the person I wouldn't dive in head first, just try and make friends with her from a different topic because you could just make her paranoid that others have noticed her behaviours, I'm sure she'll be relieved to have someone that understands her but it might be a bit aggressive to just dive straight into her problems

Yeah^ You need to be really careful in that situation, because you wouldn't want to upset her. Also, if she doesn't know you, and you randomly bring it up, she's likely to get defensive about it.

[low_on_air]

I had a girl in my class who I could instantly tell had an eating disorder and this made me want to make sure she was okay, but I hadn't spoken to her before so I didn't think it would be the best starting point for a conversation so I never spoke to her uncertain what to do, then a while later we ended up being introduced by a mutual friend in the class and we ended up talking about her ED and other things and I said I noticed at the start of the year but I didn't know if I should've said anything and she said you should've (we became quite close friends) but anyway what I'm trying to say is if you don't know the person I wouldn't dive in head first, just try and make friends with her from a different topic because you could just make her paranoid that others have noticed her behaviours, I'm sure she'll be relieved to have someone that understands her but it might be a bit aggressive to just dive straight into her problems

It's not like I don't know her at all though, she's been in my football team for years. We've had some pretty long conversation too. I mean, I'd say I know her well enough, I just wouldn't consider us friends. Not because we don't like eapch other or something, but because we never hang out outside of football
I still get your point though

[1_21Guns]

It's not like I don't know her at all though, she's been in my football team for years. We've had some pretty long conversation too. I mean, I'd say I know her well enough, I just wouldn't consider us friends. Not because we don't like eapch other or something, but because we never hang out outside of football
I still get your point though

Maybe just ask if she's okay and see how she responds then, but I still wouldn't dive straight in there because you said yourself you don't consider her a friend as such