i know im pathetic for feeling this

[numbness]

im not sure if this is the right place to post this but it includes self harm so im going to post it here anyway. basically last year this boy called george (who has liked me for two years) told me that he had been self harming. and after a while i admitted to him that i did to ,i knew he "loved"me so i didnt want to make him get to attatched to me. one night he started texting me saying he wanted to commit suicide and that it was my fault because i wouldnt be with him. he started describing all the things he did to himself including burning ,cutting and more graphic things that im not sure im aloud to post,but it was horrible. it went on for about three months, i saw him at school everyday and felt extremely guilty because what he was saying to me made me feel more worthless than i already do. after a while i gave up and just started ignoring him,but everytime he would walk past me he would pull up his jumper and you could see the burn marks up his arm,he would constantly say that it was my fault. we hadnt spoken for months,however the other day he sent me a text saying he needed me because he was in a dark place. a part of me wants to help him because im there as well,but another part of me wants to block everything out because last time it almost destroyed me and ive got weaker since then. if you have read all of this i would really appreciate some advice....im going away for a week so i wont be able to check any replies but i will as soon as i get back. thankyou

[Living For Love]

He can't force you to love him, so basically it's not your fault. However, you can always try to befriend him, if you think he's worth of your friendship. If he gets too creepy and continuously blaming you for anything bad that happens in his life, so just back off from him for a while. He will eventually understand that he's being way too exagerated.

[Mynick]

Hi, you are not pathetic.
What he did was really selfish, he knew that you self-harm too and non the less he said things that made you feel a lot worse. Even if you are the reason he self harms he shouldn't have done that. You said yourself you didn't want to get close to him because you know he likes you. Trust me, in relation to this you did nothing wrong.
Talk with him and see what he wants. If he continues make you feel bad, leave him, there's no reason to stay with him.

[1_21Guns]

Feeling like this doesn't make you pathetic or anything else, I had an ex that did the exact same thing, when I broke up with him he sat there and literally scratched the burns in front of me, burns he never said were my fault but made me feel like they were. The reality is 9 times out of 10 when people are doing this they aren't really going to do anything insanely stupid like kill themselves, it's nothing more than an attention seeking act and he'll just end up dragging you down believe me.
You are never the reason someone hurts themselves, why? Because did you burn them? Did you drag the blade across their skin? Did you hold a gun to their head and make them do it? No, you did not. Someone else hurting themselves is never your fault, remember that.
Block him out, he's not worth your time, he's just dragging you down love :hug3:

[numbness]

He can't force you to love him, so basically it's not your fault. However, you can always try to befriend him, if you think he's worth of your friendship. If he gets too creepy and continuously blaming you for anything bad that happens in his life, so just back off from him for a while. He will eventually understand that he's being way too exagerated.

i know he cant force me to love him but i kinda feel that maybe if i went out with him that things would be better but i know that really it wouldnt... hes creepy i have ttried to ignore him but hes in 50 percent of my lessons at college so it a bit difficult...thankyou for the reply :)

Hi, you are not pathetic.
What he did was really selfish, he knew that you self-harm too and non the less he said things that made you feel a lot worse. Even if you are the reason he self harms he shouldn't have done that. You said yourself you didn't want to get close to him because you know he likes you. Trust me, in relation to this you did nothing wrong.
Talk with him and see what he wants. If he continues make you feel bad, leave him, there's no reason to stay with him.

ive tried to speak to him and all he wants is the relationship...and all he ever says is that without me hes gonna end up doing something stupid ..and he always does....thankyou for replying it has been helpful :)

Feeling like this doesn't make you pathetic or anything else, I had an ex that did the exact same thing, when I broke up with him he sat there and literally scratched the burns in front of me, burns he never said were my fault but made me feel like they were. The reality is 9 times out of 10 when people are doing this they aren't really going to do anything insanely stupid like kill themselves, it's nothing more than an attention seeking act and he'll just end up dragging you down believe me.
You are never the reason someone hurts themselves, why? Because did you burn them? Did you drag the blade across their skin? Did you hold a gun to their head and make them do it? No, you did not. Someone else hurting themselves is never your fault, remember that.
Block him out, he's not worth your time, he's just dragging you down love :hug3:

thankyou its nice to have someone to relate to...i know what you mean ,we were in maths once and he sits in front of me he turned around and grabbed my scissors and cut himself repeatedly throughout the lesson, and you know when they just give you that look that says that these marks were because of you..... but thankyou :) and thankyou for your virtual hug

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[Magenta]

No, I think you just need to block him. And, while I don't usually recommend going behind someone's back, if you can tell someone about his behaviour do it. It's not only bordering on harassment that is harmful to you, it's certainly unsafe for him as well and there's obviously something serious going on, more than just you not going out with him. But if he's being at all threatening to you and potentially others, you need to tell someone. You don't need to tell them about you as well, just explain what he's been doing. Because that behaviour is not okay.

I know you feel like it would make things better for him but it's not even worth it to become friends with someone like that. You are allowed to cut poisonous people out of your life and if you report it, he may get some help as well as leave you alone.

[Poisonberry]

Rowan, get rid of this guy he's toxic. His problems are not your problems and you can never ever fix someone else, they have to want to fix themself and then do it. The best friend you could be, IMO, is to let someone know he's harming himself and you and let the grown ups do their thing. It might not help but there really aren't any other options. Best of luck, no one should be treating you like that. Making their self harm your fault is just beyond fair and it can only get worse.

[numbness]

Rowan, get rid of this guy he's toxic. His problems are not your problems and you can never ever fix someone else, they have to want to fix themself and then do it. The best friend you could be, IMO, is to let someone know he's harming himself and you and let the grown ups do their thing. It might not help but there really aren't any other options. Best of luck, no one should be treating you like that. Making their self harm your fault is just beyond fair and it can only get worse.

Thankyou :) who would you suggest I tell?

[Mynick]

Thankyou :) who would you suggest I tell?

I know it wasn't directed to me but could you tell to the school counselor?

[Poisonberry]

Thankyou :) who would you suggest I tell?

Someone at school or any other grown up authority figure. Someone at church if you go there, your therapist if you have one. Your parents if they would understand. I don't really know who else, but imagine you were trying to keep it secret, who would you hide it form? Tell that person. :)

[HondaFreak45]

Honestly, I've been the same situation Before, I loved a certain girl, Well love is a strong word... I liked a certain girl and she cut, and hurt herself ALOT. she would text me at night and talk about ending her life... After a while it became VERY un-appealing(I know that sounds bad but..) So I stopped talking to her... a few weeks went by and it got worse... I ended up telling my school councilor. And we became best friends and we got her problem fixed..

Moral of the story is, Tell someone so he can get some help.