how to stop self harm before it's to late !

[girlygirl]

omg i dont knw what to do my best mate is in hospital literally diying and im so scared im going to lose him, my boyfriend split up with me and is now going out with my other best mate and theres some other things going on. i feel so depressed. i used to self harm but i havent in ova 4 months. im frightened im going to do it again i hate doing it but i dunno theres something about it thats gets rid of all the pain i duuno how to explain it. i really need help on how to stop myself from self harming before it's to late.

can enyone help ?

[thesphinx]

Take a deep breath you can get through this. Don't try to process this all at once you have to take it step by step, is there anyone you can talk to about all this?

[girlygirl]

i have done that it really helps.... not
no there is no one i can talk 2 i cnt talk 2 my parents coz they still think im their 5 year old who is as happy as sunshine i cnt talk to my friends coz they will just tell me to get over it or it will be alrite or stop attention seeking u knw the usual. im just so confused !

[angryhalfdemon]

You need to calm down, we're here for you. You have to tell yourself, "I will get through this." Try not to think about everything at once.

You need to find someone to talk to. You need to find a friend to support you, or talk to a counsellor, they're trained to help with this kind of stuff. You can't hold it all in, trust me, I've done it my whole life, and it doesn't work. In the meantime, if you really feel like there's no one you can talk to in person, keep posting. We're all here to listen to and support you.

I'm really sorry about your friend. Losing someone close is always really hard. You have my sympathy, I'll pray for your friend tonight.

[girlygirl]

i am trying to calm down believe me it's just really hard
im glad that somebody understands nobody gets me
i really want to cut but i dnt at the same time arrrrggghh
i wish this would go away !

[byee]

Yeah, good advice here. Let me add that what you're going thru, although extremely stressful, is temporary. It will end, it will be over, things will improve.

Look long term, further down the road. When there's a crisis, sometimes it's easy to get submerged in the overwhelm of it. But, by so doing, you lose perspective, that it'll get better.

Come up with a short term plan to get you thru this, some support, someone who can help you see further down the road.