gay

[liam2013]

I havent come out to my friends and ive been hiding that im gay for about 4 years and havent told anyome at all. Im 16 years old and scared to come out

[Harley Quinn]

You don't have to come out until you're ready, if you think they'll accept it, maybe then tell them. A ton of weight is lifted off your shoulders when you do come out, though.

[ska8er]

i wouldnt come out unless u know that ur friends would continue to like u.

[ksdnfkfr]

I'm waiting until I've started my life as an adult. 18 or older.

[removeddddd]

Try and see what their views are on homosexuality, then decide.

[DerBear]

I personally think you shouldn't come out until you're ready I mean coming out is a big deal and if you aren't prepared mentally then its going to be a real hard ordeal for you. Of course it will be hard whenever you choose to do it unless everyone is completely accepting. However if you aren't ready or mentally prepared then it is going to be harder.

I wish you the best of luck for when you do choose to come out.

[justin 13]

DONT DO IT. Im gay too, im planning being out in college. I cant my Dad's my catholic school my friends all str8's too much pressure 4 me.

[Josh from SoCal]

I disagree with Justin in the above post. I mean, I won't tell you not to do it. But I'd wait until you are ready. At least, you might someone else who is a lot like you and talk to him. If you have one really good friend, you might tell him privately that you are starting to think you like guys a little. And let him know that no, you dont feel attracted to him. he's your friend and you dont and never have seen him in that way. and tell him that you are talking to him cuz he is your very best friend and like your brother. if he really is your very best friend, he will try to help you deal with it.

[sqishy]

You don't have to come out until you feel that you are ready. Make sure you are fine and come to terms with it in yourself too; that is very important.
I have resolved my sexuality as being gay in my holidays and that is a major milestone for me, like I came out to myself. I was overconfident though, thinking I'd have the quick courage to come out to my school when I came back. I am already back at school after 4 days and am not rushing myself. I want to tell people but only the closest friends will know first.
If you're not comfortable with the idea of coming out then don't do it. The best thing is to wait until you are ok with it.
Coming out to us here on this forum (though our identities are all partially concealed) is a courageous thing in itself. and many people won't admit that it is a scary and exciting time. For you it's fear mostly, and admitting that is a brave thing indeed :).

[steellord321]

I guess you posted cause your thinking of doing it? Maybe you are sick of hiding it. In the end you know your friends best and so you have to go by your own judgment as far as is it safe. I do encourage you to tell *someone* though, even an adult like a therapist. I'm thinking of doing this as well. "Wait until college" doesn't always work. It just gets too stressful.

[TheLivingLie]

well, if your friends are good and you trust them, then u might wanna tell them. im 13, bi - curious for about a year, and im not planning on coming out for a while, cause most of my friends are just friends , i dont have any best friends that i trust.

[Laquifa]

I havent come out to my friends and ive been hiding that im gay for about 4 years and havent told anyome at all. Im 16 years old and scared to come out

You and I sound like we happen to be in the same boat (: . If you ever want to talk, then my VMs, PMs or tumblr inbox is always open (:

[ska8er]

well, if your friends are good and you trust them, then u might wanna tell them. im 13, bi - curious for about a year, and im not planning on coming out for a while, cause most of my friends are just friends , i dont have any best friends that i trust.

good advice dude i agree with u.

[liam2013]

Thank you everyone it has really helped me

[riverboy]

You don't have to come out until you feel that you are ready. Make sure you are fine and come to terms with it in yourself too; that is very important.
I have resolved my sexuality as being gay in my holidays and that is a major milestone for me, like I came out to myself. I was overconfident though, thinking I'd have the quick courage to come out to my school when I came back. I am already back at school after 4 days and am not rushing myself. I want to tell people but only the closest friends will know first.
If you're not comfortable with the idea of coming out then don't do it. The best thing is to wait until you are ok with it.
Coming out to us here on this forum (though our identities are all partially concealed) is a courageous thing in itself. and many people won't admit that it is a scary and exciting time. For you it's fear mostly, and admitting that is a brave thing indeed :).



I agree with this and come out when youu are ready.

[Cameron14]

Am in the same boat...