Someday
August 29th, 2013, 10:54 PM
Sticky situation here.
I have a friend. A best friend. She's really nice. And sweet. And funny. Basically, amazing. I kind of maybe have a not-so-little thing for her... the whole "I'm a girl and I like a girl" thing isn't too new to me. I've liked girls before, but also guys and pretty much everything in between--pan. I do tend to lean towards girls, though, and most of my serious crushes have been on girls.
A few weeks back, she came out to me as non-binary/gender-neutral, as in not female, but not male. I still like her. A lot. Her gender identity doesn't change anything. It's just confusing me a little bit, because I don't really know how to handle it. From this post, you can probably tell that I think of my friend, who I've known for several years now, as a "she," but I also don't want to be offensive.
To you out there who are somewhere in that fabulous grey area: would you be offended if someone referred to you using a binary pronoun?
And to those dating someone who is in aforementioned grey area (because, really, I think I have a fighting chance): I would reeeeeeeeally appreciate some advice.
Love and hugs, J
I have a friend. A best friend. She's really nice. And sweet. And funny. Basically, amazing. I kind of maybe have a not-so-little thing for her... the whole "I'm a girl and I like a girl" thing isn't too new to me. I've liked girls before, but also guys and pretty much everything in between--pan. I do tend to lean towards girls, though, and most of my serious crushes have been on girls.
A few weeks back, she came out to me as non-binary/gender-neutral, as in not female, but not male. I still like her. A lot. Her gender identity doesn't change anything. It's just confusing me a little bit, because I don't really know how to handle it. From this post, you can probably tell that I think of my friend, who I've known for several years now, as a "she," but I also don't want to be offensive.
To you out there who are somewhere in that fabulous grey area: would you be offended if someone referred to you using a binary pronoun?
And to those dating someone who is in aforementioned grey area (because, really, I think I have a fighting chance): I would reeeeeeeeally appreciate some advice.
Love and hugs, J