Single-parent home vs. two-parent home:

[Lovelife090994]

I am from a single mother who worked very hard as a teacher and taught me how to be an upright man who loves and obeys the lord, my family wasn't broken. The trouble was my dad apprently was dishonest sayng he wasn't married and my mother planned to marry him after thinking he was single. As ill fate had it, he lied, he was married, she knew of a previous daughter but never a current wife.

Disgusted my mother said she left my dad but when she found out she was pregnant with me, with my dad not showing interest nor being there at my birth until a few months later she left to Texas for a teaching job. 18 years later I am here, she is here, my dad sadly has been ill. We barely talk. My family to me isn't broken because I have others who love and care for me, and I wouldn't change a thing.

I admit things have not always been rosey, low income, no help, lack of a male figure as some say, only growing up around my mother, being around a lot of women, confusing things sometimes, and family issues.

Anyone else from a single-parent household and what is your opinion on it? I agree with most on how two-parent households are better but I know some in a two-parent household who are divided in their parents' mess, pray this not be you but just sharing that.

I also feel a child can succeed whether from a single-parent household or a two-parent household.

[Harry Smith]

I agree with you, it really depends on the parent and on the situation. I've seen families where they have two parents but both of them are complete dicks but in other's with one their parent works long hours and really looks after them, there is no universal answer- people fail and succeed from both

[Lovelife090994]

I agree with you, it really depends on the parent and on the situation. I've seen families where they have two parents but both of them are complete dicks but in other's with one their parent works long hours and really looks after them, there is no universal answer- people fail and succeed from both

Thanks for that honest thought out answer! Enjoy your day!

[Walter Powers]

I also feel a child can succeed whether from a single-parent household or a two-parent household.

They can, but it's a question of likelihood. The statistics show it - your less likely to be successful if raised by a single parent. And that make sense. They also show increased performance if you have one parent not working. For this reason, I believe that people in general should do everything in their power to give their children two parental figures and time with them (homework help, fun, etc), especially in their elementary years. I'm going to make that my number one priority when raising my children.

I'll share my personal experience. I've grown up in a house with my mom and my dad. When I was a toddler and after my brother was born, my parents decided to have my mom quit work to look after me and my brother. A few years later, I started having problems. We discovered I had life threatening food allergies, and then I once I began Kindergarten I started to have problems in school. I just wasn't getting it. Had a parent not had time to be there, I feel like I would be failing at everything to this day. Thankfully, I did have my mom there to help me with homework, and by middle school I had things straightened out and was getting all As.

So I really think that it's important for children to be raised by two parents, and, in there early years, one stay at home, if possible. Even if it means the difference between a $50,000 income and a $80,000 income. I think it assures a good outcome for the children. I also think that your father is very low for abandoning you like that.

[Harry Smith]

They can, but it's a question of likelihood. The statistics show it - your less likely to be successful if raised by a single parent. And that make sense. They also show increased performance if you have one parent not working. For this reason, I believe that people in general should do everything in their power to give their children two parental figures and time with them (homework help, fun, etc), especially in their elementary years. I'm going to make that my number one priority when raising my children.

I'll share my personal experience. I've grown up in a house with my mom and my dad. When I was a toddler and after my brother was born, my parents decided to have my mom quit work to look after me and my brother. A few years later, I started having problems. We discovered I had life threatening food allergies, and then I once I began Kindergarten I started to have problems in school. I just wasn't getting it. Had a parent not had time to be there, I feel like I would be failing at everything to this day. Thankfully, I did have my mom there to help me with homework, and by middle school I had things straightened out and was getting all As.

So I really think that it's important for children to be raised by two parents, and, in there early years, one stay at home, if possible. Even if it means the difference between a $50,000 income and a $80,000 income. I think it assures a good outcome for the children. I also think that your father is very low for abandoning you like that.

For some people they simply don't have the luxury of being able to say that only one parent can work, some families need both parents working so that their children can have food on the table.

I also think it's important to note that not many parents choose to raise a child on their own, there can simply be a situation out of their control such as a parent dying or divorcing.

I also think that having two parents doesn't assure anything- it's about the nature of the parents and the nature of the home.

Support Family is very important as well, I'm extremely close to my Uncle-probably more so than my own dad in some regards

[Desuetude]

Well for the majority of my life I've had two single parent households. My parents split when I was about 7 and I've been tossed about between them ever since.

I definitely prefer a two parent household. Honestly even if it's a dysfunctional family and the parents argue constantly like mine used to, it's better than what I have now. The instability of not having a set home really puts you out of place. My mother is a contractor so we don't even have a solid flow of money coming into the house on her side, sometimes she'll have good work and sometimes she won't work for a year and during that time things are very tight. My dad didn't find his own house until I was 12 and money is tight on his side as well but other than that I know that I'm very fortunate with the material possessions I have and I'm not ignorant about that.

I think I'm closer to my dad (in a weird kind of way) than if they were together. For example he has to cope with all mine and my sisters 'girl stuff' and learn how to deal with shit girls go through. However it's made me a lot more distant from my mum but that's due to other circumstances as well. My parents probably have more drama going on now than most two parent families anyway. They still have to talk about my sister and I and communicate about what's happening with who even though they're shit and it and hate each other.

A two parent, loving household is definitely the prefered and ideal situation. I guess you might be more experienced from having to go through a divorce or the loss of a parent but really the life lessons are not worth the damage it can do to someones childhood.

I don't even know if this makes sense but mhmm.

[Jess]

A child or children from a single-parent household can still succeed and be raised properly.

[britishboy]

A child or children from a single-parent household can still succeed and be raised properly.

but it is harder, one needs a strong male and female influence so it will be a challenge with only one and once grown up one could be overly famine or masculine (depending on male or female figure)

[teen.jpg]

There are bad two-parent households, as wel, as single-parent households. It really depends on the parents themselves.

And I'm not so sure anyone NEEDS both a male/female influence.

[britishboy]

There are bad two-parent households, as wel, as single-parent households. It really depends on the parents themselves.

And I'm not so sure anyone NEEDS both a male/female influence.

ideally you would have both

[Southside]

I dont see anything wrong with a single parent household if the parent is raising the child properly.

As a few of you just said, it's bad two parent households too.

[teen.jpg]

ideally you would have both

I don't think it matters really. Sure, it's nice to have both, but if you can't then it's not the end of the world.

[britishboy]

I don't think it matters really. Sure, it's nice to have both, but if you can't then it's not the end of the world.

no I do think its a big deal but you are right, its not yhe end of the world

[LouBerry]

This is my rant about it.

My parents divorced when I was three. My mom did a kick ass job raising me, and when she died when I was six, and I went to live with my dad, he did a good job too. He taught me right from wrong and, aided by his parents, he helped me turn out to be a strong woman. But, there is not a day that goes by that I wish I had a mom to help me. It's so unbelievably hard for a young girl to grow up without a mother. I came home from my first day of Senior year last week and bawled my eyes out for an hour because my Momma wasn't there to help me do my hair and hug me goodbye and cry with me because it was my last first day. She wasn't there to help me get ready for Prom, and she won't be at my wedding with my Daddy to give me away to Seth. And it hurts, everyday.

So, yeah, it usually sucks having a broken family, but that doesn't mean that a single parent can't do a better job of raising their kid than an intact family, because they can.

[Sir Suomi]

Being raised by my mother, due to the fact that my father died when I was very young, I've lived in the tough life of a lower-middle class family. But I had extended family always there to guide me, and my mother worked hard to assure that I would grow up to be a responsible kid. And seeing as I'm involved in 3 volunteer organizations in school, 1 organization out of school, participate in all 3 sports every year, and maintain a 3.9 GPA, I'd say I'm doing quite well. It's all about how the child is taught, not how it's environment situation is, although that can play a factor in social development.

[saea97]

One of my (ex) best friends lives with both his parents: One a Methodist minister, the other a doctor - sounds reputable enough. He recently got expelled from our school. I have no contact with my father (I don't regard my home as "broken" - screw him), but recently got 12 A*s in my GCSEs.

Anecdotes, anecdotes, anecdotes, I know: But I don't really think there's a huge tie between having both parents and becoming a successful adult. Are two good parents statistically better than one? Probably. But I'm doing fine, and so are most of the other kids who are raised by one loving, conscientious, intelligent parent. As the cliché goes, quality, not quantity.

As for specifically needing the male and female influence: That's garbage. Having two parents may be beneficial in the sense that there are two loving guardians rather than one, but there's no reason they should be of different sexes. Gays and lesbians can raise children just fine.

[Walter Powers]

For some people they simply don't have the luxury of being able to say that only one parent can work, some families need both parents working so that their children can have food on the table.

I also think it's important to note that not many parents choose to raise a child on their own, there can simply be a situation out of their control such as a parent dying or divorcing.

I also think that having two parents doesn't assure anything- it's about the nature of the parents and the nature of the home.

Support Family is very important as well, I'm extremely close to my Uncle-probably more so than my own dad in some regards

True, some people don't have the luxury of only needing one income. My oint is that every effort should be made to have that luxury before having multiple children especially.

And of course some things are out of your control. But again, every effort should still be made. and having to parent doesn't assure anything - bad word choice on my part. But it does help increase the likelihood of a bright future.

[Cygnus]

I think both can do well, however it depends a lot on the parent(s).

[Biscuithead13]

My mom has raised myself for the last two years. She and my dad lived together for the first 14 years of my life, before mom and I moved. Shes honestly the better parent of the two as much as she gets on my nerves. She there for me whenever I need her. My dad is a great guy and cares about me, but he just doesn't really have any kind of influence on me. But hey, at least its not negative.

[West Coast Sheriff]

I've been going back and forth between houses and been raised by two single parents my whole life. I turned out fine. Not great, but okay.

[Celtic.]

I consider my father dead. He dident do shit to raise me. I don't even see why I have to respect him

[Camazotz]

I said "yes" to both. I think two-parent households tend to be happier and more efficient on average than single-parent households, but I think both are capable of raising children well if the environment is adequate.

[Lovelife090994]

My mom has raised myself for the last two years. She and my dad lived together for the first 14 years of my life, before mom and I moved. Shes honestly the better parent of the two as much as she gets on my nerves. She there for me whenever I need her. My dad is a great guy and cares about me, but he just doesn't really have any kind of influence on me. But hey, at least its not negative.

Well, at least you have a positive look on it. My case is so twisted, not by ow bad it is, but by how disorganized it sounds.

[Luminous]

I admire single parents, it is a lot of work raising a child. Ideally for me I would want a wife to have children with but that doesn't mean I hate single parents, a lot of the time it isn't their fault. I have both my parents, they seem pretty happy together, and I couldn't dream of not having both of them. Though, sorry to say, I love my mom way more than my dad, she's more like a parent to me. I don't know my dad very well, we're more of friends than dad & daughter. I absolutely don't agree with his religious beliefs and living together can cause major conflict between us. Okay that was kind of random.. but yeah I am fine with single parents and think they raise their kids fine, there's always exceptions of course but that is true even if there are two parents.

[Lovelife090994]

I consider my father dead. He dident do shit to raise me. I don't even see why I have to respect him

My father has not been there either yet he is why I am alive. Your mother could not have had you alone dear and you must forgive him or else it will make you bitter.

I admire single parents, it is a lot of work raising a child. Ideally for me I would want a wife to have children with but that doesn't mean I hate single parents, a lot of the time it isn't their fault. I have both my parents, they seem pretty happy together, and I couldn't dream of not having both of them. Though, sorry to say, I love my mom way more than my dad, she's more like a parent to me. I don't know my dad very well, we're more of friends than dad & daughter. I absolutely don't agree with his religious beliefs and living together can cause major conflict between us. Okay that was kind of random.. but yeah I am fine with single parents and think they raise their kids fine, there's always exceptions of course but that is true even if there are two parents.

Thanks for sounding honest. My dad isn't exactly the best and wasn't there much for me... But may I ask what are his views and what is the conflict?
You want to marry one day right? Would you prefer a son or a daughter? Me?

I honestly don't see me being married, not sure if I could fall in love let alone have a girl fall in love with me since I don't like girls sexually and if a girl knows that then bye bye guy it is. Sorry, just saying.


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