Survey do you thing anal sex loses your virginity?

[ElliEvens]

I was reading a 2005 survey today about "virginity pledges" that said girls that take a virginity pledge are 76% more likely to engage in oral and anal sex as an alternative.

1. So I'm wondering how many girls think doing anal means you've lost your virginity? I don't think it does.

2. How many girls would consider anal as an alternative to vaginal to keep their "virginity" until they get married? I've already done both so I'm out.

3. Would you do anal as a way to prevent pregnancy if you aren't on BC?

[Loryn]

people want to believe in their own lies, people thinks that cause never got penetrated at vagina, would still be virgin, but they forget that its all about having sex after all, you had the knowledge that you had sex with someone, you did anal, but you still had sex, you got penetrated, and I don't see a big deal about being or not a virgin, after all it doesn't makes you more or less pure.
So I think the fact is that people uses the anal sex as an excuse to do sex and still say they are virgin, I don't understand why, but I had this discussion with a friend of mine a while ago.
If you are still a virgin or not after anal, its on your mind, you can hide by saying "hey my hymen is still intact", but you have had sex before if you had anal. So for me, people can consider virgin as having intact hymen, but mainly is as never had sex, then I'd say, if you have anal intercourse you might be not virgin anymore on my opinion, people just use it as pretext for fantasies maybe.

[Tarannosaurus]

^Agree with the above.
In my opinion anal sex counts as losing your virginity. Otherwise, would you say gay guys remain virgins for life? Oral sex counts too. The whole reason there's the word 'sex' in it is because it is a form of sex, and losing your virginity is having sex.

[ElliEvens]

Thanks for the opinions girls. I appreciate them. Not many people have taken the time to comment. From the poll so far it's about 2/3rds that think it doesn't count, to 1/3 that does. I find that interesting myself. Also, about 1/3 think it's an okay alternate BC method. That I find really interesting. Anyways, thanks again for the comments and opinions.

[Tarannosaurus]

Well it's an interesting topic :)

[freakyindiangurl]

anal sex is losing your virginity hint the name anal "sex". but at the same time I do think it is an alternative form of birth control granted some girls are into it and others are not. Also I may view it as losing your virginity I do think it is different having anal sex with a person as compared to vaginal intercourse.

[Abgail 16]

people want to believe in their own lies, people thinks that cause never got penetrated at vagina, would still be virgin, but they forget that its all about having sex after all, you had the knowledge that you had sex with someone, you did anal, but you still had sex, you got penetrated, and I don't see a big deal about being or not a virgin, after all it doesn't makes you more or less pure.
So I think the fact is that people uses the anal sex as an excuse to do sex and still say they are virgin, I don't understand why, but I had this discussion with a friend of mine a while ago.
If you are still a virgin or not after anal, its on your mind, you can hide by saying "hey my hymen is still intact", but you have had sex before if you had anal. So for me, people can consider virgin as having intact hymen, but mainly is as never had sex, then I'd say, if you have anal intercourse you might be not virgin anymore on my opinion, people just use it as pretext for fantasies maybe.

Couldn't agree more!

[anastanes]

If you are going all the way to have anal sex it's a huge step it's penetration you call it sex so you could say you are loosing your virginity. Your hymen is still intact so technically I don't know? It's too late for me but I definitely wouldn't do it as an alternative to say that I hadn't lost my virginity.
Still not a certainty for BC.

[Mariebme]

I think it is certainly a way to "lose your virginity" even tho your hymen is intact. I mean, cmon, a guy puts his thing in you and cums, and you both like it, sounds like sex to me! :P

[Luminous]

Any sex is sex. That's like telling me, a lesbian, that I'm never going to lose my virginity.

[Taryn98]

virginity to me means penis in vagina so, no anal doesn't count

[Tarannosaurus]

Any sex is sex. That's like telling me, a lesbian, that I'm never going to lose my virginity.

^This! It's really annoying when people say lesbian sex doesn't count.

[The Enderwoman]

Like Hannah said, sex is sex. In my opinion, having anal sex causes you to loose your virginity.

[Special K]

Yep it counts.

[byee]

I think it was Woody Allen who once said that none of us could ever get thru the day without at least one juicy rationalization for a choice we know we shouldnt make.

The point of these 'Virginity pledges" is to not share yourself sexually with anyone until marriage. It's not an English lesson in the precise definition of the word "Sex" or virginity, and it isn't about which orifice is used to gratify you or your partners sexual needs. it isn't about a way to make a pledge yet not really stick to it either. It's about not sharing yourself sexually with another person until marriage, which means that you take care of your own sexual needs..yourself.

Now, the actual wisdom of these "Pledges" is another matter.....especially in light of the very creative ways others seem to get around honoring them..

[Amber Bi]

Don't use your poophole as a loophole !!

[ElliEvens]

Don't use your poophole as a loophole !!

that's awesome!!! I don't know if I agree but it's still awesome.

Right now it's about 60% that it isn't losing your virginity. Now it's only 26 votes so this is by no means an all inclusive survey but it is telling I think.

[Luminous]

Don't use your poophole as a loophole !!

Lol that gave me a laugh.

[Mariebme]

Don't use your poophole as a loophole !!

Haha! Good one :P I'm gonna have to use that one

[1_21Guns]

Anal sex loses your anal virginity, it doesn't split your hymen so of course you're still a virgin, it is another type of intercourse so of course its an alternative, but I wouldn't call it a birth control alternative

[emily-candace]

Anal just sounds gross to me but loosing your virginity is between an penis and a vagina.

[ElliEvens]

Well so far there are thirty votes with 20 saying, nope it does not count. That is way over 66%.

One thing I'm wondering is for those that voted. Have you had anal sex and if so, at the time did you consider it losing your virginity?

Yes, and personally I didn't consider it losing it.

[Mell1na]

Well in counts for loosing oyur virginity to me ... yeah your vagina is inact but is still a way of penetration :P

[ElliEvens]

Well in counts for loosing oyur virginity to me ... yeah your vagina is inact but is still a way of penetration :P

So then i guess the next logical question is:

Do you think that losing your virginity still has the same stigma for our generation that it did in our parents or grand parents generation? Say 25 years ago or more?

I just don't think that there is nearly the same labeling or like stigma or social consequence to "losing" your virginity anymore.

Personally, while i think we talk about it. unless you are particularly religious, which is fine, there isn't any real expectation by teens that i know male or female that they or their partners are gonna be virgins when they marry or even date for that matter.

I know that i don't expect my husband (if i ever have one) to be a virgin when we get married. I wouldn't want him to think i was either. Like it isn't even a serious condition anymore.

Thoughts?

[Mell1na]

So then i guess the next logical question is:

Do you think that losing your virginity still has the same stigma for our generation that it did in our parents or grand parents generation? Say 25 years ago or more?

I just don't think that there is nearly the same labeling or like stigma or social consequence to "losing" your virginity anymore.

Personally, while i think we talk about it. unless you are particularly religious, which is fine, there isn't any real expectation by teens that i know male or female that they or their partners are gonna be virgins when they marry or even date for that matter.

I know that i don't expect my husband (if i ever have one) to be a virgin when we get married. I wouldn't want him to think i was either. Like it isn't even a serious condition anymore.

Thoughts?

Well in our genration it doesnt matter if oy uare virgin or not anymore :) no1 expect you to be virgin when you get married :)... the couple an the teens are openminded and they try new things... and i think the guys nowdays they like their girl to be oopenminded and that they have try things in sex ;)

[LouBerry]

I said yes, but the options are kind of vague. Everyone is going to have their own view on this. Like Natalie said, anal doesn't break your hymen, so you're still a virgin. But my view is that anal sex is the same as vaginal or oral. I don't think there is really a difference, which hole you stick it in, you're still stickin' it in.

[Tarannosaurus]

So then i guess the next logical question is:

Do you think that losing your virginity still has the same stigma for our generation that it did in our parents or grand parents generation? Say 25 years ago or more?

I just don't think that there is nearly the same labeling or like stigma or social consequence to "losing" your virginity anymore.

Personally, while i think we talk about it. unless you are particularly religious, which is fine, there isn't any real expectation by teens that i know male or female that they or their partners are gonna be virgins when they marry or even date for that matter.

I know that i don't expect my husband (if i ever have one) to be a virgin when we get married. I wouldn't want him to think i was either. Like it isn't even a serious condition anymore.

Thoughts?

I don't think it's a big deal any more in most parts of the world but in Indonesia there is a law being proposed that would force Indonesian schoolgirls (note: girls not boys) to be tested for virginity. So I'm assuming it's there's a huge stigma attached to losing your virginity there. It's always really been acceptable for boys to lose their virginity and I think in quite a few places it's still considered negative for a girl to be sexually active. It has improved a lot though over the generations.
You know, it might be interesting to post something in the mixed forum too and see if the boys have different views.

[Charara]

Personally, no I don't think you can count anal sex as losing your virginity

[wozemonkey]

i don't think it counts either

[Theekshana]

it is only if you want to fool your own mind that you are a virgin :D

i think strictly speaking if you want to define sex is only a penis going into a vagina then anal sex isn't sex. but if you think of it as an alternate to sex, then you aren't a virgin. that's what i think.