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lorddia
August 27th, 2013, 01:58 PM
hey every body this is gonne be a very long post since i want to say a lot of things but it would mean a lot to me if people would read it and tell me what they think!
im 18 but i wanne describe my situation from when i was 14 i live in a Muslim country Muslim as in boy go to school together and girls go together so basically we hve no relation with the other sex -so i havent dated any one or been emotionally connected to any girl my own age -but in that age i felt a very strong attraction(very very very strong!:D) to girls so i used the only possible way which was porn sites i watched endless hours of porn and enjoyed it (like 2 hours a day for a year!)that was the time that i realized that watching too mush porn is bad not because of religious or stuff but because u will loose interest and it will get boring to you ! but it was too late for me i no longer found porn or naked girls interesting because i had seen too much ! any way until here i was sure that im straight but then i looked at my self and i saw that physically i dont like my body i mean i was fat and i had acne and i didnt had any close friends and as i was surrounded with only boys (because of the Muslim thing ) i found my self interested in a friend of mine(and only that person) who had all the things that i wanted i mean he was slim he was cool he had a lot of friends and ... but the attraction wasn't sexual but as i got to know him and as we became closer i found my self even sexually attracted to him ! in the mean time i started to go to the gym and i started to become who i wanted to be and with that my attraction to him got weaker and weaker !(i used to dream about him (sexual dreams) and they stopped ) and right know i dont see him any more and i dont feel any thing about him any more ! (its like i dont care about him at all ) but then i started to watch gay porn just to make sure about my sexual orientation and it got worse i mean when i see those men all that i care about is their body shape not their sexual interaction i dont know if im atracted to those men or is that just because i want to look exactly like them (i mean physically) and the other thing that crosses my mind while watching them is that i want to have somebody that i can be myself with him/her and not to be ashamed of who i am ! and i feel like (although its just porn and they dont even know each other) that they have what im seeking ! (and i know that i can have just the same thing with girls too !)and right now i dont even know what or who (boy or girl) turns me on ! i mean i feel like non of them turn me on because im so worried about these things that i cant tell if im attracted to some one or not ! and as i said i have never even talked my emotions with any girl and i might not be possible for years ! i just wanted to know could this be nothing could i be just worrying to much ? is that possible that i be straight? (and yes i can imagine myself with a girl and i dont feel like girls are turn offs and one other thing is that only boys who are exactly like me turn me on i mean there was this one other guy whom i was attracted to but then he got fat and changed his appearance and all the attraction was gone! and all the other guys i dont feel any thing about them only the ones that have something that i admire ! )so my last question what sexual orientation do u think i have ? gay bi or straight?

Living For Love
August 31st, 2013, 09:16 AM
It's normal if you feel attracted by porn actors/actresses. They all have perfect bodies, perfect faces, they only work for that: look attractive. But there is no real love in pornography. They are just doing it for the cameras. Don't try to evaluate your feelings based on something you see in pornographic movies, because it's not real. If the attraction you had with your friend wasn't really sexual, so you're not gay, and you're probably not bi, either. Don't worry about your sexuality that much, or don't just compare it to porn. I guess you need to have more real experiences to define your sexuality better.