A little confused

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

I have a boyfriend, and I love him to death. I'm physically and emotionally attracted to him, there's no question about that. And I've always been attracted to guys. The thing is, for the past few years I've been thinking about girls a lot too. My boyfriend has a friend, a girl, who's bi and has admitted to finding me sexy. Personality-wise, she's not my type. But nonetheless I've been thinking about her a lot in a sort of sexual context. What it'd be like to kiss her, to touch her, wondering if I could even do something like that with no strings attached, just for the heck of it, without anyone having hurt feelings... It seems like a purely physical attraction, but, why am I feeling this way?

[Gumleaf]

from what your describing here, i would say you are bi-curious. so in other words, your straight, but you feel like you would like to experiment with a girl to see what it would be like. that doesn't mean your bi, it just means that your curious and it certainly doesn't mean your a lesbian.

[racy]

Maybe starting with your bf's girl friend is risky. You could lose them both.
But maybe there is something more going on with your bf and his other girl friend. Maybe you should wonder about that.

But if you want to go ahead anyway, maybe start by touching, in a safe way. I hold hands with my friends in a crowd like at the mall. It seems safe and fun to get in the middle and hold both of their hands.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Nah, nothing going on between them. She's told me before, in no uncertain terms, that he is SO not her type, and not her definition of "hot" either, although she values their friendship (there goes my shot at a threesome, xPPP). I know that getting involved with this chick could jeopardize everything, so I'm rather hesitant to admit my feelings to either my boyfriend or the girl. I wouldn't want to do anything unless my boyfriend was ok with it, if he knew that I'm not emotionally attracted to this girl, just trying to figure myself out. But is anyone really that tolerant? And that confident, to not worry about their girlfriend off messing around someone else? I'd rather start with someone who doesn't know my boyfriend, or at least someone who maybe met him through me but isn't really friends with him. The trouble is, I don't know anyone like that.

Agh, this is silly. I should just forget about it for now, right? That's the best thing to do?

[byee]

Maybe you're feeling this way because you're flattered that someone feels sexual towards you and there's something exotic about the whole thing.

Seperate your feelings from the potential consequences of acting on them and decide if it is worth it. If you've never been inclined to do that sort of thing before, the chances are you're responding not so much to your own curiosity but rather the appealing and exotic nature of someone coming on to you. Acting on this often has unintended consequences, unless you're sure her reasons for doing this are the same as yours. If they're not, having a sexual encounter with another person who might experience it (and you) differently than you will can be quite problematic, to say the least.