Someone else's post prompted this

[Josh from SoCal]

The question had to do with coming out as a gay/bi person. I admit freely on here that I am bisexual. In fact, I've found more and more that I'm attracted to guys a least as much as I am to girls. But I'm still not out with my family and friends.

Am I a hypocrite because i think its chill to be who you are and im perfectly fine about their sexuality but not enough with my own to open up about it? The people I know who are gay or bi seem to be pretty much accepted by everyone regardless of that aspect of them. But in my own case, I'm afraid I might be treated differently. The only people who know is my older brother and he's fine with it and one friend who has messed around with me some. I have no idea how my parents would react.

So, what should I do? Just come out and get it over with?

Wait until I'm in college?

i want to be who i am but its this huge thing that could explode on me if i handle it wrong.

HELP!!

[The Flash]

You're not a hypocrite, at one point I don't think I was okay with my sexuality, but now, I love being bi.
I wasn't sure of coming out to my friend, but seriously, it was the best thing. My friend's reaction was different, she was so chill and wasn't all like "OMG CONGRATSS".
I know I only came out to one person, but it's worth it.

If you want to come out, start off by telling a couple people at a time, but make sure they're not homophobic. And you should come out to people you trust, and people that would trust you. Because if your friend trusts you and you trust them, that means your friendship is strong.

[Josh from SoCal]

My very best friend might - MIGHT - be chill about it. but we've been naked in front of each other before and I'm afraid it will make him get the wrong idea that I was checking him out all those times. I wasn't, at least not sexually, but maybe just curious. But imo all guys do that out of curiosity at least.

He's the one person besides my brother (who knows) that I trust with my life. Still, I'm nervous af about telling him. Any suggestions on how to bring it up with him?

[steellord321]

You should do whatever you're comfortable with. If hiding it is stressful, come out. If you aren't ready, don't. Of course telling him will be stressful itself, but only temporary.

[justin 13]

I will wait until college.

[Gifford]

My very best friend might - MIGHT - be chill about it. but we've been naked in front of each other before and I'm afraid it will make him get the wrong idea that I was checking him out all those times. I wasn't, at least not sexually, but maybe just curious. But imo all guys do that out of curiosity at least.

He's the one person besides my brother (who knows) that I trust with my life. Still, I'm nervous af about telling him. Any suggestions on how to bring it up with him?

Hey, Josh, my heart goes out to you, buddy. I think you need someone solid in your court and i get a feeling your best friend is the one. I'd suggest you try him first. Tell him you need his help in dealing with a serious problem and ask when and where he'd like to go to talk about it, or when/where you could meet. Be clear it can't wait more than a day/two.

When you meet, tell him how much you value his friendship, and that he's the only one you felt you could share this with. Ask that he not share it with anyone and wait for his agreement. Tell him it has nothing to do with him, it's something about yourself you've been wrestling with for some weeks/months or whatever. It's eating you up and you need to make a decision on how to act after you make this decision.

He will already be thinking in his head what this could be about. I would then just spill it. There's no right or wrong way to say it. Let him know how much you value his friendship, that you trust him totally, and then reveal your sexuality. A short statement with a period. Then keep quiet and let him compose himself and speak. He will probably have some questions, be open and honest.

I think the outcome will be a good one and you'll be glad you went to him.

[Harley Quinn]

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