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unknownuser
August 24th, 2013, 12:07 PM
Sorry this is sort of going to be a rant thread, but I need to get it off my chest...

So I've always had this love/hate relationship with my family since I was little... I love my parents because you know, they're family, they brought me toys/clothes/food and such, but I was physically and verbal abused (by means of belt whipping/punching and being called bad things).

The physical abuse has somewhat ceased, but there are some occasions where my dad will get drunk and chase me around the house, trying to beat the shit out of me. I've put up with it for basically my whole life, so I guess that I'm kind of used to it... the verbal abuse, however, has been taking a toll on me. First it was both of my parents that would call me a "fat pig", "fat cow", and whatnot and I guess that was sort of a trigger for my eating disorder and self harm... My mom has sort of stopped, we sort of understand each other now and are on the same page, but my dad will still call me things, especially when he's had a lot to drink and you make him angry. (and did I mention that my dad gets angry REALLY easily, even the smallest thing like leaving a piece of paper on the kitchen table or not pushing in the computer chair gets him furious). I also have a younger sister, whom HATES my guts. She's always comparing herself to me, saying that I suck at everything and rubs it into my face that she's smart and I'm dumb, she's beautiful and I'm not, that everyone likes her and hates me, that she's going to be rich and famous and I'm going to die in a hole and no one is going to care about what happens to me (and this is coming from an effin 12-year old, you'd think they're all sweet and innocent, but NO.) And what really makes me mad is that she'll steal my favorite clothes, my hair stuff, and my make up and hide it from me because she says that I'm ugly as hell anyway and that stuff isn't even going to help me.

So yeah, tons of negativeness around here. I try not to let it get to me and brush it off, but there come times were I just want to repeatedly slam my head against a brick wall or just die because it takes hold of your mentality. Because when you're surrounded by these kinds of people that keep pushing you down your whole life, you eventually break down and can't take it anymore...

End of rant

Mynick
August 24th, 2013, 02:42 PM
I'm sorry to hear that.
Since your mom has stoped couldn't she help you dealing with your father? I mean its horrible that both used to do it, but since one of them has stoped you could 'team up'.
Do you share you room with your sister? And does your father or you mother 'protect' her? If no she's 12 you're 17, and i know you dont want to be like your father, but if you slap her and talk to her?
Sorry if i sound stupid.

Luminous
August 24th, 2013, 02:50 PM
It's not fair you should have to take that. If you're a minor, you can call CPS and stay with a foster family for a while.
If you're 18+, move out. Maybe you can't afford your own apartment or something, so move in with a friend or relative.
Is your little sister abused too? If she is you need to get her out of there as well, but it sounds to me like your parents favor her.
Feel free to vm or pm me.
Hannah

unknownuser
August 24th, 2013, 07:30 PM
I'm sorry to hear that.
Since your mom has stoped couldn't she help you dealing with your father? I mean its horrible that both used to do it, but since one of them has stoped you could 'team up'.
Do you share you room with your sister? And does your father or you mother 'protect' her? If no she's 12 you're 17, and i know you dont want to be like your father, but if you slap her and talk to her?
Sorry if i sound stupid.

No, your advice doesn't sound stupid at all, I appreciate it.

We've tried with my dad, he just doesn't understand how he hurts others. That's how he was raised and that's now how he's raising us, I guess...

And yes, I do believe that my sister is the favorite one. She's too shallow though and feels see far to superior and intelligent to actually talk to me about something like this (and yes, sadly she's only 12 and thinks like this). I've tried.

unknownuser
August 24th, 2013, 07:32 PM
It's not fair you should have to take that. If you're a minor, you can call CPS and stay with a foster family for a while.
If you're 18+, move out. Maybe you can't afford your own apartment or something, so move in with a friend or relative.
Is your little sister abused too? If she is you need to get her out of there as well, but it sounds to me like your parents favor her.
Feel free to vm or pm me.
Hannah

Thanks Hannah.
I'll be 18 in less than a month so I'll think about it. It's easier said than done though; calling the cops or leaving your family...

Luminous
August 24th, 2013, 08:13 PM
Thanks Hannah.
I'll be 18 in less than a month so I'll think about it. It's easier said than done though; calling the cops or leaving your family...

It absolutely is easier said than done. But if you're really miserable, I know you are strong enough to get up the courage to leave. You wouldn't have posted here if you weren't happy with your life how it is right now.
Maybe you can even just hang out at a friend's house every day, and stay the night when possible?

Camazotz
August 24th, 2013, 08:39 PM
Thanks Hannah.
I'll be 18 in less than a month so I'll think about it. It's easier said than done though; calling the cops or leaving your family...

That's a decision that's going to trouble you for the rest of your life, but I think it's one that you're going to have to make eventually. If you really don't want to call and get help, the best thing you can do is when you move out, limit any time you spend with them- maybe see them a few times a year for holidays, but staying in an environment like that is dangerous.

As for your sister, if you don't really think you can reach her verbally to communicate and share your thoughts and feelings with her, either completely ignore her or assert your dominance and elderly superiority (whatever you think will work).

sqishy
August 26th, 2013, 11:10 AM
:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(

This is not a rant; this is you being perfectly justified in speaking out. If this happened to me, I'd quickly descend into fear and depression. It's great that you seem less impacted by it, but still, nobody should take stuff like this!

Of course it gets to the point where you just can't take it. In fact, you should never have taken it. Resist and snap back if they do this. For self-defense, and keeping your psychological security.

Beauregard
August 27th, 2013, 11:36 AM
as for your lil sister...I guess the best would be to just ignore her. she really sounds like a stupid person when she treats her older sibling like that...an people like her aren't worth the energy of arguing or reasoning with them.
as for your dad...I totally understand you as my own dad's a very violent person, too. I now how hard it is to take action against yor own family ...at least you are soon old enough to move out if you can't take it any longer.
just stay strong...and try to start a new life away from your family as soon as you can. I wish you all the best for it.