Is this normal! HELP!

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[Camazotz]

I don't think it's fair of anyone to judge you based on who you do/don't have a crush on, for whatever reason. Don't feel guilty about not having a crush on her.

I don't think giving her money is necessarily the right decision. It'd do more harm than good to give her food every day; she might feel embarrassed, you're giving away lots of money (it'll add up), and it'll just change the relationship in a negative away.

[drew6]

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That's a bit shallow, but honestly everyone is shallow. (Even if we don't want to admit it.)

[Croconaw]

It's normal... And being poor would definitely not change my opinion of someone.

[Josh from SoCal]

Before I was adopted, I was as poor as you can be. Let's just say that a good day was when I could get a hot dog at 7-11. Now, my family has way more money than you could imagine. I've been on both sides of your situation. I've been the one to get the help from someone and now I get to be the one to help others.

How you can help her is to let a teacher know what you know. Adults know way more about ways to help someone we do. I've learned a lot about charity and how to share it now that I can. Anonymity is far better and adults know how to make that happen cuz they know all the different things available that can be used to help.

It's awesome that you personally want to help her. But it's impractical on many levels. And as for disappearing crush feelings, imo thats just that because you cant have both types of feelings and your empathy outweighed your desires. Nothing wrong with that.