Texting

[Hank Hill]

So this last school year was my senior year in high school, yay me, graduation yay.

I dated a girl, she turns 16 this year and fell in love, real love, yes, not that fake stuff that a lot of high school relationships have. We both love eachother, and are trying our best to wait the 2 years for her to turn 18 so that we can be together again because we're great to and for eachother.

In order to stay together we've been texting almost every day this entire summer and plan on texting eachother until she turns 18.

However, her dad really likes me but wasn't totally comfortable with us being together since I'm 18 and she wasn't, so we ended the relationship because we had to, not because we wanted to.

Anyway, her dad can sometimes have a short temper with her, she explains to me how that's because her parents are divorced and she's just like her mom, so what I'm wondering is:

Even though it's totally legal for us to text eachother while she's not 18, do you think it's smart? Sometimes I have those worries that if her dad finds out we're still texting he'll just assume that we're still together and blow up and there will be some trouble that follows for both of us, which could include the law for me even when there are no laws being broken.

That's the short story, so what do you guys think?

[Elysium]

Instead of assuming or worrying, why not have her ask her father if it's okay if you two platonically communicate? If he says no and you're both still desperate to talk to one another, tell him that he can monitor your communication to prove that there's no romantic stuff happening.

[Cygnus]

Just tell her to change your contact name, her father can't monitor absolutely all her text chats.

[Hank Hill]

Just tell her to change your contact name, her father can't monitor absolutely all her text chats.

We actually talked about doing that, so I think that's what we'll go with.

Great minds think alike. Thanks :D

[Altiier]

Just tell her to change your contact name, her father can't monitor absolutely all her text chats.

Instead of encouraging him to lie about it(Not cool -_-)... The most mature thing to do would be to ask her Dad about it, as terrifying as that sounds he will probably be taken aback by your honesty and even if he does say no I imagine he wont have a problem with you two being together when she is 18. Hope that helps :D

[Josh from SoCal]

Instead of encouraging him to lie about it(Not cool -_-)... The most mature thing to do would be to ask her Dad about it, as terrifying as that sounds he will probably be taken aback by your honesty and even if he does say no I imagine he wont have a problem with you two being together when she is 18. Hope that helps :D

I agree with this answer. You were dating before you turned 18, right? Did her dad know about you then? If so, was he chill with it? I don't think things magically change when you turn 18. You're not a different person one day then turn 18 and become something else.

Since you are now an adult, legally you have to be careful. But if you and her sit down with him and explain how you both feel about each other but that you are mature enough to understand that things changed when you turned 18, it will show him that you are smart and responsible. He should respect that in you. And that you both talk to him together, calmly and maturely, he is way more likely to approve of things. The whole "let him monitor" your conversation will quickly become boring for him when he comes to realize that you are maintaining your relationship without crossing any lines.

That imo is the foundation for a lasting relationship with her as well as with her dad.