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[Atonement]

:confused: I think too much. I think of everything from death, to faith, to just life in general. Then, when I think too much, I get very sad so I just push everything to the side and distract myself. I refuse to confront issues that I am fearing are changing me. All of these thoughts that have been pushed away are coming back stronger than ever. I am getting increasingly sad and depressed. I do not know what to do... help?

[thesphinx]

This is what happens when you try to hold your emotions in, its the bottle affect eventually they will come out and when they do it will be 10X worse.
The only way to get over something is to talk about it and get it out of you, don't hold it it.

[Atonement]

Talk... why? No one to talk to.. and why should I? Appearently all me emotions are very bottled up...

[thesphinx]

Because its the only way to get over this, you can talk to a counselor a therapist or a trusted adult.

[byee]

Plop, eventhough you might not be sure where your unhappiness comes from, it does seem as if you've figured out that your way of dealing with it makes it worse. So, you'd probably do well to try to deal with those feelings differently. And to do that, you might need to do some things that you don't particularly like to do or want to do.

Think of people who you feel most comfortable with, who you can share yourself with. If that doesn't work, consider some adult, like a guidance counsellor. Getting it off your chest might seem more uncomfortable, but it's really not as bad as what you're doing now.

Maybe you could practice here with us.

[angryhalfdemon]

Plop, eventhough you might not be sure where your unhappiness comes from, it does seem as if you've figured out that your way of dealing with it makes it worse. So, you'd probably do well to try to deal with those feelings differently. And to do that, you might need to do some things that you don't particularly like to do or want to do.

Think of people who you feel most comfortable with, who you can share yourself with. If that doesn't work, consider some adult, like a guidance counsellor. Getting it off your chest might seem more uncomfortable, but it's really not as bad as what you're doing now.

Maybe you could practice here with us.

What he said! It may feel uncomfortable at first, but talking to people about your problems is the best therapy. I've never been too expressive about my feelings ever, and it's left me depressed too. I guess recently I've learned to open up, especially with the help of the people on this site, and it really feels great! ^_^ You should try it, just keep doing what you're doing here. And feel free to pm me if you feel like it too.

[Atonement]

Thank you but I think I give up. My thoughts may bring me down but, they must go away eventually...

[byee]

We're getting circular here, plop. In order to make them go away, you have to do something, like talk about them. They go away when you talk about them.

Practice here! We're here to help.

[KayKay]

dont hold your emotions in.. i do that and in the end it doesnt help... i just makes things sooo much worse

[jma94]

Holding your emotions in is the one of the worst things possible you can do. Its a quick fix. It goes away for... a week or more depending on what your keeping inside. When these things come back it its WAY worse than the first time you had the feeling. If you "bottle" it up again... it just keeps getting worse. I know from personal experience. Its not good. I would like... break down after holding things in for sooo long. then i started talking to people, like friends. It doesnt even have to be a theripist. Just someone you trust and someone who understands. it'll get better if you talk. :]

[Zephyr]

You know, I used to have the same problem, and sometimes still do. The thing is, that you have to learn to let some of these thoughts go and just live your life. That is the single handedly the best advice that I have ever been given, and I didn't need to go to therapy to learn that. You have to let life change you. If you bottle it up due to the fear of change, it can be damaging to your self-esteem. You have to just deal with these issues as seen best by you. We all go through changes in personality.

I can vouche for that: in junior high and freshman year I was shy, geeky, loner, fugly and the constantly the object of everybody's ridicule. I was afraid to change myself because it meant taking risks. But with taking those risks and accepting the chagnes, now in my senior year of high school, I'm now seen as smart, stylish, I have many more friends, sophisticated well beyond me age and beautiful according to teachers and peers telling me so... my teachers even told my mom of how amazed they are of how I've become this total opposite in the last 4 years the last time conferences rolled around.


So in short: If you just let these depressing thoughts go and confront the issues, you will be better off in the long run :)

[JoMan]

You should talk to someone on the forums Plop, someone you trust. You can tell us all here if you want. We won't judge you.