Defining my sexuality

[Daracon]

Recently I have been looking into various different types of sexuality and I can't seem to find one that fits me. I am sexually and emotionally attracted to girls and emotionally attracted to boys. I looked at heteromanticism, homoromanticism and biromanticism but unless I have been reading the definition wrong they don't fit. To give more insight, I would date and have sex with a girl. I would date a guy but to put it bluntly I would not get and erection seeing him naked, I would love him for the emotional connection. Hope that made sense. Hopefully some of you are in similar positions and can relate. Thanks for your help. Reply if you need further info. :)

[BennyBen]

I'm not in the same position, but why do you need a specific label to label yourself as? You are a guy who is sexually and emotionally attracted to girls and only emotionally attracted to guys. I am emotionally and physically attracted to guys and only physically attracted to girls. We are in similar boats, but not the same. Don't rush to put a label on and be proud of who you are! I'm sorry if I didn't answer your question ideally.

[Daracon]

I'm not in the same position, but why do you need a specific label to label yourself as? You are a guy who is sexually and emotionally attracted to girls and only emotionally attracted to guys. I am emotionally and physically attracted to guys and only physically attracted to girls. We are in similar boats, but not the same. Don't rush to put a label on and be proud of who you are! I'm sorry if I didn't answer your question ideally.



Thanks for the reply. I want to find what I am because it would be easier to tell people what my orientation is. I would call myself bisexual but that would mostly be a lie because it would mean I am also physically attracted to boys as well. It is mainly for convenience sake I suppose lol. Do you identify with anything in particular when someone asks? I am just asking because like you said, in some ways we are in the same boat.

[Josh from SoCal]

sounds to me like you are straight with a strong bromance thing. nothing wrong with that. bromance imo is nothing more than a deeper than average connection/love for your male friend. you dont get aroused by him but do you want to kiss him and cuddle with him? if not, then it's pure bromance. if so, then it's a grey area that maybe doesnt have a specific label. but unless you intend to go around advertising your relationship preferences, there really isn't any need to "define" it with some term. i have a friend that im very deeply emotionally tied to and i love him very very much. but he's just my friend even though we have actually kind of cuddled once.

[Daracon]

sounds to me like you are straight with a strong bromance thing. nothing wrong with that. bromance imo is nothing more than a deeper than average connection/love for your male friend. you dont get aroused by him but do you want to kiss him and cuddle with him? if not, then it's pure bromance. if so, then it's a grey area that maybe doesnt have a specific label. but unless you intend to go around advertising your relationship preferences, there really isn't any need to "define" it with some term. i have a friend that im very deeply emotionally tied to and i love him very very much. but he's just my friend even though we have actually kind of cuddled once.

Thanks for the response! Yeah I would want to kiss and cuddle, those things to me can stem from an emotional connection with someone else. I think my love is slightly higher than bromance in that respect. Thanks again for your answer!

[Faolan]

i'm the opposite (sexually attracted to boys, and emotionally attracted to both). I don't really define myself, but I call it gay/bi. There's a TED Talk called "50 Shades of Gay" that talks about stuff like this. You are just you. Don't label yourself.

[Daracon]

i'm the opposite (sexually attracted to boys, and emotionally attracted to both). I don't really define myself, but I call it gay/bi. There's a TED Talk called "50 Shades of Gay" that talks about stuff like this. You are just you. Don't label yourself.

Wow! That video was awesome! Thank you for sharing and replying!

[Faolan]

Wow! That video was awesome! Thank you for sharing and replying!

No problem! It's one of my favorite TED Talks.

[anonteen]

You shouldn't feel the need to label your self. Dont stress over it. You will find yourself, and if you dont, just tell people what ever you want. You dont have to label your self anything.

Mike

[Someday]

I am sexually and emotionally attracted to girls and emotionally attracted to boys.

You said it right there, dearie. Sexually and emotionally attracted to girls, emotionally attracted. I, being more than a little OCD, find that labels bring order to my life, and I understand why you'd like to have a place where you belong. I'd say that you're biromantic and heterosexual.
HOWEVER.
This doesn't mean you'll stay this way for life. Human beings, and their sexualities, evolve. It's fluid, rather than static, and you may find that in ten years, things have changed.