Uncertainties

[kingaaron]

I am seventeen and as such will have many decisions to make in the near future.
Unfortunately, my parents will disapprove of a lot of the decisions, none of which I feal are terribly irresponsible. I'll list them but this is not really the point of the message.
1: Go to a learning program to better cope with my disability (I do not wish to disclose the disability, but it is not a mental alement)
2: Visit a friend in Canada (he has volenteered to help me with part of the ticket)
3: Well, I'm bi and my parents are totally against this and so I want to come out to everybody but they will strongly disapprove of this.

So, the reason I am worried about this is I really have no ability of going anywhere else to live, so I'm still under their roof in their house. My brother is 20 years old, and they still ground him. They told him "If you don't start going to bed earlier I'll take your cards away."
Can they legally do this? I would presume at that point it is theft? The most they could do is say you don't touch them or your out of here, right?
I am just worried of what could happen to my possetions when I make my decisions known to them.
Any help? Advice? Sorry for lack of grammar and proper spelling, in a rush ATM.

[Jay_Swagg_LOL]

All of those decisions sound awesome. What I would is definitely tell them how you want to cope with your disability. That is the most important of the three. Second tell them about wanting to see your friend and reassure them how you will do your best and be responsible, being that your going to freaking Canada. Then telling them your bi... ouch I have no idea what to say about that.

Now talking about you being grounded and such. Are your brothers cards in his name? If so then they cannot legally take them. If things get to ugly, ask some friends for help. Like if you need a place to stay or just clear your head presumably.

[Luminous]

Those sound like great ambitions to me. You might just need to get out of the house and live on your own.
I'm not positive if it's theft or not. Did your brother buy his stuff with his own money, or did your parents. I think the government wouldn't consider it thievery, unless maybe he bought his stuff with a credit card under his name.

[kingaaron]

Yus, they are.
My brother can take care of himself though.
I am more concerned with my curcumstances. Would they be able to take my stuff away?
My computer? My game consoles?
My collectors items?
My cards I never use but might sell on ebay some day?
my video games?
These would all have been perchased under their name all be it with my money most of the time or as a gift from a friend.
I know my parents, and they will do their best to make my life unpleasant for me unless I follow their exact wish plans and expectations.

[Tarannosaurus]

They will have to accept that you are an adult now and can make your own decisions. Is there any way you could explain this to them? You said you can't go anywhere else to live but it really sounds like you should consider moving out.

[kingaaron]

Well, I can judge based upon how they've treated me in the past and how they still treat my 20 year old brother that they'd certainly not accept that I am an adult. I've considered attempting to live with someone and pay rent, my friend with the same disability did this all be it for different reasons.
I would be able to pay the bill with my disability money, so perhaps it is more realistic for me to move out than I or my parents think. Truth is though, I've been sheltered my entire life. I don't have the experience I need says my friend with the same disability.
"You've never been in public by yourself, you've never crossed a street alone, you need training." Which, of corse is why I am going for training. It is also very possible I can live at the training facility as life skills is an important think I will have to learn.
I don't know. Thoughts? Advice? I could really use it. Thanks to the people who have given feedback so far. ergh! Life's so hard! It's like a tread mill. You keep running and running expending all of your energy, and you get nowhere.

[JamesSuperBoy]

It might be easier all round to concentrate on one thing for now -

so maybe the learning program is a good start.

You do not have to give reasons here - but I ma unsure if you mean your parents would not want you to do the program.

[kingaaron]

I do mean that. They don't want me to do the program because of separation angsiety. The program is many hours away and we'd go weeks with out seeing each other, and they do not want this because they are over protective. My mom has offered to try and teach me what the program will, but she hasn't made an attempt so far. Even if she had she has know idea how to teach me these skills.