How do i come out to people as bi?

[CommunistMetalhead]

I have only told a few people i know that i'm bisexual. Any ideas on how to gradually do it. I haven't told my parents and even though they wouldn't care i just don't want to. Can you share your experience with this?

[Croconaw]

Well my mom is accepting of the fact that I'm bisexual. My dad thinks I'm joking or whatever but I don't really care... I'm sure they would be supportive if you told your parents. You really don't have to if you don't feel ready to tell them. It's your decision though and not mine.

[Tarannosaurus]

I came out as bi first and casually came out by dropping it into a conversation. I usually came out to one person at a time while a friend that already knew was there. That way with my friend acting natural about it and just continuing the conversation the other person would have a more relaxed reaction. When people don't know how to react they follow other people's reactions so if you mention it casually they'll react casually. I won't be much help with parents as mine took it quite badly, but I suppose you could just casually mention it.

[CommunistMetalhead]

Thanks. I'm not to scared of their reaction. I'm slowly telling friends one by one now.

[Tarannosaurus]

That's great :)

[The Flash]

Be like "Do you think im gay?" and if they say "yes" or "no", reply with "Well, you're half right..."

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Be like "Do you think im gay?" and if they say "yes" or "no", reply with "Well, you're half right..."

But bi isn't "half guy", it's its own orientation ...

[Spook]

Well, the easiest way to tell someone your bisexual is this...
Ask to talk to them, and say: "I'm bisexual."

That's what I did, anyways.
It's really not that big of a deal.
If people don't accept it, screw them. They don't have to like it.

[Josh from SoCal]

Well, the easiest way to tell someone your bisexual is this...
Ask to talk to them, and say: "I'm bisexual."

That's what I did, anyways.
It's really not that big of a deal.
If people don't accept it, screw them. They don't have to like it.

Some of us care about our relationships with our friends and family and don't want to screw that up over something that honestly doesn't affect them (hopefully). I can disagree with my friends over politics or religion but we don't get into all that so we can avoid any problems. Why take the chance of accidentally damaging that relationship?

I'm not saying to NOT tell them but I can see why doing that would be a huge deal for someone. Clearly, I'm struggling with the same problem.

[Mariebme]

I think I am too...but I have girl friends who've come out and ppl here are pretty darn accepting. I hope you have the same experience. I'm not an expert but I suppose it's a different thing for guys and girls.

[CommunistMetalhead]

I think I am too...but I have girl friends who've come out and ppl here are pretty darn accepting. I hope you have the same experience. I'm not an expert but I suppose it's a different thing for guys and girls.

If a girl is bisexual everyone is fine with it. If a guy is bisexual people are less so. It has to do with sexualization of lesbians.

[KieranRules]

I never came out... I was asked about it and I told people. See, I'm not one to see such a point of 'coming out' its not like people who are straight 'come out'. Perhaps its because I prefer to keep things 'normal' or 'flowing'. I mean, why would people care if I was straight, gay or bi, I'm still me, right?

[Twilly F. Sniper]

I'm not really sure because I live in a place where you tell those few people, next thing you know, everyone in town knows.

[sqishy]

First off, don't feel like you need to get it over and done with sooner rather than later. If you think you are ready it's fine, but don't pressure yourself.

I plan to ask people about their views on non-straight people, and if they are ok with it, I'll subtly hint that I am not straight, and then they'll know. That's what I'll do at first, because telling them straight out is wayy to nerve-wracking (I did that when I came out to my first friend in July).
If the nerves lessen after I come out to the first few (other friends and people I know well), then I'll be fine with telling them without any cryptic clues.

That is what I plan to do. I advise you ask them on their views on LGBTs first, then see if you can go from there. If you know their opinion on it, then you'll be less nervous with how you think they'll react to you coming out to them, because you already have some sort of idea on how it could turn out. Less tension.:)

Hope this helps!

[Mariebme]

If a girl is bisexual everyone is fine with it. If a guy is bisexual people are less so. It has to do with sexualization of lesbians.

That kinda sucks. Society is really unfair in a lot of ways :confused:

[Tarannosaurus]

If a girl is bisexual everyone is fine with it. If a guy is bisexual people are less so. It has to do with sexualization of lesbians.

Where I live girls being bisexual is fine and they get a lot of attention from guys but some guys wouldn't even talk to a lesbian because they can only see girls as sexual objects, and if a girl doesn't want to flirt then forget it, they're not worth talking to. It's stupid the way some straight people think that being gay/bi makes a guy too feminine and being lesbian makes a girl too masculine.

[sqishy]

Where I live girls being bisexual is fine and they get a lot of attention from guys but some guys wouldn't even talk to a lesbian because they can only see girls as sexual objects, and if a girl doesn't want to flirt then forget it, they're not worth talking to. It's stupid the way some straight people think that being gay/bi makes a guy too feminine and being lesbian makes a girl too masculine.

It is another of those myths that must be got rid of. I am more feminine than other guys, but it doesn't mean that it is to be with every gay/bi male person.

[CommunistMetalhead]

i think i will just hint at it to people and if they ask i will tell them.

[Gifford]

Be like "Do you think im gay?" and if they say "yes" or "no", reply with "Well, you're half right..."

Hahaha! That's the absolute BEST! I love that! Levity always helps drop the pressure a couple of notches.

[Harley Quinn]

Please don't bump threads. :locked: