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[mijr1999]

now im just wondering one of my female friends (16 years old) has been pregnant to one of my male friends (15 years old) about 5 times and shes had 4 abortions and now shes pregnant again shes 12 weeks and shes keeping it throughout all of her pregnancys they break up and get back together and so on they broken up about 50 times throughout the past 3 years and i was just wondering should they end it for good im just worried that she will have a miscarriage because of the stress of the relationship. just this pregnancy everytime they break up she threatens to kill herself and everything so yeah should they end it or stay together for the kid?

[Jabbawocke]

.-. Abortion is never the answer. They had sex, knew the hazards, and payed no mind to it. They both should've learned from the past mistakes, so they both have to shoulder it now. However, if they do get together, and the baby is born, they probably won't know how to properly support it.. So it would be as good as dead using abortion.

[teen.jpg]

now im just wondering one of my female friends (16 years old) has been pregnant to one of my male friends (15 years old) about 5 times and shes had 4 abortions and now shes pregnant again shes 12 weeks and shes keeping it throughout all of her pregnancys they break up and get back together and so on they broken up about 50 times throughout the past 3 years and i was just wondering should they end it for good im just worried that she will have a miscarriage because of the stress of the relationship. just this pregnancy everytime they break up she threatens to kill herself and everything so yeah should they end it or stay together for the kid?

I can see where you'd be concerned, but I don't think it's any of your business.

[mijr1999]

I can see where you'd be concerned, but I don't think it's any of your business.

yes i know its none of my buisness but shes one of my closest friends and i know if she has a miscarriage she will end her life i just want to know if they maybe should end the relationship

[Jabbawocke]

yes i know its none of my buisness but shes one of my closest friends and i know if she has a miscarriage she will end her life i just want to know if they maybe should end the relationship

Besides, even if you do decide that they should end the relationship, what about the baby? That should be the top priority. If the girl suicides, the baby dies too.

[eckiboy]

doesn't she know the pill or condoms?

[roadwarrior]

why she didn't use condom or any contraceptives while they're doing sex??

[mijr1999]

she had the rod which is a contraceptive but she still got pregnant . she was also on the pill but still got pregnant on that and everytime they have sex she tells him to wear a condom but he doesnt

[JamesSuperBoy]

now im just wondering one of my female friends (16 years old) has been pregnant to one of my male friends (15 years old) about 5 times and shes had 4 abortions and now shes pregnant again shes 12 weeks and shes keeping it throughout all of her pregnancys they break up and get back together and so on they broken up about 50 times throughout the past 3 years and i was just wondering should they end it for good im just worried that she will have a miscarriage because of the stress of the relationship. just this pregnancy everytime they break up she threatens to kill herself and everything so yeah should they end it or stay together for the kid?

Not really sure anyone can answer that - as you say everytime they break up she threatens to kill - but you can see there has been 50 breakups and maybe more to come - its life

Sometimes we can do nothing even for our best friends - they make choices

[Luminous]

Sounds like she isn't making wise choices. It's not your business, really, but I think more good than harm will come if you say to her, "Listen, you need to get your head up straight. You're having a baby, a real-life person is growing inside your belly and you're the one that's responsible, you're the one who is going to have to be a mom. Now you and _boyfriend_ need to make a choice, is he going to be a dad and support the baby, or not?"
She'll probably be pissed, so watch out. I'm pretty sure pregnant women are dangerous.

[punker_25]

youll feel better when you stop thinking about it. some people need to learn the hard way

[mijr1999]

thanks a heap for the answers guys