Dating help... >.<

[Apophis]

Hello. I'm sure some of you remember me from a while back.. well either way I ended my online dating thing cause honestly long distance sucks! so mainly it's best to stay local haha!! Anyway's here's my story down below!!

Please bare with me with the long list of questions about dating, but I honestly don't know what to do about this girl I like at the store.

Anyway's first of all I am trying to talk to this girl but my nerves are bad around her! Every time I go to her lane at the store I get nervous and start shaking! I did talk to her for a brief moment but I don't know what to say to her or what to even do! She asked how I was and I said I was good and I asked how she was and that was about it!

Anyway's first question is how do I strike a good conversation with her while she is ringing through the items I'm buying ?

And after I strike a good conversation with her what should I do ? should I ask for her number or should I just wait till next time to get it ?

Also I really don't want to feel embarrassed about dating cause of my parents, I feel that they are gonna tease me about having a girl friend and stuff.

Also if I ever do get to date this girl, how do I pick her up ? cause I don't have a car nor a drivers license at this time.

One last question cause I don't want to take up to much of your time! But what should I do for the first date, should I bring her flowers or a necklace ? also where should I take her ?

anyway's I just wanted to to say thank you for taking the time to read this and answering this! it means a lot!

[Camazotz]

Anyway's first question is how do I strike a good conversation with her while she is ringing through the items I'm buying ?

To be honest, there really isn't a good way to talk to her while she's working. Small talk will work (ask about something visible in front of you, like news on the magazine cover), but it's kind of impolite to expect her to have a good conversation with you at work. Instead, mention or invite her some place you both know (like if you're both friends with someone who's having a party). If that's not possible, tell her you need to ask/tell her something, but you (don't have enough time)/(can't ask her at work) so you need her number or offer your number to her.

And after I strike a good conversation with her what should I do ? should I ask for her number or should I just wait till next time to get it ?

Whenever you get a chance to have a good conversation (again, not at her job), then you could ask for her number when the conversation is ending. Preferably do this somewhere public (like a party) where the mood is light and she's less likely to perceive it as less serious than in private.

Also I really don't want to feel embarrassed about dating cause of my parents, I feel that they are gonna tease me about having a girl friend and stuff.

If you don't feel ready to be in a relationship, then you don't have to. If you really like this girl, then you shouldn't care what your parents say (I'm sure they'll be supportive and tease jokingly). Having a girlfriend is nothing to be embarrassed about.

Also if I ever do get to date this girl, how do I pick her up ? cause I don't have a car nor a drivers license at this time.

Until you're old enough to drive, you're stuck being chauffeured/meeting up. When I first started dating, my girlfriend and I were usually driven by one of our parents to and from places. We didn't have friends old enough to drive with on double dates or such. It sounds weird at first, but it gives parents the chance to actually meet and talk to their kid and their boyfriend/girlfriend.

As awkward as you might feel, you're going to have to meet her parents and be able to socialize with them. Get used to it and get comfortable, because that'll probably a constant thing whenever you have a relationship. Again, if you don't think you're ready for that, don't feel pressured into asking out a girl.

One last question cause I don't want to take up to much of your time! But what should I do for the first date, should I bring her flowers or a necklace ? also where should I take her ?

First dates are usually nerve-wracking and awkward for most teenagers. The best thing to do is go to a comfortable environment where you don't have to worry about too many things. Movies are the classic first date- you don't have to worry about having a lot of money, you don't have to make too much conversation (you'll be watching a movie), you don't have to get all dressed up, etc. It's very casual. Usually going out to dinner before or after is a good idea, if you can afford it (I don't want to start a debate, but pay for her meal).

If you're tight on money, make some sandwiches and have a picnic at a local park or something. I feel like this is a more romantic option, so you might want to wait to use this one, since the scene is more intimate being one-on-one and you have to be engaged with her the whole time, although that may be more your style.

As for a gift? That's really up to you, but I personally would not spend too much money on a girl you haven't had a date with. Gifts are great for holidays, birthdays, and occasionally when they're spontaneous, but I think anything more than flowers for a first date is a bit overkill. It'll make it awkward for her if she doesn't want it to get serious, and you're stuck with something expensive. Depending on the mood (so good for a picnic, out of place for movies), flowers can be great. They show sincerity and maturity.

Good luck OP, I hope everything works out great for you :D I've given you advice that I wish I had when I started dating, but I admit that it's not perfect and won't work for everyone, so listen to other peoples' advice too. Any more questions, feel free to ask :yes:

[Apophis]

Thank's so much for the advice! It mean's a lot, the problem is though. Personally I don't know her! But that's the only place I can strike a conversation is at her work place, cause I ain't friends with anyone she's friends with! cause I don't know her. Anyway's I'll just talk to her casually and then after a few more times, I'll see if I can get her number.. I'll try my best! But anyway's thanks again!

[JamesSuperBoy]

Thank's so much for the advice! It mean's a lot, the problem is though. Personally I don't know her! But that's the only place I can strike a conversation is at her work place, cause I ain't friends with anyone she's friends with! cause I don't know her. Anyway's I'll just talk to her casually and then after a few more times, I'll see if I can get her number.. I'll try my best! But anyway's thanks again!


Ok - then your first priority is to find out where she goes out off work, does she have to wait outside the store for someone to collect her.

Maybe you cut the chat and just have your name and number - email etc written down to give her.

The last thing you want is to get her in trouble at work

[Camazotz]

Maybe you cut the chat and just have your name and number - email etc written down to give her.

I think this is pretty good advice, although some people might say that sounds desperate or weird. But it's straight-forward, simple, and doesn't have much risk. What I would do is talk to her on line at the store, tell her you'd love to continue this conversation some other time and tell her to text you (and you give her your phone number- it's your call if you already have this written down; it might seem strange to have it already done, but it'd be quicker and easier so it doesn't disrupt her work).

[JamesSuperBoy]

I think this is pretty good advice, although some people might say that sounds desperate or weird. But it's straight-forward, simple, and doesn't have much risk. What I would do is talk to her on line at the store, tell her you'd love to continue this conversation some other time and tell her to text you (and you give her your phone number- it's your call if you already have this written down; it might seem strange to have it already done, but it'd be quicker and easier so it doesn't disrupt her work).

Desperate - weird - no way have you never heard of business cards - thats what people do - saves time and the girl is at work.

[Camazotz]

Desperate - weird - no way have you never heard of business cards - thats what people do - saves time and the girl is at work.

I have never heard of a teenager that gave his business card to a girl, let alone a teenager actually having business cards.

[Daniel_2013]

No,don't write it down she will probably think that's weird and not want to text you.

[JamesSuperBoy]

I have never heard of a teenager that gave his business card to a girl, let alone a teenager actually having business cards.

Sorry maybe a bad example - but I meant in a similar way to business cards

when you want someone to have a way of contacting you -

[Camazotz]

Sorry maybe a bad example - but I meant in a similar way to business cards

when you want someone to have a way of contacting you -

Oh okay. But I still don't know anyone that carries their information like that in their pocket, is what I'm saying. It might seem out of the ordinary.