was i/am i being abused?

[jessistuart]

My dad used to severly beat my mother and sister, in particular my sister. Then i was born and mum made him promise to stop the abuse. However, i've grown up in fear of him, he used to scream at me and call me names but i don't think he hit me much as a child, just a few times. As a teenager i found its been worse, the names aren't as nice, bitch and cow get thrown around. If i talk too enthusiastically about school i get told to shut up and stop going on and that he doesn't care. One day i didn't answer my phone when i was out on a walk and when i got back he thumped me 3 times viciously on the back and afterwards was incredibly sorry and nice and gave me money. On my 16th birthday he screamed at me when i stood wrong for a photo and told me to go fuck myself and that i ruined my own birthday.
I've found ive gotten more and more scared of him, i cant cook in the kitchen because he'll shout at me, he always threatens to hit me, but doesn't do it, and lifts his hand to me all the time.
I've not really been beaten, not the way my sister and mum have. I cant tell if this is abuse because he doesnt realise what he's even doing and i dont have it as bad as others i'm so confused.

[Tarannosaurus]

Yes, this is verbal and physical abuse. His reactions to small things are unfair and overly violent. Even if he doesn't realise this is no excuse for making you live in fear.

[teen.jpg]

That's definitely abuse.

[suicidalbutter]

yes, a ton of verbal abuse. especially if you now fear him a lot more than you once did. and definitely physical abuse if he hit you.

[Luminous]

That sounds like it could likely be verbal abuse, and if it doesn't count as physical abuse now, it was in the past before you were born.

[roadwarrior]

That's definitely an abuse, i'm very sad for you..

[sqishy]

Abuse? Yes.:(

[numbness]

I think that's abuse :/

[APhkinPanda]

This is obviously physical and verbal abuse. Though, the thought of him hitting your mother and sister, but then not you. Show's a bit, like he has been trying to stop. Usually this follows in the way he was raised. Things probably anger him really quick, and he tries his best to stop. Because he doesn't seem to hit you but just threaten and shout words at you. You know him more than us on the VT, so you need to know how to act around him. Also, you need to get therapy from a personal. If it is possible, because this can impact you later in life. He also needs therapy and anger management classes. I do wish you the best of luck, please keep me inform if you can. If I am not on VT, you can contact me from my page. It will show you how to contact me.

[Running420]

Yea, i feel you, i was in the same boat as you, but then my parents seperated when i was 15 then it got much better, but if yours dont, then i guess you gotta hold on and make money for moving early..

[Happyguy1]

Its called psychological torture, it is abuse but not so easy to do anything about

[nklarke]

It's abuse but it's too late. You are almost an adult so I recommend you to study all that you can and start working part time and when you can leave your house. You can't live like that, the same for your sister.

[beluga]

Yes this is abuse

[Saint of Sinners]

I would consider it abuse.

[Emily15_xoxo]

sounds like verbal abuse to me, I don't know what you should do about it though as I've never been in that situation before :( stay strong.