I can't believe she said this

[LadyoftheLamp]

My mom just went bat**** on me for no reason. She just said that she refuses to live with a fat person (me) and if I don't shape I will get beaten. In told I have no self respect and that my stomach hangs out like crazy( which is doesn't I'm just a little chubby). She insults me like crazy ant my weight. She even has the gall to tell me that I have no self respect because I'm overweight. Like seriously? An I only as good as I am skinny? I have so many good traits but they are worth almost nothing because of how I look. News flash! Some people judge by personality, not by looks! I am secure, I am not ugly. I am not in any health related danger. I am happy so stop projecting your insecurities on me!



Sorry about the rant lol

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Woow :( ... Does this happen a lot?

[Croconaw]

That's not very nice, and she should mind her own business. It shouldn't matter what she thinks. :(

[LadyoftheLamp]

She does this a LOT. Im not even that overweight, but she calls me obese.
I always wanted to lose weight just for the health benefits, but now she makes me wanna lose weight just to look skinny.

[gabzas331]

Well then your mum is a very shallow person. It may be hard, but rise above everything she says, and even move out if you can.

[uglyinsideandout]

What does "refuse to live with you" mean? Like she's going to kick you out? Or... ?

[Stronk Serb]

She has a legal responsibility to take care of you as her child, you can report her if she kicks you out.

[justin 13]

Dude ur mom is very rude.

[LadyoftheLamp]

What does "refuse to live with you" mean? Like she's going to kick you out? Or... ?


Exactly. She wants to kick me out for being chubby. I mean what kinda message are you sending to your kids that their respinsibility and maturity don't matter if you're not as skinny as all your friends?

[Spook]

Really? Even if you were a morbidly obese 1800-pound kid, your mom should love you for who you are. Why don't you tell her how you feel? If you don't have a problem with your weight, let her know that it's your body and your choice what you want to do with it.

[Camazotz]

Your mom sounds like a jerk. There's not much you can do about that other than try to ignore her verbal abuse and live life the way you want to.

[Trenton_]

Your mom sounds like a jerk. There's not much you can do about that other than try to ignore her verbal abuse and live life the way you want to.

they can lose the weight. why be fat?

[StoppingTime]

they can lose the weight. why be fat?

Yes because that's how it works. Snap your fingers, wave your wand, and you're not "fat" anymore.


In case you haven't noticed:

1. It isn't always easy for someone to lose weight for a whole host of reasons that they absolutely do not need to explain.
2. The OP isn't "fat" anyway, that word is so overused and generalized.

OP, just ignore her. If you're at a healthy weight, you've nothing to worry about. She just seems overly judgmental, and for the most part there's not much you can do to change that.

[Camazotz]

Your mom sounds like a jerk. There's not much you can do about that other than try to ignore her verbal abuse and live life the way you want to.

they can lose the weight. why be fat?

In this instance, that is referring to her mom being a jerk, which OP can't fix. Plus, acting irrationally angry at your own child for looking a certain way is incredibly shallow. No one chooses to be fat, and depending on genetics, diet (you can't force your parents to make healthy choices for you at OP's age), and lifestyle, it could be incredibly difficult to actually keep off weight, let alone lose it.

[Ethan1369]

Well then your mum is a very shallow person. It may be hard, but rise above everything she says, and even move out if you can.

That is the only help I can really give you but just try not to listen to your mom in this manner because she really crossed a line it seems.

[Luminous]

That's really horrible of her to say! She's your mom and she should love you no matter what. There's nothing wrong with her politely saying you might want to start working out but it's extremely rude and uncalled for to go insulting you like that.
Tell her that you will call child services (assuming you're a minor) if she continues to threaten and abuse you like this.
Good for you for being proud of who you are and comfortable in your body.

[uglyinsideandout]

I would just add o be careful what you wish for. There are circumstances where you CAN end up not living with your parents. Maybe in this case you don't want to but Just becasue something shouldn't be a certain way doesn't mean it can't end up that way.

Maybe a more productive approach would be to try to get her involved in an exercise program for you.

But TBH I have a hard time relating to all this becasue I just wish I had my mom back and that's clouding my judgement.

[Cygnus]

She has absolutely no right to beat you and you can actually report that, just tell her to leave you alone and let her see that you are making some effort (at least the minimum effort) to loose weight even if it is a single kilogram.

[UKRaven32]

If that was me, (although it might not be the best solution), I'd go bat**** insane at her back and see how she likes it, then arrange if I could move in with another family member until she sorts herself out. Of course this should be your absolute last resort if things don't get sorted out, you should probably contact someone like childline for advice.

[Thelizzerd]

It's her fault your fat (unless you gained fat and got chubby cause you wanted too). Tell it to her face!