How can I do it?

[xXMajor_PancakesXx]

So I'm 13 and gay and I like one of my best friends in my class, but he's straight. Also no one knows I'm gay because I live in a society that TOTALLY rejects gays (Christan School, Christian Family, etc.). And I'm 80% he feels the same, what do I do? I love him, but I'm sure he doesn't love me. :(

[NikosamA98]

Oh wow. I don't know buddy. Maybe you should talk with him and ask his opinion about gay people. You need to know if he is gay before doing something or just go for the curiosity option (j/o together or compare...that kind of stuff)

[Ryan2184]

You should befriend him first and invite to hang out.

[xXMajor_PancakesXx]

He makes fun of gay people daily but then again so do I because I'm just tagging along, maybe he feels the same way, I don't know?

[Ryan2184]

Hang out and u will get a vibe. The more u hang out the more u will find out. I don't think u should do it in a day. Lil by lil

[xXMajor_PancakesXx]

Thx guys for the advice, I really appreciate it!

[teen.jpg]

Do not tell him. Oh god, telling him is probably the worst decision to make. You're feelings will fade eventually, and you'll be dodging a huge bullet.

If you want to know how telling the guy I liked worked out for me, you can just read my old threads .....

[xXMajor_PancakesXx]

I don't know whose advice to follow! :/

[Matt_97]

I think you should just start off by befriending him, just take it one foot step at a time! In the end the decision is yours on whose advise you follow :) hope this helps abit

[xXMajor_PancakesXx]

He's already one of my best friends.

[ugaboy]

Just try and be a good friend to him. Then you just gotta feel things out, and see what happens. My best friend was always saying bad things about gays, but I think that was to keep his rep up.

[Hypers]

My advice is that you think through everything before doing anything. Think about what would happen if he's not gay. Think about how he would respond. Think about how he'd feel if a guy came to him and said I like you. Don't assume anything: assuming is just making an ass of u and me. Also, do it slowly. Don't tell him in all of a sudden because that'll most likely make him feel surprised and uncomfortable.

[indoxyl]

Do not tell him. Oh god, telling him is probably the worst decision to make. You're feelings will fade eventually, and you'll be dodging a huge bullet.

If you want to know how telling the guy I liked worked out for me, you can just read my old threads .....

Just because you had anexperience like his situation doesnt mean he will have the same experience as you did.and to be honest Your advice sounded really awful and discouraging

[oneDay]

He's already one of my best friends.

That doesn't really put your relationship into context since it's likely we all have different opinions on what makes a "best friend". So how exactly do you consider him a best friend? Have you known him for a long period of time? Do you spend a lot of time just hanging out or do you have more personal interaction? Is there mutual trust between you two? I think you get the point; it's difficult to make suggestions when we know little about you both.
That said, I think it'd be best to take a somewhat supportive position of gay rights or gay people if the subject were to come up in conversation. See what his response is and from there you can decide whether to be open with him or not. Whatever you do, do not get excited and tell him you love him. It can cost you this relationship and, as it seems, many more along with him. Be careful but good luck!! :)

[xXMajor_PancakesXx]

Again, thx guys for the advise! I really appreciate it!

[teen.jpg]

Just because you had anexperience like his situation doesnt mean he will have the same experience as you did.and to be honest Your advice sounded really awful and discouraging

Well, yes it does sound that way, but it's most likely going to be the outcome. The OP doesn't know the sexuality of the person they like, and they're probably straight.

And it won't work out.

[teen.jpg]

He's already one of my best friends.

If you know he's straight, then you should respect that, and know not to come onto him.

[steellord321]

What's the point in telling someone you know is str8 that you like him? He's not gonna become gay and fall for ya. Even coming out might not be safe. At least make sure the person ya tell is ok with it and won't go around telling the whole school. If your in an area that rejects gays, trust me once u have a gay label, it doesn't go away. I'm having to transfer, it got so bad. So just be careful.

[Swagamemmnon]

Again, thx guys for the advise! I really appreciate it!

I'd recommend that you stop making fun of gay people. This way you seem more gay friendly to closeted gays. Also, you want to find a way to get your friend's honest opinion on LGBT rights. The best way to do this is in a setting where he won't be tempted to 'go along' with other people. If you already know 100% that he's straight, however, then all you can do is respect that and keep being his friend.

[justin 13]

Dude bcareful I am in the same situation u r, Im 13, studying in a catholic school, old fashion dad and all my friends r str8 as a pole. I'm in the closet and will be there until college. I cant come out, will be a nitemare. And like u, I like some guys in my school and the church but it is too risky to even talk about gays.