Is my cousin lesbian?

[average_teen]

So my older cousin (who is now 24) and her family are very close to my family. And all through high school and college we never heard about any boyfriends. And she's very close with her female roomates, is very supportive of the lgbt community, and she is fascinated by women's rugby. I've heard her talk about guys being handsome before, but she talks about women being beautiful just as much. I want her to know that I'm there for her if she is lesbian and that I support her, but I don't want to create an awkward situation by asking her if she is lesbian and her not being. Based on this, can any of you guys tell one way or another? thanks

[Harley Quinn]

To be honest, you're not going to know unless she tells you herself. If you really want to know, you could ask, if she says no she says no, what's the worst that can happen?

[1_21Guns]

You could ask her, or just carry on regardless, do you really need to know the answer to it? Really? Just support her for whoever she is whether she comes out gay, bi, straight or if she doesn't come out as anything. If you want to be a bit more discrete you could bring up lgbt in conversation and talk about how supportive you are, if she is gay she might feel more open to tell you.

[Victory]

You could ask her, or just carry on regardless, do you really need to know the answer to it? Really? Just support her for whoever she is whether she comes out gay, bi, straight or if she doesn't come out as anything. If you want to be a bit more discrete you could bring up lgbt in conversation and talk about how supportive you are, if she is gay she might feel more open to tell you.

This.

Also, no offense, but she may not actually need your support... Many gay/lesbian/bi people are totally content and don't need support from anyone, and thus they don't really talk about it.

In fact, the biggest turn off for me when I meet another lesbian/bi girl that I think I may want to start dating or something (doesn't happen too often, lol) is when all they ever talk about is being gay... It's like, I get it, we're girls that like girls, can we talk about something else like other things we're into? The main reason I don't come out to most friends/family is because all they'll want to talk about is "supporting me". Maybe she's the same way with her friends and family.

Anyway, I'd say try to subtly get her to do the talking herself and confirm your assumptions. Some people have tried that with me though, and to be honest with you, I just let them keep assuming, lol.

[teen.jpg]

Does it matter? If she is and wants to tell you she will. Otherwise you don't need to know.