My relationship: Aftermath

[pieman10]

Hello everyone

For anyone reading this youve probably read though my boring relationship problems before so I do apologize for a third post, but hey I need advice.

Im going to start where I left off in my last thread.
So im single, just broke up with my girlfriend when she gets to close to another guy.
As I wrote before Im coming up to cadet camp but I have 2 weeks to see whats going to happen to my ex.

We keep fighting although weve broken up, then suddenly she sends me a text saying that shes really scared because she has to go to the dentist ( she hates needles) , she says im supposed to make sure she's never scared. This confuses me but I comfort her and we talk more. This continues for the next few days until we argue on and off until before camp she says that after our break she knows im the one she wants, I reject this.

At camp we talk and I find out from one of her friends that she kissed HIM ( the guy). This upsets me and I end up crying with one of her close friends ( shes upset about how much my ex had changed)
We continue to talk and we even kiss a few times in a private place, more confusing is that she even puts my hand on her boob and tells me she wants sex.
One day we agree that if she blanks HIM then I will blank a few girls that she doesn't like me talking to, I like this because its a commitment we can work towards.

A few days later she says she wants to go to bed and I say that shes going to go back out and see him, she promises not to and I leave her at her accommodation.
I then go out later and find them both talking, she says she just needed to catch up but im upset that she broke the promise.
The next day she says she will go to the shop with me again but when I go out I see them both walking around together, thats the promise broken a second time.

We leave camp and she texts me saying how sorry she is for all shes done but I ask to be left alone. Later one we say goodbye properly.

She goes out to the town with him during the week and im not to bothered but she did promise me she would stay single to xmas so ive yet to see if she keeps that promise.

Then a few days ago, this is a WEEK after camp.
I see photos of her and her family ice skating with HIM.
This upsets me because after a week of agreement to go our separate ways shes already introduced HIM to the family, it took me months to meet her mams ( there lesbians)

I just dont understand, I wonder if she ever was happy and im even doubtful that I was happy too.
I just find it very odd and I cant understand what shes doing.

Has anyone been in a situation similar?
Do you not think its a bit soon?

I'm afraid to meet new girls because I think I might use them ase a tool for revenge, not because I like them.

Any advice/ thoughts / experience is appreciated

[Harry Smith]

I don't what to sound harsh but you come across as pretty controlling from this, couples always argue, heck your not normal if it's just love and roses. I mean you rejected her after she said that she realized she wanted you. It's terrible that she kissed another guy, it really is. You should try to talk to her, see her point of view.

I don't think it's ever healthy to say to someone who they can and can't talk to, if your ex wants to talk to a guy you shouldn't stop her because not only will she grow to dislike you but she'll still talk to the lad.

From the sounds of it your ex hasn't been perfect but you've knocked her back every time and pushed her away, it's seems strange to complain about her going to another guy if you treat her badly.

Just try and talk to her about this other guy, you can't blank it out

[pieman10]

So your saying its wrong that I rejected a girl that had flirted and lied? Id want to talk things out so the same mistakes arnt made.

I dont see how mutually agreeing not to talk to certain people is bad, I had to sacrifice talking to people just as much as she did.

As for her point of view, it changes constantly. One minute ive done nothing wrong and the other its both of us, the next its all my fault.

[Harry Smith]

So your saying its wrong that I rejected a girl that had flirted and lied? Id want to talk things out so the same mistakes arnt made.

I dont see how mutually agreeing not to talk to certain people is bad, I had to sacrifice talking to people just as much as she did.

As for her point of view, it changes constantly. One minute ive done nothing wrong and the other its both of us, the next its all my fault.

Don't reject a girl then complain when she goes after someone else, it sounds like she isn't a very pleasant so you should just ignore her, as hard as it may be.

You shouldn't have to do that in a relationship, it should be honest and open, you can't dictate to her who she talks to and she shouldn't do it to. She quite obviously thinks it bad because she broke it, if she wants to talk to someone what's stopping her?

[pieman10]

Don't reject a girl then complain when she goes after someone else, it sounds like she isn't a very pleasant so you should just ignore her, as hard as it may be.

You shouldn't have to do that in a relationship, it should be honest and open, you can't dictate to her who she talks to and she shouldn't do it to. She quite obviously thinks it bad because she broke it, if she wants to talk to someone what's stopping her?

I didn't just tell her to go away, I said I wanted to talk it out.

Its the fact that we promised each other, a promise means alot to me and I was upset when she broke it.
Her promise was stopping her, not me.