Hard to make friends

[kyleA]

I don't know if other people have the same problem but because of my Asperger's (a kind of autism) it is hard for me to make friends. Most people think I can be strange but really I am not its just some things I cant control.

[dontfiguremeout]

Aww I'm sorry buddy! Honestly any people who turn you down wouldn't be true friends at all! This school year try and meet a new friend! Now I know it might be hard, but just open up a little and be honest about who you really are! Don't be someone you aren't because that's not cool at all! Surely someone will think you are a cool guy and want to hang out with you and become friends! It might take a while, but just be yourself! Find people who have the same interests in you! Good luck buddy!

[conniption]

It's difficult for me to make friends too since I can't keep a conversation going to save my life, but once I find something in common with the person the conversations flows a bit easier. Don't think you should change to make friends because they won't know the real you. After all, strange is the new cool :D

[uglyinsideandout]

What is Asperger's like? What can't you control? I'm seriously asking becasue I don't know.

But regardless, if people don't like something about you it's unrealistic to expect them to overlook that to see that you're a great person. I think all you can really do is just be yourself and you'll end up with friends that like you or... you won't.

[Abyssal Echo]

I have Bi-Polar I don't have a prob making friends for me its keeping them. I do have an online friend that has Asperger's and we seem get along fine.
I agree with uglyinsideandout just be yourself and you'll make friends that like you.

[kyleA]

Well I am usually very shy in real life and I can say the wrong thing or innapropriate thing sometimes. And I get obssessed over things easily I think.

[Desuetude]

One of my best friends has Aspergers although she only just recently found out because her doctors and psychs are pathetically shit. I understand where you're coming from being able to see it in her, she has certain obsessions that can overrule everything else sometimes and she can be very shy with people she doesn't know or like but that could be due to other illnesses she suffers from.

She is one of the best, most loving and caring friends I have and I wouldn't change her for the world. Like the others I think you just have to be yourself and try, if you can, to overcome your shyness and try and be more outgoing. Don't fret about saying the wrong thing, everybody does sometimes and when you do find friends that like you for who you are it really is worth it.

[uglyinsideandout]

And really, what's the worst that can happen, you have no friends? It isn't fatal to have no friends. At least it hasn't killed me yet.

[Camazotz]

Well I am usually very shy in real life and I can say the wrong thing or innapropriate thing sometimes. And I get obssessed over things easily I think.

I think most of us here are at least a little bit shy in front of strangers and new people. The only way to get over it is to interact with people as often as you can, get experience on how to behave around others, and become better at socializing. You're still young, so I'm sure you'll make friends in school this year. Be yourself and follow the advice here (because all of it's really accurate) and be happy with who you are. Good luck!

Honestly any people who turn you down wouldn't be true friends at all! This school year try and meet a new friend! Now I know it might be hard, but just open up a little and be honest about who you really are! Don't be someone you aren't because that's not cool at all! Surely someone will think you are a cool guy and want to hang out with you and become friends! It might take a while, but just be yourself! Find people who have the same interests in you!

It's difficult for me to make friends too since I can't keep a conversation going to save my life, but once I find something in common with the person the conversations flows a bit easier. Don't think you should change to make friends because they won't know the real you. After all, strange is the new cool :D

If people don't like something about you it's unrealistic to expect them to overlook that to see that you're a great person. I think all you can really do is just be yourself and you'll end up with friends that like you or... you won't.

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I don't even bother anymore. If it happens, then cool. If not, then cool.