Popularity

[maxm2442]

Hi im in the 8th grade and not very popular at all. i have a couple of friends...
but to be honest im happy this way. its more... relaxing i guess. I put this is the puberty forum because i couldn't really find a good place for it so yeah. does anyone else feel this way?

[MartyG]

Hi Mathis....

Sure....it's more relaxing because you are not dealing with the incredible stress of trying to fit in or impress someone. But; you are alone.....

Are you **honestly** more happy without friends? Maybe if you had friends you would find that you are happier still?

Making friends can be very difficult.....but usually if you make one....that person will introduce you to other people that you can also be friends with.

I'm almost exactly like you...and I wish I had more friends. I think we both need to work harder at it.....because stuff that's worthwhile is never easy.

Don't be so quick to convince yourself that you're "just fine" all by yourself. It's too easy to actually start believing that.

Once you figure out how to make friends.....tell me; OK?

Marty

[drew6]

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[Plasma]

Popularity in school is completely stupid if you ask me. One of my best friends hangs out in those groups. I stay away from it. All they do is drink and smoke now. They also arent real friends. You'll find out who your real friends are. Middle school is pretty awkward though

[mrmee]

Im going into 9th grade and i go to a farm town school where its pretty much you have friends or you dont. When theres only like 80 kids in a grade, theres not alot of people to make friends with.

[StoppingTime]

Puberty 101 :arrow: Family and Friends, it'll fit better there.

And as to your OP, there's nothing wrong with that situation in my opinion. Personally at the current school I go to I only have a few good friends, and I'm more than happy with that because it can (and was) much worse at one point. If you're happy with the friends that you have, then I don't see why you need to try and "gain" popularity.
To be honest there's generally not a whole lot that's good about the stereotypical 'popular' kid. I think if you have the friends you're close to and are happy with it, things will work out. Eventually you may meet some more people, but is absolutely nothing you should feel you need to rush. You're in eighth grade, you've got 5 more years (assuming you go to a public school) to be with these kids, and to possibly meet more. Just take it slow, and it'll be okay. :)

[dontfiguremeout]

Honestly I find the popular people not so nice and to be honest I'm pretty sure they sometimes wish they weren't. Just think about it, they are living up to standards that are put by other kids now their age. They have to look good everyday, hang out with kids who look good too. They can't be seen with kids who would never fit in or be called geeky. Whatever they do everyone will talk and spread rumors. I mean it's a lot to live up for being popular. And when you aren't, you don't always have to look good, you can always have your bad days, and you can always accept anyone as your friends! I mean I did speak more negativity towards being popular, and honestly there is a plus side, I'm just showing you that you aren't missing too too much and your life the way it is it pretty cool.

PS: I'm tired, and so I just kept rumbling on and have no clue what I said!

[teen.jpg]

Popularity is a fucking joke.

[Luminous]

You're well off buddy. Popularity's basically a joke (What Jayson said). You are lucky to have friends at all. I don't have any friends (Well there is one person but I don't like her as a friend very much, we have extremely different interests and bore each other, but she can be pretty nice. I don't count her asa friend though really) and on occasion I can feel the loss. Usually it is ok though so no fear. Don't worry about rising to the top, work on keeping your place, you got some good real friends, and the popular kids get the fake friends.

[Hawk1248]

I also feel this way... Even though I don't want to be popular sometimes I wonder what it would be like.

[Synyster Shadows]

Pshh, popularity is overrated. I have 10 real friends, people I'd trust pretty much with my life and they're way cooler than the people with dozens of "friends." If you don't have many friends, that's ok. It most likely means that you choose your friends wisely, I hope. But yeah, don't worry. Besides, you got time before you graduate high school. Don't worry about it, Mathis.

[Cygnus]

"Popular" people are only popular according to themselves. I personally believe that it is better to establish a few true friendships than live a fake life.

[MoonMan]

Nothing wrong with it at all. Not everyone has to be popular to be happy.

[maxm2442]

Hi Mathis....

Sure....it's more relaxing because you are not dealing with the incredible stress of trying to fit in or impress someone. But; you are alone.....

Are you **honestly** more happy without friends? Maybe if you had friends you would find that you are happier still?

Making friends can be very difficult.....but usually if you make one....that person will introduce you to other people that you can also be friends with.

I'm almost exactly like you...and I wish I had more friends. I think we both need to work harder at it.....because stuff that's worthwhile is never easy.

Don't be so quick to convince yourself that you're "just fine" all by yourself. It's too easy to actually start believing that.

Once you figure out how to make friends.....tell me; OK?

Marty


I haven't given up and its not like im completely alone i have a close circle of friends and i make some everyday but if i don't i just don't worry about it

Popularity is a fucking joke.

lol !

Merged double post. -StoppingTime

[Tendencies]

TOTALLY! All throughout middle school I had probably near 5-8 friends that I actually hung out with and talked to. To be honest I didn't like other people they were arrogant, mean people. But I like having a small group of friends because there usually isn't gossip within your group its just good fun to hang out with the friends you want and the fact that its a small group makes it even better. I think that popularity is one of the most stupid things ever created. That just my personal opinion though.

[Vocabulous]

i am definitely not a popular person, and even amongst my friends only 3 of the 10 actually know where i live

[kylem1229]

Same here, Popularity isnt that big of a deal for me. I have about 50- 60 friends, but that doesnt make me "Popular". To be honest, i really wouldnt want to be anyways, because people will not let you have much time to yourself, too much stress to continue being popular, etc.

[Camazotz]

I guess it depends on the culture around you. At my school, even the "loners" have their own friends, and there was never a "popularity problem." After a certain age, people just stop caring about being the "most popular"; yes, some kids were more recognizable than others, but school was basically a bunch of different social groups. If you weren't part of the "popular" one, you still had other people to be friends with. It wasn't that big a problem at all after my grade entered high-school (age 14, 15) as opposed to when we were in middle school (12-14).

It may be different for you, but I think it should change for you when you get older, and you won't worry about how many friends you have as opposed to how good of friends you have.

[nice]

I guess for being new to my school I'm a popular kid now but when I first cameo was just that weird kid that didn't talk to anyone and always had his phone. If you really wanna be more popular just put yourself out there. And to everyone who thinks l popular kids are hot kids with nice body that's a load of shit at least at my I know some kids who like "nerdy" or are maybe bigger and they are popular and have friends. There are some popular people who don't give a fuck what other people think of them and that's why they are popular.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Hi im in the 8th grade and not very popular at all. i have a couple of friends...
but to be honest im happy this way. its more... relaxing i guess. I put this is the puberty forum because i couldn't really find a good place for it so yeah. does anyone else feel this way?

I justhave no friends

[bubble .]

I'm actually reasonably popular..

[Stronk Serb]

Popularity can bite you by the ass if you screw up. Popular people here are burgouise wannabe hooligan snobs who think they are tough. They could not even extort me even though I had no backup.

[Cooper197]

OP, you sound a bit like I was at that age. I didn't have very many friends (like 2-3) and was okay with that. I realize now that maybe it wasn't ideal, although I thought I was happy at the time I was actually pretty depressed about it. I'm not saying I wish I was the most popular kid in school, that would suck. But I do wish I had a few more friends. Things change so much in the next few years though that it would not be surprising at all if you end up with totally different friends within the next few years. I know for me the people I am friends with didn't even live here in 8th grade, and I became really good friends with people who had been here since 1st grade and I never really knew until last year, and then they moved. It all changes so much anyway that honestly if you are actually happy, it's fine!

[NeuroTiger]

Well,I'm quite popular at school.
It's not a big deal but it does makes you feel more confident.
It surely helps you to get a glimpse on how people are.
Certainly,I have my best friends with whom i hang out the most.
Dude, you need to make yourself more opened if you want to attract people but don't let yourself be overpower.

[KimuraWannabe116]

Popularity isn't everything, its the friends and family that you have that counts.