Am I gay? Am I bi? I'm confused.

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So I am sexually attracted to guys, but I am emotionally attracted to females. I am 18. I also am I virgin. I have been attracted to guys since I was about 13/14 and have always masterbated to nude men. I am in no way sexually attracted to a female at this moment. I would never want to really recieve sex from a male but I have always wanted to give it and always wanted to give oral to a male. I could NEVER be in a relationship with a guy. I just could never do that I'm not into guys like that. Now for females, I do find them beautiful but I just never think about them sexually. I want to get married one day and have children.

I am just very confused and have been for awhile. I do not know what to do. I always think, is sex really that important to me that I would not have a family for it? But I don't want to love a miserable life. Like I said I am a virgin. Do you think things will change? I just need to here from some people who can help me.

I'm sorry this is a mess. I just have so many confusing thoughts and I tried to make sense of it the best I could. If you have any questions for me just ask and I will make it more clear.

I just...I really need help...I've put this off for so long and I just need to figure out who I am. But I need a little help and a little jump start.

[SoRandom]

Same problem here dude.

[Laquifa]

You said yourself that you couldn't be in a relationship with a guy. Therefore, you are not gay at all. You could be a heteroromantic homosexual, and want to be in a relationship with a woman, but want to have sex with men. I'm a homoromantic homosexual, and do not feel attracted to women in any way.

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You said yourself that you couldn't be in a relationship with a guy. Therefore, you are not gay at all. You could be a heteroromantic homosexual, and want to be in a relationship with a woman, but want to have sex with men. I'm a homoromantic homosexual, and do not feel attracted to women in any way.

That is how it is. I've had a girlfriend. I loved her more than anything in the world. I mean I loved to kiss her but never got like to the point where it made me horny. And yes I want sex with guys more. So yes I guess I am that. But how has that worked out for you?

[MyNameIs.]

I had the same problem dude, but then I found thid girl who is my girlfriend now and she changed everything. I guess you have to wait for the love off your life so you can conclude what you are :o thats my solution :o

[qert4321]

Dude I feel the EXACT same way. There are some girls out there who you would be able to date and they wouldn't mind if you were having sex with guys. Some though lol. Maybe you'll find that special girl. You're 18, you have plenty of life to live :) you never know what will be waiting for you down the road brother :3 I wish you the best of luck :D

[Laquifa]

That is how it is. I've had a girlfriend. I loved her more than anything in the world. I mean I loved to kiss her but never got like to the point where it made me horny. And yes I want sex with guys more. So yes I guess I am that. But how has that worked out for you?

It works out for me because I'm attracted to the same gender romantically and sexually. It's nothing to be ashamed of, but most people probably won't understand. If you have any more questions, leave me a visitor message so I can help you more specifically with any questions you may have.

[JSCA99]

Dude I feel the EXACT same way. There are some girls out there who you would be able to date and they wouldn't mind if you were having sex with guys. Some though lol. Maybe you'll find that special girl. You're 18, you have plenty of life to live :) you never know what will be waiting for you down the road brother :3 I wish you the best of luck :D

Thanks man! Hopefully we can figure stuff out down the road good luck to you too! It's nice to know I'm not alone with this.

[qert4321]

Thanks man! Hopefully we can figure stuff out down the road good luck to you too! It's nice to know I'm not alone with this.

Dude np, Anytime :D !! And thanks (:

[Harley Quinn]

P101 :arrow: Teen Sexuality.

[JSCA99]

I had the same problem dude, but then I found thid girl who is my girlfriend now and she changed everything. I guess you have to wait for the love off your life so you can conclude what you are :o thats my solution :o
i kinda figured that finding a girl will help...ugh i guess i just need to wait it out

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You said yourself that you couldn't be in a relationship with a guy.

That's not true at all. See, there's this wonderful thing called denial, that most of us go through.

You might be gay. You might be straight, bi, or anything else. WE DON'T KNOW AND WE CAN'T TELL YOU. You have to figure out yourself, which can be pretty hard.

In the easiest way possible I'll explain this. If you find yourself more consistently attracted to men, you could be gay. The opposite goes for being straight. Bisexual is in the middle. It's simple.

[MyNameIs.]

i kinda figured that finding a girl will help...ugh i guess i just need to wait it out

You're 18 you have plenty of time :D one day you will find out that you are more attracted to girls or to boys! But you have time :) experiment a bit :D

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You're 18 you have plenty of time :D one day you will find out that you are more attracted to girls or to boys! But you have time :) experiment a bit :D
yea i know, i used to think when i was younger i was just curious of what other guys looked like down there now its a sexual attraction, even tho i am 18 i feel like im running out of time. idk i guess theres nothing more to do then to just wait it out and see what happens

[steellord321]

Are you sure that your "could never be in a relationship with a guy" is not from denial and social pressure? It's gonna be rough being with a girl if you can't perform sexually. Well hope it works out.

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Are you sure that your "could never be in a relationship with a guy" is not from denial and social pressure? It's gonna be rough being with a girl if you can't perform sexually. Well hope it works out.
its totally not from pressure and denial. I dislike guys the only thing i like about them is there...yea you know. anything else is just no...i could never see my self being all sweet and romantic (the lovey dovey date kind of romantic) with a guy. I would not like that.

[oneDay]

i could never see my self being all sweet and romantic (the lovey dovey date kind of romantic) with a guy. I would not like that.

I trust that you are not familiar with anyone in a long-lasting heterosexual relationship because that is an unrealistic expectation for any couple, gay or straight. Many people dislike the idea of unnecessary sweetness and romance on any occasion. How does that change being in a homosexual relationship? People are people, no matter who they like.

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I trust that you are not familiar with anyone in a long-lasting heterosexual relationship because that is an unrealistic expectation for any couple, gay or straight. Many people dislike the idea of unnecessary sweetness and romance on any occasion. How does that change being in a homosexual relationship? People are people, no matter who they like.

actually i am familiar with it. i was in a 2 year long relationship with a girl about 2/3 years ago, of course it never got sexual. and i loved every day of it. but my opinion on dating a male is all my preference really and my views

[mrtsian]

don't be overwhelmed by those labels, just let it be. I'm sure you will find the state where you feel comfortable. Good luck buddy!!!!!!!!!!

[plebble]

So I am sexually attracted to guys, but I am emotionally attracted to females. I am 18. I also am I virgin. I have been attracted to guys since I was about 13/14 and have always masterbated to nude men. I am in no way sexually attracted to a female at this moment. I would never want to really recieve sex from a male but I have always wanted to give it and always wanted to give oral to a male. I could NEVER be in a relationship with a guy. I just could never do that I'm not into guys like that. Now for females, I do find them beautiful but I just never think about them sexually. I want to get married one day and have children.

I am just very confused and have been for awhile. I do not know what to do. I always think, is sex really that important to me that I would not have a family for it? But I don't want to love a miserable life. Like I said I am a virgin. Do you think things will change? I just need to here from some people who can help me.

I'm sorry this is a mess. I just have so many confusing thoughts and I tried to make sense of it the best I could. If you have any questions for me just ask and I will make it more clear.

I just...I really need help...I've put this off for so long and I just need to figure out who I am. But I need a little help and a little jump start.

This might sound inappropriate, but if you ever find yourself doing friends with benefits with anyone, try it with a girl and a boy and see which you prefer. If you are gay, there's always adoption or IVF (if your male partner is ok with it).
If you end up with a female but don't feel right about it... don't be with her.

Sorry if I couldn't help, I've never really seen something like this before :P I'm not very good at giving advice sometimes

[arkcreations]

Your prob straight, most teenagers are confused, it just your hormones

[JSCA99]

This might sound inappropriate, but if you ever find yourself doing friends with benefits with anyone, try it with a girl and a boy and see which you prefer. If you are gay, there's always adoption or IVF (if your male partner is ok with it).
If you end up with a female but don't feel right about it... don't be with her.

Sorry if I couldn't help, I've never really seen something like this before :P I'm not very good at giving advice sometimes

no i appreciate any advice given for sure:) and id love to just experiment. i just have to find the right person to do it with i guess.