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TurboDieselBandit
August 7th, 2013, 12:08 AM
I now consider myself bi because my sexuality hasn't seemed to change as I grow up like I thought it would. I'm beginning to wonder if I'm truly bi or have conditioned my thoughts through experiences and fantasies so although I may not actually be bi, my body and I *think* I am. My first sexual experience was with a guy at a young age (10) and I LOVED IT. I've been fortunate to have a couple close guy friends and we have experimented over the years. I still really like guys and don't know exactly why. Sadly it doesn't fit well with my life. I like guys just a little younger than me (15-17) and I'm not a fan of big harry guys which is what the next age group holds. I would like to have a wife and kids one day, don't want to disappointment my family and definitely don't like how this conflicts with my religion.

Have I conditioned myself to think I'm bi?
Have any of you come OUT of this phase?

I'm curious to explore my gay side in more depth. Please check out my poorly taken photos in my photo album. If you saw me would you think I may be less than straight? Any impressions, thoughts, or suggestions?

Do I seem attractive?

Thanks!

LouBerry
August 7th, 2013, 12:27 AM
It's just something that you have to figure out. No one can tell you if you are bi or gay or str8. You're the only one who knows.

Luminous
August 8th, 2013, 03:27 PM
I think this is the point where you say, "F- this, I'm a person and I like who I like. Who cares if I'm bi or gay or straight or whatever?"

1_21Guns
August 8th, 2013, 03:39 PM
Have I conditioned myself to think I'm bi?
Have any of you come OUT of this phase?
While I do believe it's possible to force yourself into a sexuality to a degree (from personal experience), I don't really think it matters, I don't think you should put yourself in any box of any sort, you are who you are whether it conforms with your religion, lifestyle or anything else really, maybe you're curious, maybe you're bi, does it really matter that much if it's just who you are?

I'm curious to explore my gay side in more depth. Please check out my poorly taken photos in my photo album. If you saw me would you think I may be less than straight? Any impressions, thoughts, or suggestions?

Do I seem attractive?

Thanks!

I don't think appearance has anything to do with it, I've seen plenty of guys who look gay but are perfectly straight, and well presumably visa versa, I'd try and stop concerning yourself with others opinions and just do what makes you happy, exploring gay experiences isn't going to stop you settling down with a wife and kids at all, just go with life, don't box yourself in with silly words that shouldn't make a difference anyway :)

Pierce
August 9th, 2013, 11:13 AM
I thing you're overthinking it, I know finding out your sexuality is difficult and confusing but you're way overthinking it. Just don't think about it and the answer will eventually come. In the meantime, just go along with whatever feels right.

TurboDieselBandit
August 11th, 2013, 01:35 AM
I suppose I am over thinking it a bit. At this point I'd just like to come out, its been so long having to hide my feelings but I don't want to disappoint my family. Tomorrow were going back to the town we use to live in and there's a good chance I'll see my god brother (not blood related) which will be cool because I haven't seen him in years and he's the one who initiated my first gay/sexual experience....I'm sure he's changed over the years but it would still be cool to see him.