How to Come Out to Guy Friends

[otaku98]

I have two guy buddies and one I've been friends with for a long time and my other one I've known for two years. My relationship with both has been fine, sure we've gad stupid little disputes but they've been solved with minimal conflict but the issue is I've had a lot of sleepovers with them so I'm worried on how to tell them with out screwing everyone over.... Help please!

[Laquifa]

Well, I wouldn't recommend that you come out to them unless they are people that you know that you can trust to not tell anyone, unless you're going to go completely public with your sexuality. If they say rather homophobic things, I would definitely not recommend coming out to them until you have a good amount of support from other friends.

[otaku98]

Well, I wouldn't recommend that you come out to them unless they are people that you know that you can trust to not tell anyone, unless you're going to go completely public with your sexuality. If they say rather homophobic things, I would definitely not recommend coming out to them until you have a good amount of support from other friends.

Well over the past two weeks I've been building an army/support group of friends so there isn't an issue there. As for homophobic remarks they haven't made any but I'm only worried if our friendship is gonna be messed because of the countless sleepovers... It's A LOT harder to come out to guys then girls.

[ShadowBlade]

I don't think that you should be afraid of coming out. Of course if you don't want anyone else to know about you being gay, just don't. If you are OK with that.. Just tell them over o beer or something.

[otaku98]

I don't think that you should be afraid of coming out. Of course if you don't want anyone else to know about you being gay, just don't. If you are OK with that.. Just tell them over o beer or something.

Does Root Beer count??? :/ (Can't really drink)

[ShadowBlade]

I actually meant that it is better to tell them that you are gay under normal circumstances like a beer night or a meal.. Stuff like that.

[Laquifa]

I actually meant that it is better to tell them that you are gay under normal circumstances like a beer night or a meal.. Stuff like that.

Jim is right. If you really want to tell them, don't make a big deal out of it, and hopefully they won't either (:

[Josh from SoCal]

I'm struggling with exactly the same thing. Other than my one friend that i've been with, the rest dont know but we've all been at sleepovers at each others houses. and at one time or another we've all been naked around each other. I'm thinking maybe when i tell them, im going to say that im bi and that sure i checked them all out at one time or another but i know they checked me out also. so whats the big deal? im not hitting on them but it has to be kinda a compliment to know they are attractive. but that i just want to be friends with them and i swear i wont make things freakish in the future. and if they want to start being more private around me then thats chill but unnecessary.

thats how i have it planned out. im getting pretty close to revealing my bisexuality to them and my family.

[Axw_JD]

Just don't explain yourself or anything from the past, tell them and mention that you hope nothing will change.

That is pretty much what I told my best friend and things have worked out at least as far as my sexuality is concerned. He has kept it a secret and for better or worse nothing changed.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Tell them straightforwardly, and be somewhat confident. That is the reason I still have some friends.

[teen.jpg]

I don't think it should be too much harder then telling female friends. Friends are friends. If they're of any quality they won't care.

[justin 13]

I would like to say go 4 it, but If I were you I wouldn't do it. I decided to wait until college to come out, but its me surrounded by homophobic friends, I wanna keep my friends.

[teen.jpg]

I would like to say go 4 it, but If I were you I wouldn't do it. I decided to wait until college to come out, but its me surrounded by homophobic friends, I wanna keep my friends.

Then they're not real friends to begin with.

[Special K]

Come out on your terms and let it out like a band aid. It's gonna be hard for all of you.

[calebtwiggs]

just tell them i literally just told all my friends today that i was and they all accepted but if they dont then that means they werent true friends but dont put alot of thought into it when u tell them that will just make it harder

[LITTLEANGEL19]

I don't have to come out to anyone as they already knows.

[scottishguy]

I have two guy buddies and one I've been friends with for a long time and my other one I've known for two years. My relationship with both has been fine, sure we've gad stupid little disputes but they've been solved with minimal conflict but the issue is I've had a lot of sleepovers with them so I'm worried on how to tell them with out screwing everyone over.... Help please!

You don't even need to use the word "gay," if you just say "I'm not into girls" or "I prefer guys to girls" then they'll understand. Obviously only do it if you feel comfortable :)

[LiamC]

With guys you just have to be straight up I find (no pun intended haha)! Literally, just say something like "can I speak to you, I have something to tell you" and just mention that you don't feel the way they do about girls - you have those feelings for guys instead, and because they matter to you as close friends you wanted them to know because it's been weighing on your mind. Like the poster above says you don't even need to say "I'm gay", they'll understand.

If you've been friends with them for a long time and your relationship is fine, they'll definitely understand. They've been fine with you for that long, they know exactly who you are and i'm sure they have the cognizance to realise that the fact you like boys is just a small part of who you are and it doesn't change your personality or take away the boy they've been friends with all along.

[lonely_gay_boy]

Why am i scared of coming out?

[cookiemonstermatt]

Why am i scared of coming out?

Because it's scary. I don't know if my friends will abandon me or not care or what they'll do. do they see me a certain way but if i tell them will they hate me for who I am "now"? This sucks.

[Zachary G]

I look at it this way, if they really are your friends, then your coming out to them shouldnt be a big deal, they should still have respect for you and your friendship. However, if you tell them and they react other than supporting, then that means your friendship wasnt a true one to begin with and I would say let them go and find yourself some true friends who like you unconditionally.