Is my dad enabling my mom who committed a crime? Are his actions here normal?

[fmpro]

my mother is going to jail for eight months for forgery related charges. I am handling the situation fine because she will be back and her visit to jail might make her go easier on me now. My dad asked if I want to visit her sometime because he said she would appreciate a visit and it could be interesting and an "educational experience" (What does that mean?)


I have no problem with my mother and other than this misdeed she was a good mother but I don't know if I should subject myself to go into a jail just to see her for a while. Does anyone know what it is like there and how the visiting works? I am a 14 year old girl by the way. Also, what can we talk about in the short time we probably have? Also is it really going to be that bad for her in there, I mean she has six months of not having to worry about anything.

I have heard that my dad is enabling my mother. Before she has to go my dad is helping her find information on what you should do before entering jail and also said we will all do something together on the day before she goes. I don't know if this is enabling but I have been told it is


also, my dad said I still have to listen to my mother when she gets out. I don't understand how he can do this. I mean like I said I don't hate my mom or anything and had a good relationship with her but now that she is a criminal, her telling what to do might be hypocritical

[Obsidian]

I don't think him helping her prepare for what to do is enabling her. It's not promoting her to commit another crime or something, he's just trying to make a negative experience easier on her. And as far as still listening to her..she's still your mom. I don't know what kind of crime she committed but it doesn't sound all that awful, and she still deserves your respect because no matter what she does she's still your mother.

[trimm_tom]

he is trying to be supportive and assist her as best he can