Help with a guy, girls & guys thoughts!!!

[KuntreeGal]

I'm almost 14 and my brother, who's 16, had his best friend, who's 15, over and we started kissing and we did that all weekend. Well we thought it was weird so we stopped talking and one day outta the blue, he texted me asking about my brother and we got to talking and we decided we still like eachother so he's coming over soon and he wants to eat me out and finger me. We are both still virgins, but he's gotten a blow job before.
We really like eachother and we've known eachother since I was 7.
I've always had a crush on him... But should I let him do it?

[Trace]

Only if you're comfortable and ready.

[princesscutie]

Do it if you feel comfortable about it and if you trust him. I was in the same situation as you, in which we both liked each other.. we did things. And after that day happened, he never talked to me again and he said it was just a one time thing. Just be careful on who do things with, sometimes they might not stay and just use you for pleasure.

[GigglyAbby]

Maybe you should hang out and get to know each other more. First -- you kiss and now you want to be intimate -- it seems like a SEXUAL relationship and not a DATING one. Are either of you planning to be openly a couple or just hide it from your brother and parents?

Are you comfortable with giving him a blowjob [if he wants one]?
Do you trust him?
Do you mind him seeing you partially or totally naked?
Do you feel comfortable with someone fingering you?
Would you feel okay being eaten out?
Would you want to go slower with him? If so -- could you tell him that? If things got out of control -- would you be ready to have sex with him? Are you ready to accept any consequences that come from having sex?

Only YOU can decide what you're ready to do and are comfortable with. My hope is that BOTH of you can COMMUNICATE this and agree to do what you're comfortable with.

[wozemonkey]

omly if u think ur ready

[justin 13]

Yeah I agree I f u comfortable doing that stuff AND if he show respect and kindness towards you.

[The Trendy Wolf]

I'm almost 14 and my brother, who's 16, had his best friend, who's 15, over and we started kissing and we did that all weekend. Well we thought it was weird so we stopped talking and one day outta the blue, he texted me asking about my brother and we got to talking and we decided we still like eachother so he's coming over soon and he wants to eat me out and finger me. We are both still virgins, but he's gotten a blow job before.
We really like eachother and we've known eachother since I was 7.
I've always had a crush on him... But should I let him do it?

I'm sorry, but you are (in my opinion) WAAAAY to young for any kind of sexual activity no matter what. You're 14, doesn't that seem just a bit too young? I know ALOT of people say that "you can, but only if you're ready" but to me that's total crap. 14 is too young for that kind of stuff, and so is 15,16, and maybe even 17! I know it's natural to feel these kinds of things (and believe me, I have my own fantasies and sexual wants) but you just have to learn to deal with them another way rather than giving into the sexual urges. Again, just my opinion. (as a 14 year old myself)

[Plasma]

I don't really see anything wrong with that... Just be safe if it goes beyond that