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YodRicA
August 3rd, 2013, 10:39 PM
PLEASE READ

If you know who I am in real life, or know my family, please do not tell my family about this post. I had that kind of situation happen once already, and would just like to open up. Please, don't be a jerk.
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I'm going to make a long story as short as possible.

My older brother (who is 26), did a school project in high school when he was 17. The project was on child pornography.

Don't ask me how it was even approved of for a school project, because I was only 7 at the time.

2 years ago, my brother was wrongfully arrested for possession of the inappropriate content, and has since, been put on parole, as well as the sex offender lists, websites, etc.
They made him something he really isn't.

I would like to clear things up a bit though.
He was wrongfully arrested for a few reasons:

1. The police arrived at the door with no warrant. They had no right to enter.

2. My brother signed for a search and seizure of his possessions. This was wrong because he was living with my grandparents (and still is).

3. It should have never happened. (I'd rather not give too much away)


So, it's now 2 years later.

It's been about a year since I've been able to really be around my brother.
I still can be, but only under the supervision of other family members, according to the court.

But even now he doesn't feel safe. He's been brainwashed through group therapy and the lawyers against him.

Let me give you an example.
Today, I had to do work down at my grandparents house with my cousin and uncle.

I walk in to the house, and try to ask my brother a simple question.

His response was two words: "No, Rick", to which he proceeds to walk out of the kitchen and outside.

My brother is uncomfortable talking to me, despite the fact that I just turned 16. I thought 16 would be a big turning point, and him saying that to me just proved me wrong.


My current state of mind is to let things pass.
Our mother has power of attorney over everybody, and the case has been going on for 2 years now. It has to break at some point.
And when it does, I'll be glad to have my brother back.

I was thinking about making him a CD or casette of funny things, like comedy acts and YouTube videos for his birthday.
But other than that, I can't really be involved.

Am I in the right state of mind? I can't really do much since he's so paranoid.

teen.jpg
August 3rd, 2013, 10:51 PM
Why would he do a project on child pornography?

ovoxo23
August 3rd, 2013, 10:53 PM
Honestly, that is tough for anyone to go through. Especially if he was innocent. He probably feels terrible, because he's labeled that on his record. Maybe he just thinks it's not better to involve a minor.

YodRicA
August 3rd, 2013, 11:02 PM
Why would he do a project on child pornography?

Eh, I don't even know. I told mom that the teacher who approved of the project is more guilty than he is.

But he was 17. It's not like he could be counted as offender when HE HIMSELF was a minor.

YodRicA
August 3rd, 2013, 11:04 PM
Honestly, that is tough for anyone to go through. Especially if he was innocent. He probably feels terrible, because he's labeled that on his record. Maybe he just thinks it's not better to involve a minor.

But that's the thing though. I'm getting up there in years (2 more until I'm not considered a minor), and even under supervision he's still not comfortable.

It makes me and everyone else worry that he's guilty of something.

ovoxo23
August 3rd, 2013, 11:06 PM
But that's the thing though. I'm getting up there in years (2 more until I'm not considered a minor), and even under supervision he's still not comfortable.

It makes me and everyone else worry that he's guilty of something.

Maybe he feels guilty. Maybe him being labeled that fir so long has made him think that he's actually guilty.

YodRicA
August 3rd, 2013, 11:08 PM
Maybe he feels guilty. Maybe him being labeled that fir so long has made him think that he's actually guilty.

Yeah, the brainwashing thing...

They didn't even label him correctly. He has 2 offenses, one of which is "the sexual abuse of children". He didn't abuse anybody. What the heck. >.>

ovoxo23
August 3rd, 2013, 11:26 PM
Yeah, the brainwashing thing...

They didn't even label him correctly. He has 2 offenses, one of which is "the sexual abuse of children". He didn't abuse anybody. What the heck. >.>

That's crazy

Moondust
August 3rd, 2013, 11:55 PM
Because the government is evil :)
Poor bro, why do stupid strangers who don't know anything always bud into people's personal lives?
They talk like they actually care about the law and the constitution, but they are ones who keep breaking it -_-
I'm sorry you have to put up with this, someday they'll be old, powerless people in wheelchairs, while we're running the government and making things better for everyone.
Till then, I hope things work out for you and you're family <:)

Stryker125
August 3rd, 2013, 11:57 PM
I feel really bad for your brother, that's the worst. No one should have to go through that. At least not wrongfully.

Anyway, if he's still on parole or probation or whatever, maybe he just doesn't want anyone to think he's doing anything wrong, so he tries to stay away from you. Or maybe he's all messed up from the therapy and the whole case and everything. I've got big self hate issues, so I know how that can be. He's just gonna have to realize that he's not a bad person.

Have you tried telling him how you feel? Like how you miss him and stuff? If he isn't comfortable talking face to face, write it in a letter and get it to him.

I hope everything works out.

YodRicA
August 4th, 2013, 12:01 AM
Thanks you guys, it means a lot that other people feel the same way.

I guess I could try writing a letter or something. I don't think this will be going on much longer, though. Hopefully everything can be settled before Christmas this year.
The payout for this wrongful arrest is supposed to be millions.

Did I forget to add that when he was arrested he wasn't read his rights?

$%^#$&#%^& <---Legal stuff my mom is doing at the moment. I have no idea what she's doing but I just say 'whatever' and keep going guys.

kitten13
August 4th, 2013, 03:36 AM
yodrica i know i'm just a girl but if you read all you wrote you seem more in to what was done to him in the past and hurt by a short remark made by him to you and all this court stuff. as to how he may fell stop plzzz. he maybe just tring to deal with the thangs here and now. just be kind let him know your there when he is ready and you love him.

kim

YodRicA
August 4th, 2013, 09:52 AM
yodrica i know i'm just a girl but if you read all you wrote you seem more in to what was done to him in the past and hurt by a short remark made by him to you and all this court stuff. as to how he may fell stop plzzz. he maybe just tring to deal with the thangs here and now. just be kind let him know your there when he is ready and you love him.

kim

Ok. I see. Thanks for your advice, Kim.

Hawk1248
August 11th, 2013, 12:24 AM
I agree with a lot of u gov is evil terrible thing for him to go through, yes but then again he should of not sign for them to be able to enter and he should have asked why they showed up for no apparent reason because that's not right and if they really did do that then there probably just looking for his time and his money I feel like that's all the government and police do nowadays except for help people in need:'(