I dont want to be gay

[draketx]

I come from a very strong christian home where being gay is a sin and will force you unto hell. the past several years I have had strong homosexuality urges and i feel terrible. im into guys sexually but not emotionally at all. i dont like who i have become and need help. how do i lessen these urges. i want to get married and have kids im 14

[TheGlowingCactus]

Hi there Draketx. :)

Going through puberty usually provokes a lot of curiosity, so you're probably just going through this at the moment. Everyone usually has feelings towards other boys at some point throughout puberty - This has been proven to be a phase many times. I know that I myself have had these feelings and they are slowly fading :).

Don't worry about it - It's your raging hormones. It will probably die down evansually. :)

[Harley Quinn]

P101 :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[draketx]

thanks Lewis1

[Foamy]

i agree. you aren't gay unless you feel both a sexual AND emotional relationship with a guy. it could just be hormones that are flaring up due to puberty.

and also about the "homosexuality is a sin" thing, it is not. just because one is gay does not mean they will "go to hell". that is only a modern christian belief as it is not in the bible last time i checked. even so, if god loves all his children, why would you go to hell just because you are gay? (end mini rant sorry bout that)

[teen.jpg]

Just be who you are. So what if you are (or might be) gay? It's not that big of a deal. You like guys? Like guys.

I don't see why you feel it's something you don't want to be. If your parents are accepting of you being straight, then they should be accepting of you being gay. If not, then they're opinion doesn't matter. This is about you.

i agree. you aren't gay unless you feel both a sexual AND emotional relationship with a guy. it could just be hormones that are flaring up due to puberty.

It's not really that simple. You can be gay and not attracted to ANYONE sexually. You'll still be gay.

You don't have to be both. It's not like a requirement that you have to fit, it's who you are. Not every gay person is the same.

Don't double post, use the edit button.~Bacon.

[southernguy]

Even if you are gay, you can't let your narrow-minded family run your life. If being with a guy makes you happy, then it makes you happy and you have to accept and BE PROUD of that!

[ovoxo23]

I come from a very strong christian home where being gay is a sin and will force you unto hell. the past several years I have had strong homosexuality urges and i feel terrible. im into guys sexually but not emotionally at all. i dont like who i have become and need help. how do i lessen these urges. i want to get married and have kids im 14

Yeah pretty much what they have said. Puberty causes a lot of sexual urges and curiosity towards both sexes. I am 100% straight, but even I have thought about guys here and there. I doubt that you're gay if you aren't into men emotionally. I think it's just your urges.

[YodRicA]

draketx, the best thing you could do is to talk to someone of the family about this, particularly your father (if he's around).

If you have an older brother, I'd talk to him first, considering the fact that things like this didn't really happen as much in our parents' time as they do in our time.

I had the same conversation with my own brother a few years ago, and he said he didn't care, and that he loved me anyway. I never really talked about it with my parents.

To be clear, I'm not gay, but rather, I was going through a phase, and I can say now that I've been in this situation before.