Facebook Crush Page

[Extreme586]

Our school sort of has a viral thing going with this facebook crush page where you can leave anonymous compliments on anything about your crush. I wrote one for a boy I like and he even liked it. I guess I just feel guilty, after all he probably thinks it's some girl commenting on how cute he is/his amazing qualities, not some gay socially awkward kid.


He did so much to try to get me to come out of my shell, but I unintentionally made him feel weird over a few years and now all I can do is continue to torment his life by leaving comments. Even if nobody knows it's me, the guilt is eating me alive.

[1_21Guns]

You shouldn't feel guilty because you're gay, or because the fact you're gay is tormenting his life, it sounds like he cares about you, does he know you're gay or that you like him?

[ovoxo23]

Our school sort of has a viral thing going with this facebook crush page where you can leave anonymous compliments on anything about your crush. I wrote one for a boy I like and he even liked it. I guess I just feel guilty, after all he probably thinks it's some girl commenting on how cute he is/his amazing qualities, not some gay socially awkward kid.


He did so much to try to get me to come out of my shell, but I unintentionally made him feel weird over a few years and now all I can do is continue to torment his life by leaving comments. Even if nobody knows it's me, the guilt is eating me alive.

Well talk to him. Leave him little hints like "hey have you ever been like curious in guys?" Or however you want to word it, and if he says yea then just straight up tell him u think he's cute or something and ask him out.

[Extreme586]

You shouldn't feel guilty because you're gay, or because the fact you're gay is tormenting his life, it sounds like he cares about you, does he know you're gay or that you like him?

He doesn't know that I'm gay and he doesn't know I like him. I look at him a lot in the hallways and stuff, and he probably knows it too. It's just hard because nobody knows I'm gay, even though most people have probably guessed I am.
I'm disappointed in myself because when I met him freshman year, he tried to make me laugh and smile all the time. I never talked to him much but our relationship with one another wasn't like that. Now, because of how awkward I acted towards him in the hallways, I'm sure he hates the sight of me, like most people.

[1_21Guns]

He doesn't know that I'm gay and he doesn't know I like him. I look at him a lot in the hallways and stuff, and he probably knows it too. It's just hard because nobody knows I'm gay, even though most people have probably guessed I am.
I'm disappointed in myself because when I met him freshman year, he tried to make me laugh and smile all the time. I never talked to him much but our relationship with one another wasn't like that. Now, because of how awkward I acted towards him in the hallways, I'm sure he hates the sight of me, like most people.

I doubt that very much, don't just assume, maybe try and stop being so awkward, say hi, even just smile at him, try not to be nervous (sound impossible I know) relax, be yourself

[Extreme586]

I doubt that very much, don't just assume, maybe try and stop being so awkward, say hi, even just smile at him, try not to be nervous (sound impossible I know) relax, be yourself

K i'll try to be different this year, especially since it's senior year. Maybe I could talk with you more about this since you feel the same way I sort of feel about the whole thing, but I am just too scared that I might be wrong.

[Trace]

"hey have you ever been like curious in guys?"
Yeah, because that would ever go down well.

[ovoxo23]

Yeah, because that would ever go down well.

Lol I wasn't sure how to wors it but something like that lol

[Trace]

Lol I wasn't sure how to wors it but something like that lol

If you're gonna ask him about his curiosity in boys you might as well grab his ass. At least if he does like guys he'll find it really hot.

P.S - I don't recommend going about it by grabbing his butt.

[1_21Guns]

K i'll try to be different this year, especially since it's senior year. Maybe I could talk with you more about this since you feel the same way I sort of feel about the whole thing, but I am just too scared that I might be wrong.

feel free to message me :) I'm happy to try and help you as best I can, and that's the silly thing you see, the worst thing he can say is no, or reject you, yeah, it's awful, but it's not the end of the world, it's not as terrible as it sounds :)

[Cognizant]

If you're gonna ask him about his curiosity in boys you might as well grab his ass. At least if he does like guys he'll find it really hot.

P.S - I don't recommend going about it by grabbing his butt.

Why not?

O.P, I understand your point of view, and honestly just be more confident. Befriend him. If he's still uncomfortable after what everyone else has suggested, it might be hard but it may be time to move on.

[Trace]

Why not?

O.P, I understand your point of view, and honestly just be more confident. Befriend him. If he's still uncomfortable after what everyone else has suggested, it might be hard but it may be time to move on.

Because if he's strong and homophobic you might regret it :P.

[Extreme586]

Because if he's strong and homophobic you might regret it :P.

He's not, he's actually quite short and cute, friendly too but I would rather take a punch from him if he were really strong than have him tell me off, because if I did anything and he got offended by it, what he would say would probably destroy me lol.

Why not?

O.P, I understand your point of view, and honestly just be more confident. Befriend him. If he's still uncomfortable after what everyone else has suggested, it might be hard but it may be time to move on.

Your right, confidence is a big issue for me. I'm a really honest and opinionated person but I always try too hard to please everyone and just end up not talking at all to avoid conflict. Something I am going to work on.

I'm thinking about letting him go as well, he means so much to me that I'm not sure I would want to embarrass or make him feel weird if I came out to him. I'm sure he would be understanding and all and I'm probably dead wrong about everything even if he says no. The fear is what's tripping me up.

feel free to message me :) I'm happy to try and help you as best I can, and that's the silly thing you see, the worst thing he can say is no, or reject you, yeah, it's awful, but it's not the end of the world, it's not as terrible as it sounds :)

Thanks and I'm sure it isn't as terrible as it sounds either, but once again, fear is beating me to the punch. I really need to get control over it. I will probably message you soon and give you more background, because with some personal experiences it becomes more interesting. I have a private blog where I wrote a lot of my favorite (and worst) experiences of high school.

[Cognizant]

Your right, confidence is a big issue for me. I'm a really honest and opinionated person but I always try too hard to please everyone and just end up not talking at all to avoid conflict. Something I am going to work on.

I'm thinking about letting him go as well, he means so much to me that I'm not sure I would want to embarrass or make him feel weird if I came out to him. I'm sure he would be understanding and all and I'm probably dead wrong about everything even if he says no. The fear is what's tripping me up.


I feel a bit disrespectful in my previous reply. From what i've seen go on at my high school (and maybe it's different where you live), and from how you've described him to us, not much can go wrong.
Fear used to dominate my life. I used to freeze up in certain social situations. But after experiencing it, it's a "my god that's easy" moment.

You don't have to anything life changing, but it's pretty easy to test people without being obvious. Go up and say hi to him when you see him next. If you know some of his interests, start up a conversation about it. Offer him your cell number. It sounds silly, but the butt touching thing can be a really good indicator if he's turned on by it, or if he's uncomfortable.

This isn't probably the easiest sounding advice, but in reality, you need to be brave to get some of the things you want. If it's too overwhelming, or it's clear he's not interested in dating, let alone talking, it may be time to pull the plug and try to find someone else. I'm sure there's plenty of guys in your area that you can click well with :)

I'm here to PM if you want to talk more!

[Extreme586]

I feel a bit disrespectful in my previous reply. From what i've seen go on at my high school (and maybe it's different where you live), and from how you've described him to us, not much can go wrong.
Fear used to dominate my life. I used to freeze up in certain social situations. But after experiencing it, it's a "my god that's easy" moment.

You don't have to anything life changing, but it's pretty easy to test people without being obvious. Go up and say hi to him when you see him next. If you know some of his interests, start up a conversation about it. Offer him your cell number. It sounds silly, but the butt touching thing can be a really good indicator if he's turned on by it, or if he's uncomfortable.

This isn't probably the easiest sounding advice, but in reality, you need to be brave to get some of the things you want. If it's too overwhelming, or it's clear he's not interested in dating, let alone talking, it may be time to pull the plug and try to find someone else. I'm sure there's plenty of guys in your area that you can click well with :)

I'm here to PM if you want to talk more!

No worries, I didn't take any offense to anything you said. I kind of took it as a silly thing too. But now that I think about it, maybe playing around with him and seeing how he reacts could help. That is if I can muster up the courage to talk to him first.

[Cognizant]

No worries, I didn't take any offense to anything you said. I kind of took it as a silly thing too. But now that I think about it, maybe playing around with him and seeing how he reacts could help. That is if I can muster up the courage to talk to him first.

if you two are friends on Facebook, it might make it slightly easier since it's not face-to-face. i wouldn't have all your conversations online though; just until you're more comfortable talking to him.

[1_21Guns]

Thanks and I'm sure it isn't as terrible as it sounds either, but once again, fear is beating me to the punch. I really need to get control over it. I will probably message you soon and give you more background, because with some personal experiences it becomes more interesting. I have a private blog where I wrote a lot of my favorite (and worst) experiences of high school.

Fear is difficult to deal with but not completely uncontrollable, you'll get a grip on it eventually, you probably just need to go for it and see what happens then be it good or 'bad' you'll learn something from the experience, but either way the outcome will be worth the chance, you either get him, or you find out that yeah rejection hurts but it's not the end of the world :)