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AutumnDae
January 11th, 2008, 04:07 PM
I'm not sure if this is the right forum to post this in, but none of the Psychiatric Ward's forums seemed to fit. Move it if it is wrong please.

My younger brother, Alex is 8. He is different I guess. He doesn't like to go outside, except to go swimming, or the occasional sledding. He only really plays video games or watches T.V. Every time you start joking around with him, or just really saying something to him, he gets really angry. And upset. And also every time you startle him, if hes reading something, and you say his name, he screams. Like he's really scared. So yesterday 1/10/07, apparently, he was in gym class, and got hit in the "face" (his eye I guess) with a basketball. Now, being 8 of course he cried. But not only did he cry, he SCREAMED. And laid down on the floor, hand covering his eye, and screamed. The coach, could not get him to remove his hand from his eye, to take a look at it. The school greeter (sits in the lobby, signs people in) had to CARRY him to the nurse's office. His eye was fine, but he wouldn't stop screaming and crying. He went back to class, and for the rest of the day his teachers could not get him to move, do any work, anything. He comes home with a note in his backpack, asking to set up a meeting about him. My mom goes today, and she said "they didn't tell me anything I didn't already know" They talked about his behavior yesterday, how he likes to work by himself, doesn't like to play with other children. I said "So he doesn't like to work in a group, big deal." But, my mom is calling his pediatrician, and meeting with him to talk about Alex. My mom wants to see what he says, and maybe have Alex go to a psychologist, psychiatrist, therapist. Whichever one applies here, sorry I don't really know the difference.

I think what my mom is worried about is Alex, and how he handles his emotions. It seems that he either doesn't have any emotions, or they are really strong, like screaming and crying. Does anyone have any idea what could be wrong with him, if anything. I'm really nervous about him going to "therapy" I doubt he would go for it. He wouldn't be easy to fool, saying "Let's play some games"

I just remembered one thing, that may help with anything. Before Christmas, my mom, sister, and I were on the computer, looking up things for Christmas. All Alex said he wanted was a Wii game. Come to find out, the game's release date was pushed back to about February. He proceeded to cry for about an hour and a half, face don on the couch, when he heard this peice of information.

Sorry for this being so long, I just want to get some opinions, and figured as many details as possible would help.

Patchy
January 11th, 2008, 04:17 PM
Well first things first I'm here for you,

I havent got a little brother but one of my friends mate is 10 and sounds just like your brother. my mates little brother has practically grown up with me around most of the time. he hasnt got any friends he just sits in his room all day except to get food and maybe play with the dog.

He seems to have so many problems at school with other boys and almost has lost the confidence to talk to anyone anymore.

The parents have tried tonnes including forcing him to go out because they thought he would enjoy going out once he had done it for the first time.

I reckon the only way around problems like these is to be quite mean to him in order to be nice take away the video games so he has to find something better to do. get him to take up a new sport or a combat sport even. He will moan and groan for having to do all of it but in the end it might get him the confidence/everything he needs to become a nice healthy..trying to think of a word to sum everything u described in one word...in the end it might solve his difficulties

if your wanting more info on my mates brother and want any more help please pm me :)

byee
January 11th, 2008, 07:49 PM
Hmm...a couple of things off the bat. First, the longer I'm here, the more certain people seem to stand out as being very aware and very sensitive to the needs of others. Both Autumn Dae (first name?) and Patchy (Patrick) are 2 of them. I like that. It's not surprising to me that they're both here on the same thread, either.

OK. Onto the issues at hand. First, your bro is 8, which is really, really young. Young 'uns tend to react emotionally to many things, it's just part of being young, i suppose. But, it also seems that both the people in school, as well as your parents, are noticing that evenso, there's something about Alex that's a bit different than most his age, that's a bit, i don't know, maybe more underdeveloped? (I hate the word 'immature'). Maybe you're struck by the same behaviors?

Therapy is a wonderful thing, you know. The idea of meeting with a qualified child psychologist who is specifically trained to assess Alex's coping skills and teach him more advanced/appropriate ways of reacting is a wonderful idea. And, although many people have their own ideas of how this stuff of therapy goes, actually it's quite gentle. Meeting with a nice guy (or woman) who justs gently talks with you and maybe plays with you is really pretty non threatening. And, it works.

I'd suggest at this point, since you seem to share (or at least understand) everyone's concern about Alex that you support the idea if therapy and play up the benefits of doing so.

Patchy
January 12th, 2008, 09:29 AM
Hmm...a couple of things off the bat. First, the longer I'm here, the more certain people seem to stand out as being very aware and very sensitive to the needs of others. Both Autumn Dae (first name?) and Patchy (Patrick) are 2 of them. I like that. It's not surprising to me that they're both here on the same thread, either.

OK. Onto the issues at hand. First, your bro is 8, which is really, really young. Young 'uns tend to react emotionally to many things, it's just part of being young, i suppose. But, it also seems that both the people in school, as well as your parents, are noticing that evenso, there's something about Alex that's a bit different than most his age, that's a bit, i don't know, maybe more underdeveloped? (I hate the word 'immature'). Maybe you're struck by the same behaviors?

Therapy is a wonderful thing, you know. The idea of meeting with a qualified child psychologist who is specifically trained to assess Alex's coping skills and teach him more advanced/appropriate ways of reacting is a wonderful idea. And, although many people have their own ideas of how this stuff of therapy goes, actually it's quite gentle. Meeting with a nice guy (or woman) who justs gently talks with you and maybe plays with you is really pretty non threatening. And, it works.

I'd suggest at this point, since you seem to share (or at least understand) everyone's concern about Alex that you support the idea if therapy and play up the benefits of doing so.

Aww thanks for what you said :)

Yeah thinking about it more young children react more emotionally than most people, also maybe u should try and talk to him more and then maybe take him to places where lots of people his age go so he could have the chance to make loads of new friends.