How do I tell my parents I cut?

[Connorhartweg]

Hey all, I had alot of pressure built up on me and this morning I kinda let it all out. I cut 66 times on my left underarm and I felt a whole lot better afterwards. I'm not doing it for attention cause noone knows. I want to know how to tell my mom without her getting mad? Any suggestions? Please don't judge. Also how do I know if they are infected from such a large amount of cuts?

Also I am bullied alot and that helped push me over the edge

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[Moondust]

Don't give a flip what those losers say about you( bullies are really just trolls in their natural habitat) and yes, they WILL get infected from so many cuts( I used to have a phobia of bacteria, I know a thing or two about infections) I'm not judging, I'm just giving you my honest opinion. I'm not calling you weak or anything, but there are alternatives to self harm( I once wanted to when I had depression, but studied other ways to cope) it's ok to just be honest with your parents and yourself, whether they are mad or not they still love you and you will be doing the right thing by not hiding something like this.
You don't have to deal with this alone, but try doing things to, as sad as this seems, forget for a while, such as get into anime, try out a new tv series, start watching YouTube, start a book series, start tumblr, start a collection, just SOMETHING that YOU love to do, something that benefits you and doesn't cause damage. If you forget your emotions for long enough, they will go away. Believe me, I've gone through it and I know.
Try drinking green tea, since it contains chemicals that help with depression, try jogging, it also helps by releasing something in your brain that relaxes your emotions and makes you happier. Try talking to yourself, I 've never had a friend, so sometimes I like to let out my private feeling to the only one who knows exactly how I feel, which is me. Also, a diary or journal is a great thing, too, and it helped when I felt like crying, since I could just tell it everything that I would never tell my family. Study up on ways that make you feel happy without hurting yourself and find what works best for you. I'm still recovering myself, but I feel proud to have gotten through it without self harm.

[suicidalbutter]

Talking to your mom:
I've never told my mom or anyone that I cut. I've heard stories of kids telling their parents though. Some parents get angry and overreact by keeping all the sharp things locked away from you. Some parents rage out of fearing they did something to cause it all. They need just as much reassurance as we do. Some parents will actively engage in seeking help for their child. Every parent is different. Not entirely sure how yours will react, but you should be able to talk openly with your mom even if she does get angry. Tell her what's on your mind, why you cut in the first place. If she gets mad eventually the anger will go away and she will be able to talk to you about it.

About infection:
Clean the cuts when you shower. They will burn like hell but the soap will be cleaning them out. If you have first aid ointment in the house, put some of that on each day till they start to heal over. This will at least help try to lower the risk of infection.

[britishboy]

just tell them, they could go mental and scream, they could cry and be ashamed or they could be upset and try to help. theres never any guarantee but what is for certain is that you should tell them

[numbness]

I never told my mum she saw my cuts when I was walking around the house in just a towel, she completely freaked out at me but then when she came round she just wanted to talk to me about it and see if she could help (I didn't tell her she was the main reason why I do it ) it didnt really help me talking ti her but if you have a good relationship with your mum would probably tell bed when she's relaxed and watching the telly. I think its good that you want to talk to her :) I hope the bullying stops

[These.scars.are.me.]

on the infection thing try savlon cream then cover it with gauze after washing it, i had a really nasty one once and that cleared it right up.
i didnt tell my mum, school called them because they saw my arm and thought she should know! wasnt their right to but hey ho... i think its great that you feel you want to tell your mum. however, not trying to deter you but be prepared for the worst: that probably being a fight but after she comes round you should be able to talk about it. the person i talk to suggested i write my mum a letter because i feel awkward talking to her about the weather let alone me self harming. i plan on writing it when i havent just had a fight with her but maybe leave it on her pillow before you go to bed so you can discuss it all in the morning if there are any bits she wants more information on.
Bullies are idiots. they shouldnt get away with what they do. i have always been bullied about my size so i know what being bullied is like. i think if you tell someone and just ignore them (easier said than done i know!) then they should get bored and if they dont then definatly tell someone who can do something about it

[Connorhartweg]

on the infection thing try savlon cream then cover it with gauze after washing it, i had a really nasty one once and that cleared it right up.
i didnt tell my mum, school called them because they saw my arm and thought she should know! wasnt their right to but hey ho... i think its great that you feel you want to tell your mum. however, not trying to deter you but be prepared for the worst: that probably being a fight but after she comes round you should be able to talk about it. the person i talk to suggested i write my mum a letter because i feel awkward talking to her about the weather let alone me self harming. i plan on writing it when i havent just had a fight with her but maybe leave it on her pillow before you go to bed so you can discuss it all in the morning if there are any bits she wants more information on.
Bullies are idiots. they shouldnt get away with what they do. i have always been bullied about my size so i know what being bullied is like. i think if you tell someone and just ignore them (easier said than done i know!) then they should get bored and if they dont then definatly tell someone who can do something about it

The part how I should leave it on her pillow is great. I'm gonna go do that. Thanks for the advice

[These.scars.are.me.]

thats ok, it just gives you time to calm down as well if you get upset writing it