Age Problem...

[AmethystKitty]

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a few months now but he is two years older then me. I was wondering what will happen when he leaves school? Wont it be illeagal for us to date? Or even, by then we might be into more then just dating *Wink, wink, nudge nudge*...

I really want to know what will happen because I don't want to have to wait two years for us to be able to get back together... He might find someone knew and not even bother waiting for me...

Can someone please tell me? I need to know what will happen so that I don't let it get to far...

[Serenity]

There's no such thing as 'illegal to date.' There is the Age of Consent, which is when minors can legally have sex. I don't know where you live so I don't know what your area's AOC is, but I can tell you that 13 is too young. Period. If your boyfriend is pressuring you to have sex, he's a crappy bf and you need to find yourself a new one.

[Maverick]

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[Hyper]

There's no such thing as 'illegal to date.' There is the Age of Consent, which is when minors can legally have sex. I don't know where you live so I don't know what your area's AOC is, but I can tell you that 13 is too young. Period. If your boyfriend is pressuring you to have sex, he's a crappy bf and you need to find yourself a new one.

Or if he wants to have sex with you he is just a pathetic guy who needs to play with naive little girls!

If not and if he wont pressure you then you shouldn't really worry, if your relationship ''sticks for another year or more then I think its ok to assume that he honestly cares about you :P

[Maddi]

I think all she's saying is that she's worried that his age might interfere with their relationship, and when it comes to the point of having sex, they won't be able to.

Personally, I don't think you should worry about it, because I dated a guy three years older than me [making him 18] and there was no problem at all. So really, if you two can make it work despite everything, I don't think anything can interfere with what you two want to do to eachothers' bodies. Even though now it might be a little much.

Stay safe, though. ^_^

[byee]

I'm confuzzled here. You're 13, he's 15, and you're worried about what will happen when he leaves school? Depends on where you are, but isn't that, like, at age 17 or 18?

Are you suggesting that you expect this relationship to survive that long, another 2 or 3 years?

I know these feelings are really strong, and you'd like this relationship to last, maybe forever! But realistically speaking, it probably won't. Maybe just enjoy him and the relationship for as long as it's good without the expectation of 'forever'. Regardless of how long (or short) it might be.

[Glasgow]

Depending on where you live, the legal sex age will differ. If you live in Canada, and are over the age of 14 then its fine (Aslong as its not with someone whos like 5 years older than you)

But just tell him that you still want to date, you can date whoever you want age doesnt matter, its no law.

[racy]

If you live in Canada, and are over the age of 14 then its fine ( Like, maybe it's legal, but I don't think it's fine. Maybe I feel sexy, but i'm worried about all those diseases and getting pregnant. Maybe I want him to get a blood test before I have sex. But then, it's like I've promised to have sex with him if he has a good test result. I don't want to get pushed into all of that.

[Serenity]

So tell him that. All of it. You need to talk it out with him- if you can't do something as simple as discuss this issue with him, there's no reason in hell for you to even be considering the possibility of having sex with him. Period.

[Underground_Network]

Wait, did Racy just hijack this thread? Cuz she's not the OP. I'm at a loss as to what's going on.. But I can say that age difference in a relationship usually doesn't interfere that much (unless its a huge age difference), but don't be pressured into having sex if you don't want to. If you want to, just make sure you're mature enough to handle the consequences and stay safe. Though there are stat rape laws, no one ever gets busted for that, but you should seriously stay safe and really wait till your older before engaging in any type of sexual activity... Did I sound smart? I hope not....

[Gumleaf]

Wait, did Racy just hijack this thread? Cuz she's not the OP. I'm at a loss as to what's going on.. But I can say that age difference in a relationship usually doesn't interfere that much (unless its a huge age difference), but don't be pressured into having sex if you don't want to. If you want to, just make sure you're mature enough to handle the consequences and stay safe. Though there are stat rape laws, no one ever gets busted for that, but you should seriously stay safe and really wait till your older before engaging in any type of sexual activity... Did I sound smart? I hope not....


you will find that if you read all the post u_n that what racy said in her post follows on from what other people were saying.

[Underground_Network]

K, I'm too lazy to read posts that are longer than two sentences that are not in TWPR, ROTW, or the Mental Crisis forum.. (in other words those are the only places I'll read posts that are longer than two sentences)

[byee]

You know, part of the age difference thing is that there's often an inequality in the power in the relationship itself. If either of you feel uncomfortable (with or without the *wink wink* nudge nudge*), then what you're really saying is that the other person has the power in the relationship, and you're not feeling dtrong enough to say what you feel.

Relationships are partnerships. You can't be a full partner if you feel insecure to be yourself for fear of rejection/abandonment.