Well I'm concerned

[Sugaree]

Well when I went to see my friend last Thrusday I am a little bit concerned.

Now it's not that he's developed faster than me, it's not that at all. It's just that his voice has gotten deeper and I now have this feeling that makes me feel attached to him emotionally. It feels that it's gone way past the bond of friendship and I'm concerned here.

I feel as I if I have this pull to his body and I really like jacking off to his image in my mind. But this is really confusing me. It feels like there is this pull that's trying to get me to him and to my crush. I need help, what do I do VT!

[byee]

Matt, I'm not sure about 'attachment' here, although I can tell you're wickedly attracted to him and are clearly aroused by him! But attachment? That's an emotional thing.

I'm not sure what you can do here, I'm assuming that the depth of this is unknown to him? Maybe it's better for the time being for you to keep this stuff to yourself and, *ahem*, address it as you are now. Privately.

[Sugaree]

Yeah you're probably right. I'm still wondering if I'll ever tell him or even be able to :(

[archangel]

That is quite a big revelation for a friendship. I would encourage you to wait it out. You are only 13 and most boys make and treasure some of their best friends near that age. Perhaps what you feel is just a strong bond of friendship. If you just cant get him out of your mind in a sexual sense, try talking to someone you trust; then decide on a good course of action either informing your friend, or trying to work it out "privately" like suggested above.

[Half Angel]

I'm currently suffering from the same problem, though I'm a year older. Don't tell him this because you might intimidate him which might make him want to leave you as a friend. Wait a year or two, see how he develops. You never know, he two could feel the same thing. At this age he would probably feel scared about these emotions, if they even exsist. If you suspect they don't, for your friendship's sake, do not tell him. Just try not to think about it too much.

[Sugaree]

Trust me I know I have these feelings for him :(

But I should wait a while for it. He might not respond well.

[Patchy]

Trust me I know I have these feelings for him :(

But I should wait a while for it. He might not respond well.

Well it depends what your friend is like, he may be one of these people who are really homophobic and never talk to you again, your feelings may change so I reckon its best to say nothing at the moment.

[Sugaree]

I know he's not homophobic because he likes gay people. He's come out and told me that but he's not gay.

[Half Angel]

Does he know of your sexuality? Has he ever seemed to be...attracted to boys though he doesn't admit it?

[Sugaree]

Well when I was 9 we both gave eachother blowjob's and I was curious back then and I am now. I mean he was acting in a way that was getting me horny the last time I saw him and it was like that he turned me on majorly.

He doesn't know about my sexuality since I'm curious.

[Patchy]

I think the best thing to do is not tell him because he may react badly.

If you want to see how he reacts to this sorta stuff, say remember when we gave each other bj's I found it fun.

if he reacts badly then I wouldnt tell him your feelings towards him.

[Sugaree]

Yeah. This is all getting to me right now. I'm freaking out. but I'm not sure he remembers and if I tell him he would probably freak. But maybe if I talk to him about what he thinks about people with the sexuality of being gay and all maybe I'll be able to.

[byee]

Matt, based on what you've said, I think we can safely assume he already know how you feel about him.

There are a lot of ways people communicate their feelings, words are just one way. Continue being a good friend, and attentive friend. He's got it. I'm not sure why you need to put this into words, if you think it might be risky in some way.

[Sugaree]

Well you're right Sam. There is no reason to tell him in words. Actions speak just as clearly. Thank you so much Sam! You have open my mind and eyes!