Borderline Personality Disorder

[AyVannah]

Okay, so I think I might have BPD. My friend talked to her mom about me. She said that, while she wasn't the right person to talk about that with, it sounded like bipolar or Borderline Personality Disorder. I have researched both and found that BPD seems to fit better than Manuc Depression does. I know that trying to diagnose myself only makes me nervous and whatnot but still. Yesterday I decide to talk to my grandmother about this for the first time, telling her everything. That is when she told me that my father had a personality disorder. When I described BPD to her she said that that was what it was and that the name was familiar. Doing research, I found it is genetic and usually begins to show it's first symptoms in adolescence/early adulthood. This explains a lot, I feel, about myself. Though it does worry me. Will people treat me different? Will it affect any jobs I want to get (I want to be a forensic psychologist or a regularly psychologist)? What does this really mean about myself? I talk with my councillor in a couple weeks (whom I have not seen since the beginning of summer) and will be talking to her about this but I have a feeling she will say that I am probably just overreacting to this it something. No. I am not. I do not feel I am, anyways. It makes me a bit freaked out, but at the same time it makes me feel a bit better to know there's a name for this.

[britishboy]

Okay, so I think I might have BPD. My friend talked to her mom about me. She said that, while she wasn't the right person to talk about that with, it sounded like bipolar or Borderline Personality Disorder. I have researched both and found that BPD seems to fit better than Manuc Depression does. I know that trying to diagnose myself only makes me nervous and whatnot but still. Yesterday I decide to talk to my grandmother about this for the first time, telling her everything. That is when she told me that my father had a personality disorder. When I described BPD to her she said that that was what it was and that the name was familiar. Doing research, I found it is genetic and usually begins to show it's first symptoms in adolescence/early adulthood. This explains a lot, I feel, about myself. Though it does worry me. Will people treat me different? Will it affect any jobs I want to get (I want to be a forensic psychologist or a regularly psychologist)? What does this really mean about myself? I talk with my councillor in a couple weeks (whom I have not seen since the beginning of summer) and will be talking to her about this but I have a feeling she will say that I am probably just overreacting to this it something. No. I am not. I do not feel I am, anyways. It makes me a bit freaked out, but at the same time it makes me feel a bit better to know there's a name for this.

I do not know you well enough to diagnose this, my best advice is to see a doctor

no one should treat you different, if you have it already how will putting a name to it change anything? you also dont need to tell anyone and you could get drugs to suppress the symptoms so I fully recommend seeing a doctor:)

[AyVannah]

Ill be seeing my councillor soon to see what she has to say I've discussed it with three friends and one of them has already called me a freak :/
Also, the possibility of having a mental illness scares me. My dad had it and the way the person who diagnosed him said that he had one of two choices. He would either go into law enforcement or something similar, or he would start going the ipposire direction and break the law. I don't think he was ever told this, but he started breaking laws and was it o drugs and alcohol and yeah. So that's what he had and it just makes me nervous cause I don't want to end up like he did.

[britishboy]

Ill be seeing my councillor soon to see what she has to say I've discussed it with three friends and one of them has already called me a freak :/
Also, the possibility of having a mental illness scares me. My dad had it and the way the person who diagnosed him said that he had one of two choices. He would either go into law enforcement or something similar, or he would start going the ipposire direction and break the law. I don't think he was ever told this, but he started breaking laws and was it o drugs and alcohol and yeah. So that's what he had and it just makes me nervous cause I don't want to end up like he did.

I see what you mean but wether or not you have that title pinned to you is irrelevant, if you do have it, avoiding being diagnosed is doing no good

and about your friend, she may come back but if not, leave her

[AyVannah]

I guess that's true. Still freaks me out a bit, but again, I will see what my counsellor says in a couple of weeks I guess. Then hopefully I can try to focus on getting it under control.
And yeah

[britishboy]

I guess that's true. Still freaks me out a bit, but again, I will see what my counsellor says in a couple of weeks I guess. Then hopefully I can try to focus on getting it under control.
And yeah

good:) let me know how it goes! and if it is diagnosed, they can help you:)
PM me whenever you want if you want to talk in private

[AyVannah]

good:) let me know how it goes! and if it is diagnosed, they can help you:)
PM me whenever you want if you want to talk in private

I will, no worries :)
And okay thank you

[Magenta]

Well, for one, if it is BPD, you won't be diagnosed until you're 18 or older. Symptoms manifest themselves during the period of your life where your personality is forming the most. If they carry into adulthood and continue affecting your life, that is when most doctors will diagnose BPD because it affects personality traits and behaviours you should have learned by then and, if you have BPD, still haven't. What my doctor told me, when I said I knew 14- and 15-year-olds with doctors who diagnosed them, is that they are about 80% more likely to have been misdiagnosed and not able to get the help they actually need.

I've been in and out of hospitals, doctors' offices, therapy, etc, since I was about 14 and I've been showing symptoms since I was a little kid but, of course, kids and teens are still developing who they are. The best diagnosis I have on paper in this entire time is a mood disorder NOS with borderline traits.

BPD has a really strong stigma. Especially because of the name. Border of what? Technically, psychosis and neurosis, which has been deemed rather inaccurate because very few BPD sufferers actually have psychotic symptoms. So the name itself is usually what freaks other people out. And it's a hard illness to understand. A lot of people don't understand the black and white thinking, the addictions people with BPD often end up with, and especially the extreme risk of suicide. Also, people with BPD are often very manipulative and that often causes stigma among doctors and therapists who end up not even wanting to work with BPD patients. Certain forms of therapy are often ineffective and a BPD-specific one (DBT) is often not properly funded, at least not where I'm from. I'm not saying this to scare you, but this is the reality of what other people sometimes think.

It shouldn't affect your job that you want. Of course, some people with BPD can't work because it's so severe but that's an individual thing. The only jobs it would affect are ones where you need to pass a psychological evaluation really. But that goes for any mental illness.

It doesn't mean anything about you though. If you have a mental illness of any kind, it's not a weakness on your part, it's not because you failed to do something or be a certain way. It's not something you had control over and it just happens. It sucks to live with but BPD does have a fairly good prognosis if treated properly. It's really just a pain in the ass to get diagnosed, but I fully understand why. I honestly don't think I'd trust any doctor who says right away that someone has a personality disorder. Personality and mental illness are both really complicated things and when there are no incredibly obvious symptoms like, for example, hearing voices or seeing things, it's a tricky process. Second opinions and patience aren't always a bad thing in cases like these.

If you want to talk, you're more than welcome.

[AyVannah]

Well, for one, if it is BPD, you won't be diagnosed until you're 18 or older. Symptoms manifest themselves during the period of your life where your personality is forming the most. If they carry into adulthood and continue affecting your life, that is when most doctors will diagnose BPD because it affects personality traits and behaviours you should have learned by then and, if you have BPD, still haven't. What my doctor told me, when I said I knew 14- and 15-year-olds with doctors who diagnosed them, is that they are about 80% more likely to have been misdiagnosed and not able to get the help they actually need.

I've been in and out of hospitals, doctors' offices, therapy, etc, since I was about 14 and I've been showing symptoms since I was a little kid but, of course, kids and teens are still developing who they are. The best diagnosis I have on paper in this entire time is a mood disorder NOS with borderline traits.

BPD has a really strong stigma. Especially because of the name. Border of what? Technically, psychosis and neurosis, which has been deemed rather inaccurate because very few BPD sufferers actually have psychotic symptoms. So the name itself is usually what freaks other people out. And it's a hard illness to understand. A lot of people don't understand the black and white thinking, the addictions people with BPD often end up with, and especially the extreme risk of suicide. Also, people with BPD are often very manipulative and that often causes stigma among doctors and therapists who end up not even wanting to work with BPD patients. Certain forms of therapy are often ineffective and a BPD-specific one (DBT) is often not properly funded, at least not where I'm from. I'm not saying this to scare you, but this is the reality of what other people sometimes think.

It shouldn't affect your job that you want. Of course, some people with BPD can't work because it's so severe but that's an individual thing. The only jobs it would affect are ones where you need to pass a psychological evaluation really. But that goes for any mental illness.

It doesn't mean anything about you though. If you have a mental illness of any kind, it's not a weakness on your part, it's not because you failed to do something or be a certain way. It's not something you had control over and it just happens. It sucks to live with but BPD does have a fairly good prognosis if treated properly. It's really just a pain in the ass to get diagnosed, but I fully understand why. I honestly don't think I'd trust any doctor who says right away that someone has a personality disorder. Personality and mental illness are both really complicated things and when there are no incredibly obvious symptoms like, for example, hearing voices or seeing things, it's a tricky process. Second opinions and patience aren't always a bad thing in cases like these.

If you want to talk, you're more than welcome.
Thank you for te contribution of this :) this helps me a lot. It gives me more valuable information on BPD and makes me feel better about having it if I have it. Thank you so much for all of the help! :)