It's...Awkward.

[blue.lips]

So my friends have already made out with plenty of people and had sex and don't find doing sexual related things uncomfortable or awkward for them, but I do.

I can't even bring myself to kiss anyone because I feel so awkward and uncomfortable about it. Whenever someone sexts me I just tense up and get really nervous and my mind goes blank because of the sexually explicit things. I don't even know how to respond to flirting and it's like I shut down and get really uncomfortable.
I really don't know how to get past this plateau and it's really holding me back. Can anyone help me? D:

[Lost in the Echo]

Teen Sexuality :arrow: P101
This fits better there. :)

It doesn't sound like you're ready for any kind of sexual activity. Whether it be intimate, or sexting, if it makes you uncomfortable, then you're not ready for it.
Don't force yourself to do something you're not comfortable doing. Don't feel obligated to do something, just because someone else does it.
Be your own person. :)

[blue.lips]

Teen Sexuality :arrow: P101
This fits better there. :)

It doesn't sound like you're ready for any kind of sexual activity. Whether it be intimate, or sexting, if it makes you uncomfortable, then you're not ready for it.
Don't force yourself to do something you're not comfortable doing. Don't feel obligated to do something, just because someone else does it.
Be your own person. :)

You're right I thought I added my post under teen sexuality >…<
but what if i want to be ready? how long could this last?

[Ryhanna]

Seems like you're not emotionally ready. Don't push yourself to catch up to your friends and have sex just for the sake of it. Being uncomfortable is fine. It just means you're not quite ready to go that far yet.

[Lost in the Echo]

You're right I thought I added my post under teen sexuality >…<
but what if i want to be ready? how long could this last?

I'm not sure how long this will last. Nobody knows.
You can't force yourself to be ready for sex, it's something that comes naturally.

Also, you're only 14, you're still very young. Even if your friends or people you know are having sex at this age, it doesn't mean they're ready for it. They probably feel pressured, just as you do.
You can be different though, and not give into the pressure.

You'll know when you're ready for sex. Until then, just go with the flow, and let whatever happens, happen. Don't force yourself to do anything you don't really want to do. Just do whatever you are comfortable doing.

[Miss_Hollywood_]

Maybe you don't like boys

[Sephtyan]

Well, I can tell you that it's perfectly normal. I'm 18, have been for about 4 months now, and I can't handle intimacy either. It's not from lack of candidates, people have some up to me, asking if I wanted to get to know them better, and I turned them down because the idea of any sort of intimacy was too... well, scary.

I'm trying to get over my inability to interact with people sexually now, yet my life's not that bad. Don't worry about not being comfortable enough to handle sexual things yet, it's pretty early.

[TheFSM]

I fell you... I have the same problems.

[teen.jpg]

I'd give advice, but I'd be speaking from ignorace seeing as I'm currently forever alone.

[ihavetoomanyerrors]

Don't force yourself into uncomfortable situations. Just wait a few months or years and you'll be ready. And you're 14 you shouldn't be doing things like that anyway. Don't be pressured if your friends are doing all these things, you should enjoy your teenage years (even though they are the worst), they won't be there for long.

[blue.lips]

I'd give advice, but I'd be speaking from ignorace seeing as I'm currently forever alone.

You will be with that attitude! You gonna find da one.

[Luminous]

you are not the only one. I am comfortable with my own body, and with porn etc (yes I know I shouldn't watch it and it's not realistic.) but asking someone out? kissing? sex? making out? never done any of it. never even held hands.

[Magnus Bane]

Take your time and let yourself adjust to getting sexual. Don't let anyone push you into somehing

[Moondust]

You're only 14, you should not BE doing anything sexual at that age.
I've never been in any kind of relationship with anyone and don't plan to until I find just the right one who would never put me in any uncomfortable situation.
If you are receiving texts that make you uncomfortable, block the sender. Do what you are ok with and don't let anyone make you go through anything you feel weird doing.

[glox]

i'm in exactly the same situation. i figure, we're only 14, we shouldn't feel as if we have to do those things yet. when we're ready, it won't feel as awkward/daunting. maybe in a year or two. or three. etc.