Parent with a mental disorder

[removeddddd]

I don't know if this is the right sub-forum for this but whatever.


I've been living with one of my parents, my father, having a mental disorder ever since i was small and it has been really tough, he was never abusive to me or my sister but he was with my mother. Seeing your mother cry at a young age is not the best feeling in the world and it has affected me as i have anxiety and hated my dad for a long time but i have soon learnt more about his mental disorder and come to have felt sorry for him instead.

Do you live with or ever lived with someone with a mental disorder?

[DerBear]

I haven't personally lived with anyone with a mental disorder and I can only imagine how difficult it must be as it can trigger conflicting feelings as you can see the hurt the person with the mental disorder inflicts on people but then you know and understand that it isn't their fault.

Like I said I can only imagine what you're going through but I wish you the best of luck with the future.

[Luminous]

I have not but I can certainly imagine what you are going through. It is tough seeing your mother being abused, but remember they married for a reason and love each other. If it's safe for you to tell your dad no when he's abusing your mom do it.

[Harley Quinn]

My mum is Bipolar, so I live with that. Coping with the stress that her illness was/is bringing me was a very tough thing for me to go through, and to me I'm quite a young person regardless of age. So she affected me quite a lot. She's been hospitalised twice since I was born and I missed out a year of secondary education looking after her. My dad wasn't really around and so I'd have to stay with her through her highs and lows. I'd go to school some days and cry before lessons even began, it made me feel weak because I hate crying more than anything. When people are staring at you thinking you're an emotional nutcase it can get to you.

[uglyinsideandout]

I think my father is crazy but I don't know if that counts.

[Croconaw]

My mom is anorexic. She's 36 years old at 89 pounds.

[Desuetude]

When I was younger my mum had clinical depression for years. When my parents split up it got worse but when I was about 8/9 I think she managed to overcome it using self harm techniques and going to workshops etc. I think it put a lot of strain on my parents relationship but wasn't the sole reason of their divorce, she's been brave to overcome it and has turned it into a positive thing now having written a self help book herself and running workshops for others looking to create a more 'happy, upbeat life'.

It effected me a lot when I was younger and has caused some knock on affects as to how I am now. My mum had my sister and I for the majority of the time when we were younger, my dad had us for as little time as he could. It was difficult for the family with us being brought up practically solely by a depressed mother and my relationship with my mum is very bad now, having always been that way.

[DerBear]

I think my father is crazy but I don't know if that counts.

That doesn't quite count if you mean crazy in the traditional meaning of "Oh my parents are crazy"

If he has a mental disorder then yes, that would count.

[uglyinsideandout]

That doesn't quite count if you mean crazy in the traditional meaning of "Oh my parents are crazy"

If he has a mental disorder then yes, that would count.

I mean "Oh my father is crazy because he likes to get drunk and put his penis in me." Not sure how traditional that is for anyone else but it's common in my house.

[removeddddd]

I mean "Oh my father is crazy because he likes to get drunk and put his penis in me." Not sure how traditional that is for anyone else but it's common in my house.

Sexual abuse is a serious issue, you should definitely tell the authorities about it and they would hopefully do something about your abuser, most likely take him away.

[uglyinsideandout]

Sexual abuse is a serious issue, you should definitely tell the authorities about it and they would hopefully do something about your abuser, most likely take him away.

If they believed me, yes they probably would but that would be a disaster.

I feel like no one really understands my problem. So many people would be effected ina bad way if he went to jail and they would all blame me. I already know people don't like me I can't add another layer of hate to it.

And also then everyone would know and I don't think I could live with everyone knowing what's happened. I already feel ashamed and judged I can't bear to think what it would be like if everyone knew.

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Ok then there's the other side where no one believes me. If telling and him going to jail was bad I can't imagine how bad it would be if I told and he didn't go. My life is already a nightmare I hate to say it but I probably would kill myself if it went that way. So I just wish when people tell me that I need to tell they are asking me to take a pretty big risk.

[numbness]

My mum has had clinical depression all my life,my dad of dead so it is just me and mum living together.when I was eight mum was put in a mental health institution for a while after strangling me and other things. I still don't really know what happened to her because I was young and the doctors didn't tell me much. however I live with her now and she's still depressed. I know how hard it can be and I also know people live with parents/people who are more difficult to live with than a woman with depression

[Magenta]

My mum was clinically depressed and suffered from PTSD after my dad hit her and she divorced him. It only happened once because she kicked him out then and there. I only learned about that this year.

My entire family is a collection of nutjobs. I'm sorry if that's offensive to anyone (I live with a chronic mental illness too, I can't say much really) but it's true. My mum was the way I described above, verbally and emotionally abusive, as well as pulled a knife on me once. She's manipulative and self-pitying. I just don't care anymore because I can't work and have to live with her. She's done treatments and groups but she's only a little bit better.

Obviously my dad was abusive to my mother and has nearly crossed the line a few times with me. Things I don't talk about. He drinks a lot. His new wife is emotionally and verbally abusive to me. I don't know if these are mental disorders but how they act certainly reflects badly upon them. Then everyone else I'm related to is an alcoholic, drug addict, or bipolar. Literally everyone except maybe one grandmother.

So yeah, I have my fair share of parents/family with mental disorders or severe personality flaws.

[brokendishes]

My dad has Border-line Personality Disorder (or BPD). It's always been hard because he feels emotion a little more than the average person does, so if you say no to say, watching a movie with him, he'll get really grumpy. One day he'll be fine and up and going to work and the next he's in bed all day because he feels depressed. He also had minor autism, aspergers... It's not that bad but sometimes, it's hard for him to lookk you in the eye and tell you something, or he'll be really frustrated over little things. My sister got a bit of the autism, but not much, an my uncle on my mom's side has aspergers. Don't get me wrong, I love my dad, it's just sometimes, it's hard.

[bubble .]

I live with my bipolar mother, and no-one else.

[JamesSuperBoy]

My Mum gets depressed a lot - after divorce and shit but we try to manage best as we can
not easy - never is -