Help, please!

[southernguy]

Ok, so I have an odd situation. I posted in Teen Sexuality a couple days ago, and I got the answer I was looking for pretty quickly. Now comes the fun part.

So, as it turns out, I'm bi-curious, and I'm happy about that. So, not only through advice I got here on VT, but also from a friend, I want to start a relationship with another guy. Well, when I was at a camp this summer that just finished, there was a guy there who I found quite attractive, and I believe the feeling was mutual because he was flirting with me. We ended up hanging out all the time, and at one point, he asked one of my friends if I was gay, and friend told him no. From there, I noticed him back off slowly and not flirt with me, even though I actually want a relationship with him.

How exactly should I approach this with him because I wasn't supposed to know about him asking my friend if I was gay, but at the same time I want him to know that there could be a future for us together... Any help would be appreciated! Thanks!

[Meganium]

Ok, so I have an odd situation. I posted in Teen Sexuality a couple days ago, and I got the answer I was looking for pretty quickly. Now comes the fun part.

So, as it turns out, I'm bi-curious, and I'm happy about that. So, not only through advice I got here on VT, but also from a friend, I want to start a relationship with another guy. Well, when I was at a camp this summer that just finished, there was a guy there who I found quite attractive, and I believe the feeling was mutual because he was flirting with me. We ended up hanging out all the time, and at one point, he asked one of my friends if I was gay, and friend told him no. From there, I noticed him back off slowly and not flirt with me, even though I actually want a relationship with him.

How exactly should I approach this with him because I wasn't supposed to know about him asking my friend if I was gay, but at the same time I want him to know that there could be a future for us together... Any help would be appreciated! Thanks!

Wait, so how exactly do you know that the guy asked your friend if you were gay?

[unnamed94]

just tell him you werent sure about your sexuality before and that you like him. then depending on his answer to that you could start dating. if your friend wasnt supposed to tell you he asked him that, then go and tell him directly that you like him, there's no need to bring up your friend (for now at least, you could tell him you found out later)

[Seth.]

Why does it have to be up to your friend to do all the flirting? Flirt back. Buy him something nice. Tell him things like you really enjoy being with him. Mention to him in passing that you found out here that you're bi-curious.

[southernguy]

Wait, so how exactly do you know that the guy asked your friend if you were gay?

My friend told me what went on, and even though I told him he was wrong, he still hasn't quite realized what exactly happened and that I do actually like the other guy.

just tell him you werent sure about your sexuality before and that you like him. then depending on his answer to that you could start dating. if your friend wasnt supposed to tell you he asked him that, then go and tell him directly that you like him, there's no need to bring up your friend (for now at least, you could tell him you found out later)

So how would you suggest that I bring it up in conversation because its been weird conversation since he was told that I was straight.

Why does it have to be up to your friend to do all the flirting? Flirt back. Buy him something nice. Tell him things like you really enjoy being with him. Mention to him in passing that you found out here that you're bi-curious.

Any particular tips on flirting with him? And because I only see him every so often now that the camp is over, we text a lot, so any tips there? I've never really flirted with anyone before...

[Seth.]

Any particular tips on flirting with him? And because I only see him every so often now that the camp is over, we text a lot, so any tips there? I've never really flirted with anyone before...

Well if you don't see him on a regular basis, that makes it more difficult. I don't know much about flirting techniques. To me it's just letting a person know that you like them. Telling them and gifting them. You don't have to hint at something romantic or whatever, just make it clear that you fancy him.

[southernguy]

Thanks, Seth!

So, does anyone else have any flirting techniques? Particularly over text since that's our primary method of convo right now and then once we're in person I'll probably try to flirt then too.

[southernguy]

Ok, so update time!

I was talking to him (the guy I like), and I told him the truth about me being bi, and he's gay, so he obviously accepted that. He started to ask me who I liked, and I told him that I didn't want to tell him yet, and he started asking more questions like "Do I know him??" and stuff like that. My next question is, what should I do? Thing is, I do really like him, but he's dating another guy right now, and I've just never been in this position before.... any help would be appreciated!

[Joe69]

giving the fact the his with another guy is the only thing complicating things right now.. i would have said just go on and kiss him because its very clear that he likes you since his been "asking all those questions" loool. but yeah giving that his with someone else its hard.. good luck on what choice you take.. all the best dude

[southernguy]

giving the fact the his with another guy is the only thing complicating things right now.. i would have said just go on and kiss him because its very clear that he likes you since his been "asking all those questions" loool. but yeah giving that his with someone else its hard.. good luck on what choice you take.. all the best dude

I really want to just tell him how I feel, but he says he's happy in his relationship and it's just awkward because he's a really hard guy to read.