Problem...

[itsdattguy]

Well, the other day I was chatting on Facebook with a friend of mine and we were talking and all of a sudden we start talking about some girls that show up on Google Images (LOL) and I showed them to him, etc. The conversation kept escalating to the point where he admitted to me he's curious about people, etc. We started talking and then we compared, and eventually ended up masturbating together. When he finished, he told me he really had to go.

ONE DAY LATER....

I messaged him on Facebook and he said he felt horrible about the night before, and I did too honestly, since I am curious and such. He also told me he didn't want to talk to me anymore, etc. I told him that was fine, but that I'm not the cause of the issue because he was the one who wanted to compare, and such.

I have only one question for you: What could have possibly gone through his mind that he got mad at me and un-friended me on Facebook? I get along very well with his mother and sister but those are personal things I think they don't have to know. So, if you have gone through this before and can help me out, please do so!!! I sent him a message apologizing if I offended him in any way, and that I hope we could still be friends.

Thank you!!

[Seth.]

He got caught up in the heat of the moment and now regrets it. His way of dealing with it was to sever ties with you.

[lumberturd]

that sounds like a reall problem man, idk what was going through his head, keep trying to talk to him tho

[itsdattguy]

He did mention he was "Horny" and "Crazy for doing that...", but I don't believe that was the correct way to solve the issue, I mean... If he opened up to me when he let me know he was curious and such, why couldn't he openly talk to me about our friendship? You know? ...

[From Chris]

Well, the other day I was chatting on Facebook with a friend of mine and we were talking and all of a sudden we start talking about some girls that show up on Google Images (LOL) and I showed them to him, etc. The conversation kept escalating to the point where he admitted to me he's curious about people, etc. We started talking and then we compared, and eventually ended up masturbating together. When he finished, he told me he really had to go.

ONE DAY LATER....

I messaged him on Facebook and he said he felt horrible about the night before, and I did too honestly, since I am curious and such. He also told me he didn't want to talk to me anymore, etc. I told him that was fine, but that I'm not the cause of the issue because he was the one who wanted to compare, and such.

I have only one question for you: What could have possibly gone through his mind that he got mad at me and un-friended me on Facebook? I get along very well with his mother and sister but those are personal things I think they don't have to know. So, if you have gone through this before and can help me out, please do so!!! I sent him a message apologizing if I offended him in any way, and that I hope we could still be friends.

Thank you!!

I guess he just felt like he didn't want to be around what he did did something he is uncomfortable with so he just left you so he didn't have to think about it.

[AbyssalLight7]

He doesn't sound like a great friend, I mean, He asks to do it and then blames you for his regret. I once herd a quote: The people who mind don't matter and the people Who matter don't mind. I'd let him be but if he does matter to you that much then just try to be friendly and patch things up, not much else you can do.

[Seth.]

He did mention he was "Horny" and "Crazy for doing that...", but I don't believe that was the correct way to solve the issue, I mean... If he opened up to me when he let me know he was curious and such, why couldn't he openly talk to me about our friendship? You know? ...

Right, but instead he shut down and put up a wall. Hopefully he'll loosen up.

[LunarScorpio]

The best thing to do is going to be to leave it.

Maybe send one last sorry message, and then let is lie for at least a couple of months.

If he regrets it, that is why he has chosen to leave you, he may realise (if this was done over the internet it is illegal) and want to put it behind him.

[Coolguy10890]

I had a SIMILAR experience, I was the one with regret, and I shut down that person for awhile and then I came back to them, but I told them, never again.
Give him some time to move on from it, and then maybe try talking to him again and say something like: "I understand the regret you felt, can we talk again? Lets just not talk about this ever again though."

[MyNameIs.]

I think it's just like the media and his manly proud. The media tells the people that 2 guys comparing and other things are "gay". So he might think what he has done is gay so his manly proudness is gone. And maybe he was a bit guilty to. And he might do shy about it. So he thinks that the best solution is to forget you and just dont talk to you anymore so it is history for him. But it isnt it will be on your mind and one his. Just tell him he doesnt have to be shy about it that it is completely normal 2 guys do this, it's called puberty ;)

[Kjack31]

Maybe just leave him alone for a few days and see if he apologizes.

[itsdattguy]

Well, I sent him a message apologizing but no luck... Let's just see! I'm very attached to him and his family and I hope he forgives himself for it. I know it will probably happen again, because he is just like that. But, I will stop him when he wants to again so that this doesn't happen. His mom spoke to me earlier today and she has no idea, I asked her about him and she told me he's doing well. I sent him Happy Birthday for his BDAY and he only replied thanks. But, I have moved on and I'm not quite sure if I'll be there when he comes back (if he does) to talk to me. There isn't a second chance for a first impression!

[Josh from SoCal]

Well, I sent him a message apologizing but no luck... Let's just see! I'm very attached to him and his family and I hope he forgives himself for it. I know it will probably happen again, because he is just like that. But, I will stop him when he wants to again so that this doesn't happen. His mom spoke to me earlier today and she has no idea, I asked her about him and she told me he's doing well. I sent him Happy Birthday for his BDAY and he only replied thanks. But, I have moved on and I'm not quite sure if I'll be there when he comes back (if he does) to talk to me. There isn't a second chance for a first impression!

If you two were such close friends that you shared this experience, then I think you are still committed enough to him/your friendship that you can give him a little room. All this stuff we have happening to us is confusing to us at the best of times. If he followed his hormones and not his conscience, then he is battling with that. But if he has a little time to step back and think about everything, including how important you are to him, then he will be back. Only then will you both come to realize what your new situation is. If he starts it again with you, then you will know to ask him point blank up front if he is sure because you don't want something like that to come between yours and his friendship. if he continues, then its chill. if not, then it stops.

let him process it and be there for him when he comes back around. theres no timeline for it but probably in a few days he'll want to talk. if he's like really still freaked, then just tell him that you are flattered he chose you to have this experience with but that should be the end of it since he reacted like that. and if he's chill about it and wants to repeat, then go for it.

[Jaiv6]

Well, the other day I was chatting on Facebook with a friend of mine and we were talking and all of a sudden we start talking about some girls that show up on Google Images (LOL) and I showed them to him, etc. The conversation kept escalating to the point where he admitted to me he's curious about people, etc. We started talking and then we compared, and eventually ended up masturbating together. When he finished, he told me he really had to go.

ONE DAY LATER....

I messaged him on Facebook and he said he felt horrible about the night before, and I did too honestly, since I am curious and such. He also told me he didn't want to talk to me anymore, etc. I told him that was fine, but that I'm not the cause of the issue because he was the one who wanted to compare, and such.

I have only one question for you: What could have possibly gone through his mind that he got mad at me and un-friended me on Facebook? I get along very well with his mother and sister but those are personal things I think they don't have to know. So, if you have gone through this before and can help me out, please do so!!! I sent him a message apologizing if I offended him in any way, and that I hope we could still be friends.

Thank you!!

Hey what is your Facebook name I will chat to you

[kanine]

I have actually experienced this problem before with someone who said he was curious. Except we went a little er... Farther in person. Fact is, he is ashamed of himself for doing something considered bad and is blaming you for it. He is going to avoid you for awhile but your friendship should repair if it ever really ment anything to him.

[clandry]

It was probably his way of dealing with what happened, he didn't know how to cope and decided to cut ties with you. He is probably not comfortable with his sexuality and didn't know how to handle it.

[harley95]

He doesn't sound like a great friend, I mean, He asks to do it and then blames you for his regret. I once herd a quote: The people who mind don't matter and the people Who matter don't mind. I'd let him be but if he does matter to you that much then just try to be friendly and patch things up, not much else you can do.

I believe the quote that you are looking for is "Be who you are say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and toes who matter don't mind" by Dr Seuss sorry for being one of those people but that's my all time favorite quote

[Jaiv6]

Just try speak to him

[AbyssalLight7]

I believe the quote that you are looking for is "Be who you are say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and toes who matter don't mind" by Dr Seuss sorry for being one of those people but that's my all time favorite quote

thanks for the correction, now I won't go around misquoting anymore (If i remember it right)

[llwoahll]

Maybe hes in denial that he liked it and is secretly closeted and thinks he may have pressured u. Just saying its a possibility

[Ariesboy]

He did mention he was "Horny" and "Crazy for doing that...", but I don't believe that was the correct way to solve the issue, I mean... If he opened up to me when he let me know he was curious and such, why couldn't he openly talk to me about our friendship? You know? ...

If you really feel like that you have to talk to him about it.

[itsdattguy]

We already made up, but its not the same anymore. We used to enjoy talking to each other and now we just talk for a bit then don't talk again after two days.

[Ariesboy]

Aww that sucks, im sorry bro

[itsdattguy]

Aww that sucks, im sorry bro

Yeah it does... But I would definitely try jerking off with him again. haha

[Ariesboy]

Yeah it does... But I would definitely try jerking off with him again. haha

Lol who wouldnt ;)

[Rene]

He's probably realized he let his hormones take control of his actions and is now in a state of disbelief.

[itsdattguy]

He's probably realized he let his hormones take control of his actions and is now in a state of disbelief.

Haha he did notice, but he also enjoyed it! :D Lol.

[hockeyfan]

He might just want to forget about that experience... dont take it personnally