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Victory
July 22nd, 2013, 10:00 PM
Hey guys, I was wondering what everyone's opinions one age difference were... When I think of like a 25 year old dating a 20 year old it seems fine but a 20 year old dating a 15 year old is creepy to me. I know it's all about where each person is in their life development and stuff, but I have a reason for asking

I just turned 18. My straight friend from high school (we recently graduated. She doesn't know I'm gay/bi/whatever I am.) has a little sister who is 15 that I've always thought was beautiful but I've never looked at her sexually, since she was always a few years younger than me in school. Well, we were at their pool the other day and we were all in our bikinis, just having a good time trying to get a tan (or failing in my case) and swimming around and stuff. I realized pretty quickly that my friend's sister kept glancing at me and she kept conveniently like bumping into me in certain places in the water and stuff. For some reason I thought nothing of it until after we all got out because their mom got home with groceries.

Well, my friend put on a sundress she had out already but her sister and I went upstairs to change while she helped their mom with the groceries and all that. I was still like thinking of the way she was acting in the pool when we got to my friend's room and she stripped naked.. But she didn't just take off her bikini, she like looked into my eyes, made sure I was watching, and took it off. That's pretty much when I realized I was SUPER attracted to her, lol. Like, I've always thought she was cute but I never realized how hot she was until that moment, and I instantly got wet. She was talking to me like no big deal, getting distracted with whatever story she was telling me, and that made her really slow at putting her clothes on. I think she was doing it on purpose.

I honestly had NO idea what to do. I wanted to jump her because I knew she was coming on to me, but then again there were so many things wrong with the situation. I know it's only a 3 year difference but 18 and 15 just sounds wrong. Plus, it was only later that I realized that she had been flirting with me for the past like 4 years, I just never saw it. I don't know how she knew I liked girls, but she had to know, right? I mean, she seemed nervous but at the same time, I could tell it was completely intentional.

I played it cool and we kept talking... I get turned on when people see me naked or in a bikini or something so I took my top and bottom off right away, and we were just standing around talking, naked. It wasn't as awkward as it sounds but I mean, we both knew what was going on. I mean, I always got turned on to the point of embarrassment (no one ever found out) in school showers but this just seemed different. She walked into her sister's connected bathroom and started to shower, leaving the door open and the curtain pushed to the side... I just put on my clothes and went to help my friend and their mom with the groceries. I can't believe that I resisted the urge to make that move that she seemed to want, but I did. I pretended to forget my thong in the room and just put on my shorts, because I didn't want to ruin it.

LONG STORY SHORT, there's a hot 15 year old girl (my friend's sister) coming on to me, and I feel wrong for thinking she's hot and wanting to go for it. Can someone please give me some advice? lol...

Ruairi
July 22nd, 2013, 10:10 PM
I don't see anything wrong with it at all I think the only thing that you have to worry about is how your friend may react to this but if I was in your shoes I would go for it and maybe hide it from your friend for a while until your entirely sure of what is happening! I hope this helped in some way and if you have any other questions you want to fire my way don't be shy :)

hyperkid99
July 23rd, 2013, 02:03 AM
I think it's weird if a college student dates a high school student. I think it's alright if a senior dates a sophomore though

Victory
July 23rd, 2013, 12:49 PM
Thanks for the responses guys :) yeah, if I did anything, no one would be able to find out. I wouldn't have a problem with the secrecy because I've had to keep a lot over the years, but I don't know how she would do... if anyone found out, lives would be ruined and that's just such a huge risk. Another thing is I don't wanna get thrown in jail, lol. I'm 18 now which I'm pretty pretty sure means it's against the law for me to do anything with a 15 year old x_x which is part of why it feels so wrong. And then of course I'll be a freshman in college and she'll be a sophomore in high school (or maybe freshman, I don't remember). I guess I'm just so blinded by temptation that I want someone to convince me to go for it, lol.

Oh, another thing is that I don't think I want a relationship right now, but a friend with benefits thing would be perfect, and I don't think a 15 year old girl would want to or be able to do that. It'd be so fun to teach her how to please another girl and stuff though. I know she's never had an experience with another girl, because we were all talking about how weird that would be a few months ago, and I could tell she was being genuine... of course, I was lying. I had a crash course in being into girls when I was 13 and have been lesbian (though I've had bi moments) ever since, but they don't know that. Sorry if my lost is all over the place. I'm on my phone by the pool, lol

britishboy
July 23rd, 2013, 01:53 PM
im not sure if lesbian love is illegal? anyway communication is the most important thing, talk to her and share concerns

midnight424
July 23rd, 2013, 02:41 PM
three years really isnt that much of a difference so dealing with your friend would probably be the worst part of it i would think...... you cant fight the urge when you find someone like that

LouBerry
July 23rd, 2013, 02:50 PM
I think that if you wanted to have a relationship with the girl, it would be fine. I think that the biggest concern with age differences like that is someone getting pregnant. That obviously wouldn't be a problem here, so I don't think there would be a problem.

imaguybro
July 23rd, 2013, 03:05 PM
Having a College student having a High Student is weird. Having a High School student dating a Middle School Student is weird. They are weird because all 4 of them are in different stages of Maturity.

For you, you ''CAN'' date a 15 year old by law, but for sexual wise you cant do anything with them. Even with girls, its called rape if your legal and if your doing sexual things with a 17 and under person. Its normal for a 18-19 year old to date someone younger, but its kinda hard to hold back from the sexual things to do with them.

Just be careful, and make sure dont get caught if you both are serious.

Cygnus
July 23rd, 2013, 03:34 PM
This is supposedly the acceptable age difference for both genders.
http://www.onehalfplusseven.com/_/rsrc/1298380926305/home/about-the-half-your-age-plus-seven-rule/chart.png?height=400&width=378