I want to ask out a girl but I think she might be straight??

[Luminous]

Okay. So there's this girl I met at a summer camp last year, and I really like her. We spent a lot of time together at the camp because most of the other girls didn't like us and wouldn't hang out with us. It was like 3 or 4 weeks, spread out, not sleepover. We live really close to each other but haven't seen since then. We talk a lot on facebook and we're pretty good friends. I have a huuge crush on her. So she has had a lot of boyfriends and never said anything about girlfriends.. One time like 2 weeks ago we were talking and it was her birthday, her 15th (she's a year and 4 months older than me), and I asked her if she wanted to go to a coffee shop in between our houses, like 5 min walk. She said she was on her phone at a relatives house celebrating her birthday so she couldn't. Now I don't want to feel like I'm pushing it, especially if she's straight, but she also seems like she's willing to try something else.
Other problem. Her sister. She has a younger sister a bit younger than me who was at the same camp. She's kind of annoying but ok. if I were to go with the one I like to 'catch up' I think she would bring her little sister..
Also she does not know I like girls. I told my family, and other than that it's just don't ask, don't tell.
advice??? thanks in advance<3

[GreenEyez]

Well, being a guy, I can't really comment on this in many aspects, obviously. But to me it seems you're kinda like me (or I used to be, not so much anymore), really enthusiastic and ready to open your heart, which is good btw, never be ashamed of that :) But pls be careful not to get hurt, I mean, you not meeting her for a year, even though you live close kinda says something you at least need to think about :\ And that's not even considering the fact that you like girls and she might not, or if she does, maybe not you (I mean not in that way, as a friend she does, like you said). So um, yeah, just be careful :$ and wishing so so so much luck, I hope it goes well, whatever is gonna happen :)

[Luminous]

thank you.. I agree you are very right, I want to get to know her again, but I'm scared I'm just gonna fall for her more and when I get to a point where I actually ask her out she's gonna be all 'no ew' and it'll hurt even more.

[Ruairi]

You'll never find out unless you ask but I wouldn't just jump straight in and ask her out I would ease the question in and maybe chat with her for a while and ask her if she has ever been with another girl and if she has ever tried anything with another girl or would be willing to in the future and if it turns out that she's straight then you have a good friend and if she's lesbian/bi then you may have a potential girlfriend! I hope this helped and if you have any other questions for me then don't be afraid to ask :)

[CharlieHorse]

here's an idea.
ask her what kinds of guys she likes.

[RCT109]

Hannah,
Take my advice get to know her but here's is the thing put it out there tell her u like girls and let her lead the way from there if she says she's cool with it then inquire about her see if she bi or what not. And then if nothing else tell her how u feel and see how she takes it. Because believe it or not a friend of mine told her current gf who was straight that she liked her and she said she would try a relationship with her and thy was 3 years ago so you never how people will react.
So best of luck,
Shawn

[Luminous]

thanks for the advice I'm gonna try to meet with her, not as a date just to be friends, and ask her what she likes in a guy, and if she would ever consider dating a girl. wish me luck. I would like to do it this week but I would have to take my little brother so hopefullynext week.

[Ruairi]

thanks for the advice I'm gonna try to meet with her, not as a date just to be friends, and ask her what she likes in a guy, and if she would ever consider dating a girl. wish me luck. I would like to do it this week but I would have to take my little brother so hopefullynext week.

Good luck :) Hope you get the answers your looking for!:wub:

[Moondust]

Haha, young lurvvvv <3
You two should go to some place cute and order ice cream( lol, I totally think sweets are romantic, idk, but I would so do that if I liked someone)
Just be yourself, if she says she's just straight, there are tons of awesome girls out there and if she doesn't, then give her a random, unexpected hug( also what I would do...ok, don't do what I would do, she'd probably run screaming) anyways, hope all goes well! ^A^

[Luminous]

thanks for the luck..
and as for the ice cream- there is a little plaza within walking distance from both of our houses, a pizza place, a bbq place, a candy/ice cream store (no seating), a coffee and smoothie shop. a cute little froyoplace, and a barber shop. Lots of options.

[Victory]

Good luck! Let me know if I can help at all. I've been in a situation a lot like that.

[Luminous]

thanks all you are awesome :)

[teen.jpg]

I'd say don't go for it. It's un-needed heartbreak.

[Ruairi]

I'd say don't go for it. It's un-needed heartbreak.

So you would rather sit around for months possibly years wondering What if I just asked.... Setting yourself up for depression if you don't ask! If she does ask then she will know were she stands and know if she has a potential GF or just a good friend!

[teen.jpg]

So you would rather sit around for months possibly years wondering What if I just asked.... Setting yourself up for depression if you don't ask! If she does ask then she will know were she stands and know if she has a potential GF or just a good friend!

That's a very unrealistic cliche. I used to think like that, but you get over people in time. Why waste so much time hung over one person, when there's billions more on this planet?

[Swem]

I would say that you have to make up your mind. Maybe you have, ofcourse that can be but what is it that you want exactly? Like, you'll have to make choices. Looking at both extremes, you either tell her that you have a long time crush on her, or you don't tell het anything. Unless she has a crush on you too, neither of those will come out well probably. But still I think you have to chose whether you tell her or you don't. Not telling her will probably lead to awkward situations because when you have restored contact she will notice that something is different. What I think os best is just to restore friendship, talk frequently and when the trust is there, just tell her because when uour bond is strong it won't suffer from it, and when she is a good friend she will be happy for you and know you better