Any comfort?

[jayyy-lmao]

So as my sig says, I'm bi, but I prefer girls, but I seem to be the only kid around my year who's sure, and the only one who'd kill for a girlfriend. I've been lonely my whole life, I've never had one person who stayed by me, but I've always wanted one friend who would stick, or a boy/girlfriend. When school restarts in September, I intend on going to our school's LGBT club with my best friend/sort of borrowed sister Emma, she's a year older than me and she's bi too (but she has a bf). But I just know everyone will be older than me. No one really understands because Emma isn't out and she's the only person I know who's bi. This is so hard and lonely for me.

[Magenta]

Okay, you're probably going to want to smack me for saying this but: you're 13 and getting a boyfriend or girlfriend that will stay with you is unlikely. I know maybe one friend who has been with the same person for about three years now throughout high school but out of everyone I know? That's a pretty rare occurrence. And a lot of kids your age don't know for sure. I wasn't particularly sure about my sexuality until now.

But LGBT clubs are great to meet other people who may be going through just as confusing and lonely a time as you. Even just to meet friends. The thing about your age group is that friends come and go and as much as you don't want them to, a lot will. I met my best friend when I was 14 and my friend group has gone from like seven or eight of us really close to just the two of us. Because we move on and a lot of us grew apart, are going off to university, dated one another and it didn't work, etc.

If there's one thing I can say about friends though... you'll find that one person eventually and you may not realise it at first. I'm best friends with a girl I never really thought I'd be so close to. :) As a fellow bisexual, if you ever want someone to chat with, you're more than welcome to PM me. I know what you're going through.

[jayyy-lmao]

Okay, you're probably going to want to smack me for saying this but: you're 13 and getting a boyfriend or girlfriend that will stay with you is unlikely. I know maybe one friend who has been with the same person for about three years now throughout high school but out of everyone I know? That's a pretty rare occurrence. And a lot of kids your age don't know for sure. I wasn't particularly sure about my sexuality until now.

But LGBT clubs are great to meet other people who may be going through just as confusing and lonely a time as you. Even just to meet friends. The thing about your age group is that friends come and go and as much as you don't want them to, a lot will. I met my best friend when I was 14 and my friend group has gone from like seven or eight of us really close to just the two of us. Because we move on and a lot of us grew apart, are going off to university, dated one another and it didn't work, etc.

If there's one thing I can say about friends though... you'll find that one person eventually and you may not realise it at first. I'm best friends with a girl I never really thought I'd be so close to. :) As a fellow bisexual, if you ever want someone to chat with, you're more than welcome to PM me. I know what you're going through.

I don't want to smack you. You're right and I agree totally. But I just want to be happy, even if it's only fleeting. I haven't been truly happy in too long. Love seems to make people happy.

[Magenta]

I don't want to smack you. You're right and I agree totally. But I just want to be happy, even if it's only fleeting. I haven't been truly happy in too long. Love seems to make people happy.

That's totally not unreasonable then. :) Love can make people very happy. I say start with the LGBT clubs. You'll find some friends there and it will introduce you into a completely different community. I went to a school that was also part of an LGBT program for students who had been bullied out of previous schools unfortunately. While I was never harassed or teased about liking girls as well as guys, I was the only person I knew who wasn't straight and it did kinda suck. So at this school it was nice because I love all my straight friends dearly but I also got a chance to spend time with people who knew a little more about me from firsthand experience which was pretty neat.

[Moondust]

Girl, love makes people happy only if it's in the one who will stay with you forever. I'm 13 too and biromantic, but even I am not planning on making a life-long partner until I'm at least in collage. Any younger and it becomes a big mess. At 13, we're still just kids. Teens, but young ones. I think that waiting until being older is more respect than anything else, because I know I can't fully give anyone all my love yet because I haven't matured enough.
An LGBT group sounds great for meeting new friends and maybe even ones that will stay your whole life. Love isn't something that cab truly keep you happy until you meet just the right someone. Try doing things that make you happy, like start a new sport, make some friends, start a tv series( I love Sherlock, though once you enter you will probably cry your eyes out when you find you have to wait for another season to come out)
Start subscribing to YouTube channels! If you're into beauty, try Michelle Phan, Bubzbeauty or CutiepieMarzia. If you're into horror, try cinnamontoastken, pewdiepie or Markiplier( warning: only do this if you're not bothered by blood and Gore, since some contain that) If you're into comedy, try nigahiga, thefinebros, hishe or danisnotonfire. These are just examples and there are tons which always brighten my mood when I feel down.
You can start a diary if you don't feel like telling anyone, but you still need to get something off your chest.
Oh, and anime and nightcore( careful, it's addicting :)
You're still just a kid like me, and there's nothing wring with that, but just enjoy the simple things that are awesome about it, like you don't have to cook for yourself( unless you want to) you don't have to get a job and most of all, that there are people who love you, and I hope that will never change no matter how old you get.

[Bazinga]

I know how you feel, I've got social anxiety so I even find it hard to get comfortable with someone as a friend aha. I Agree with Magenta though, its hard to get a good relationship in high school - especially since you're wanting a girlfriend not many people your age will be out and maybe won't even be sure of their sexuality...
I would love someone to be close to or be in a relationship with, but i don't have the courage to come out during high school (If you're out at your age then i envy your confidence aha) and I'm really socially awkward so that's also a problem. You will find someone eventually though - but like people have said you're still young so finding someone can be very tricky :).

[jayyy-lmao]

I know how you feel, I've got social anxiety so I even find it hard to get comfortable with someone as a friend aha. I Agree with Magenta though, its hard to get a good relationship in high school - especially since you're wanting a girlfriend not many people your age will be out and maybe won't even be sure of their sexuality...
I would love someone to be close to or be in a relationship with, but i don't have the courage to come out during high school (If you're out at your age then i envy your confidence aha) and I'm really socially awkward so that's also a problem. You will find someone eventually though - but like people have said you're still young so finding someone can be very tricky :).

I'm a bit awkward too. Until I get comfortable. Then I'm grand. It wasn't courage that drove me to come out, it was just easier. I'd rather make my enemies now than get attached.

[CrazierCaptDice]

It's alright.

We all look for that special someone, but remember, your young, I was like that when I was 12, looking for someone, I learned that, well, it can be utter misery.

Enjoy the single life a bit.
Remember to keep a open mind, that's what I kinda like about bisexuals, gender isn't a problem. It shouldn't be, love is love.
But remember, you have a whole life, it's ok.
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[teen.jpg]

Literally same. It'll work out in time, so don't worry too much about it.