URGENT! PLEASE HELP! School and scars - HELP!!!

[EmptySoul]

So i just tyeod this really long post thing nd took so lognthat ti was out of my account and had to resignin come back to th thread and it never saed :mad:. SO here is a summary of what was meant to come up: (questions ar einbold at the bottom :D)

School starts again on Tuesday, which is two days from now. WHen I go back to school we are wearing the winter uniform which means tights, skirt, collared shirt, jumper (optional, and leavers jacket. We are not allowed to wear any bracelets or jewlery that is not specified in our diaries. Inor mall wear bracelts onth eholidays to hide my scars and cuts on my forearm andwhen i am at shcool i try and hide them behind hairlackies and long tops undr te uniform though at hte moment thhey are becommingeven strricketer on us year 12's as we aer the ';eaders ofhte school' so they always tetll me totake off my hairlackies as they from adistance look like braclets and tell me to pu them in my pocket. My long sleeved tops have gotten me told by a teacher, if ia m going topush up my sleeves that i have to push up the tops sleeves too as it is not school colours but then that means my scars will be shown. I have a habit for pushing my left sleeve up as it is comfrotable to rest my arm like that. However, because the sleeves cuff has been slightly stretched it always just hangs a little loose and so i push it up as it annoys me. I have sport on Friday. we are meant to be doing 1500M so my jumper sleeves will probs be pushed up. What do I say if somebody sees them?

my questions are basically:
1.what do I say if somebody sees my scars and how do I hide them? (makeup wont work as it would look to obvious that it is there)
2. what do I do about sport?
3. my bday is comming up in a few weeks and I am going indoor rockclimbing, would it look weird if I was wearing a long sleeved top when doing it?
4. What can exscuses can I say to deflect or distract somebody if they start to ask questions.

[Rayquaza]

1) You either need to tell the person you're not comfortable with talking about it and hope they get the message. That's realistically the only thing you can do, unless you decide to lie.
2) That's going to be an issue but you can try and get out of it. If your parents know perhaps they can contact the school, or you can refuse to take part.
3) Long sleeve tops are fine for rock climbing, I've worn them before so it's not a big issue.
4) People say it was the cat, they fell over or a sport injury. It depends on the direction and severity of the cuts.

[britishboy]

they are fine for rock climbing and do you still cut? if you have stopped just say it how it us. feel free to message me if you want

[Rayquaza]

they are fine for rock climbing and do you still cut? if you have stopped just say it how it us. feel free to message me if you want

'just say it how it us'

I don't think you realise how difficult it is to admit something like that. I tried to tell my friend and the words physically could not leave my mouth. Every time I tried I just froze - I couldn't say it, and it's likely that the OP can't either.

[britishboy]

'just say it how it us'

I don't think you realise how difficult it is to admit something like that. I tried to tell my friend and the words physically could not leave my mouth. Every time I tried I just froze - I couldn't say it, and it's likely that the OP can't either.

well ive never experienced it but I always believe you should try to at least tell someone, keeping it all bottled up is just getting the self harmer more stressed out

[Rayquaza]

well ive never experienced it

Exactly, coming from someone who has who would also say it's better to tell someone, I know how difficult it is. It's not just something that you can do, self harming makes you feel weak and embarrassed. It's something your ashamed of. That's why the OP wants to find out ways of covering it, not ways of telling everyone.

[winchester]

I would recommend trying something to help them fade.
If someone should notice and say something, you do not have to tell them. You could say that you aren't comfortable talking about it and they would most likely respect that.
As others have already said, long sleeves while rock climbing is completely normal. And happy birthday, whenever that is.

[Ashleigh]

for sport you could wear sweat bands? also if youre the type of person to use it fake tan may help cover them a bit? i always try to change the conversation if someone asks like i ignore when they ask and ask them a totally unrelated question

[EmptySoul]

well ive never experienced it but I always believe you should try to at least tell someone, keeping it all bottled up is just getting the self harmer more stressed out

At school I have two friends who know but I mainly talk to one of them about it. Though he doesn't understand he is able to accpet the fact that I do it despite how much he tells me to talk to the school psych. So I do have people who I can talk to about it its just that if somebody who doesn't know about my SH notices I have a tendancy to just say what I think when they ask as my mind goes blank and my mouth speaks my thoughts without my brain realising it until its too late. a few weeks ago my friend who I know
SH saw my scars and said they looked self inflicted, and I didn't mean to say it ike I did but I ended up just saying "well thats because it it."

Thanks everybody for the advice I really do appreciate it. My scars are fading pretty good, for sort I hopefully can get away with wearing my hairlackies during sport. Thanks again for all the advice. :)

[jayyy-lmao]

my questions are basically:
1.what do I say if somebody sees my scars and how do I hide them? (makeup wont work as it would look to obvious that it is there)
2. what do I do about sport?
3. my bday is comming up in a few weeks and I am going indoor rockclimbing, would it look weird if I was wearing a long sleeved top when doing it?
4. What can exscuses can I say to deflect or distract somebody if they start to ask questions.

1. You either lie, or you say you're not comfortable talking about it.
2. Depends on the sport. If it's soccer, they have long sleeve jerseys. As for trousers, you'll have to wear shorts, probably. Don't worry about it. If you don't make a deal out of it, probably no one will, and if someone asks, just tell them you're uncomfortable.
3. Not at all.
4. If someone says "What are those scars from?" say "I'm not comfortable talking about it" or "An accident that happened a long time ago, when I was a kid" or if you have a dog/cat "The dog/cat did it"