How did coming out go for you?

[Extreme586]

So anyone who came out completely or even just told a few friends, how did things go for you? Are you happy, sad, regretful? What's your life like now?

[Axw_JD]

I am seriously considering suicide so I guess that speaks for itself...

3 people found out / figured it out by themselves and I didn't deny it initially. They took it upon themselves to make my life as miserable as possible for as long as they could.

I told my so-called best fried not too long ago and was initially really happy but I have come to realize he just doesn't care about me whatsoever. For all he cares I could be dead right now, it would be the same for him. He doesn't hate me, and he initially said he would support me, but I am just a door mat for him.

Sorry if it is depressing but its the truth.

[Abyssal Echo]

I can't really say much because story telling isn't allowed here.
I'm completely out. I wasn't happy the way it came out but I don't regret it because now I can be me.

[Harley Quinn]

I have told everyone who is important to me and they have all mostly accepted it. Obviously, there have been a few times where the other person was a bit iffy with it. Like, my mum is still iffy on it but I don't expect her to be fully okay with it. I know she has her beliefs and all that, so I do respect that. Most of the time she forgets I'm even gay, but that's okay. We never talk about it and in some ways I do like that due to the fact I don't really talk to my mum anyways. My dad was the one I was worried about telling, yet he took it better than my mum did. But, yes, my life is better now that I am fully out. I'm even out to everyone at work, that was the easiest one. I just went, hey guys I'm gay carry on with what you're doing now. So now I have workplace banter with everyone. It's great. Since coming out, I know that I am a happier individual.

[LiamC]

My mum, sisters and closest friends know. I just told them basically, when the opportunity arose in some cases or when I couldn't hide it any longer in others. All of them have been supportive, especially two of my friends who are always there when I need. One of my sisters is gay too so she understands. My mum is a bit tactless sometimes but she's fine.

I live with foster parents though and I haven't told them, I'm pretty sure they suspect or know or whatever though. I won't be telling them myself so they'll have to make do with that or if they bump into me in later life when I have a boyfriend :p

[honeybear]

my parents and real good friends knew from early on...as far as people at school everyone pretty much knows I don't make a big production out of it but I don't try to hide it either...I get grief here and there but for the most part ppl are cool about it...maybe it is harder for a guy than a girl :/

[Nomad_X]

For m,e it was mostly a non issue. I have two older brother who are also gay, and a younger brother who is gay also.

I guess I didn't really come out, I just never really hid it. After my older brothers paved the way with the 'rents it was all good.

[jayyy-lmao]

My parents, and all my schoolyear know. One teacher knows, and a few close friends from out of school activities know. And I have to say, I regret nothing. I have never had any homophobic comments directed at me, I've never been picked on or bullied for it, and most of my friends don't mind if I comment of a girl's looks. In fact, I can even talk to some of my friends who are guys about things like Mila Kunis' hotness. It's great.

[Perfectly Flawed]

Everyone was supportive, but my Mom still doesn't understand how someone can be attracted to both genders. She thinks bi people are gay but don't want to admit it to avoid persecution.

[Annonymous1997]

For m,e it was mostly a non issue. I have two older brother who are also gay, and a younger brother who is gay also.

I guess I didn't really come out, I just never really hid it. After my older brothers paved the way with the 'rents it was all good.how many brothers do you have?
and if three, their all gay?

[Troy35216]

I told one person irl and it was a disaster.
the general comments I read here are mostly positive but the comments directed at me specificly are the usual "You could change if you wanted to but you aren't trying hard enuf" and "you are going to burn in hell cuz you are going against the bible" which isn't exactly what i need to hear after the disaster of telling my friend. but at this point i don't even care anymore. a lot of people say they have great experiences from coming out so hopefully it will be like that for you. I have probably told all the people I'm going to tell.

[Sugarrush]

My friends found out, and with a lot of them being bi/pan/demisexual and the others aren't homophobic, they didn't really care, and in fact I got hugged for it. I then told my family, who doesn't really mind. I'm fact, sometimes, one of my sisters sometimes forgets I'm lesbian and starts talking to me about hot guys (the only guy I find attractive is Zachary Quinto), but then she remembers and goes to my other sister.

[Swagamemmnon]

I just posted a facebook status and pretty much everyone I knew was like "Yay congrats good job" and I haven't gotten any trouble for it at all, I'm sort of lucky that I live in a pretty accepting place.

[Nomad_X]

how many brothers do you have?
and if three, their all gay?

I have three brothers. So they, plus me makes four gay male kids for my parents.

[teen.jpg]

I don't think I'm gonna "come out" anymore. If I have a boyfriend, he'll be my boyfriend. I don't feel the need to make a big announcement anymore.

[NikosamA98]

I have three brothers. So they, plus me makes four gay male kids for my parents.

My brother and 2 cousins are gay too. The family only have 2 str8s and they're girls:D

[NikosamA98]

I still haven't come out to everyone. My closest friends, cousins and my brother knows it. It wasn't a big deal and they all supported me, but I know if I tell my parents and family they're gonna kill me :'(

[Annonymous1997]

I have three brothers. So they, plus me makes four gay male kids for my parents.

Not trying to sound awful but is there no straight/Bi siblings in your family? Thats kind of unlucky for your parents

[Nomad_X]

Not trying to sound awful but is there no straight/Bi siblings in your family? Thats kind of unlucky for your parents

I have two sisters. The oldest of all the kids and the youngest of all the kids. Both are heterosexual.

[ElectricStar21]

Told a few friends and they seemed to understand and didn't feel shocked at all, hardly.

[Gifford]

I am seriously considering suicide so I guess that speaks for itself...

3 people found out / figured it out by themselves and I didn't deny it initially. They took it upon themselves to make my life as miserable as possible for as long as they could.

I told my so-called best fried not too long ago and was initially really happy but I have come to realize he just doesn't care about me whatsoever. For all he cares I could be dead right now, it would be the same for him. He doesn't hate me, and he initially said he would support me, but I am just a door mat for him.

Sorry if it is depressing but its the truth.

Wow, man, I'm soooo sorry that was your experience. Mine was very different. All my friends loved me anyway, my family is supportive and I have a great life. I'd love to chat with you and try to cheer you up. I'll be your friend, dude. Hit me up.

I have three brothers. So they, plus me makes four gay male kids for my parents.

I think that's awesome, you all can help each other. It's the most unusual thing I've ever hears, though. What are the odds of that happening?

Have you ever fooled around with any of your brothers? I've read that in many cases where the brothers are relatively close in age they compare, see if anyone got better dick genes than the other and stuff.

Not trying to sound awful but is there no straight/Bi siblings in your family? Thats kind of unlucky for your parents

Depends on how you define "unlucky" or "lucky". It's now about who you love but how you love that person. If you're kind and gentle and loving towards them, have great compassion and are totally committed to your partner, I think that's better than being str8 and in unhealthy relationships.

And how do you treat your parents? If you're gay and treat your parents well and strive to be the best son you can be, that's better than a str8 son treating his parents like shit.

You talk like being str8 is the preferred way and being gay is an aberration, outside the norm. It's not. Being gay is absolutely normal, they have been gays for as long as man has walked the earth. Homosexuality even exists in the animal kingdom. It's as natural as rain or sunshine.

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[Elysium]

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